I know what I have to do, but I have trouble actually following through.

I have good intentions, but never get around to acting on them.

I’m a social worker. I *know* all of the techniques and teach them to others, yet when it comes to my own life I can’t seem to get it together.

Sound familiar?

Those are some of the reasons that clients approach me.

You want to change, but you never make the time to take the steps to make it happen.

You don’t plan your meals, even though you know that’s the secret to eating healthier.”I don’t have time.”

You don’t use your lunch breaks to take a brisk walk, to rev up your productivity in the afternoon. “I just want to relax.”

You don’t want to send your eZine on a regular basis, to consistently build your relationship with potential customers. “I don’t like to bother people.”

You’ve heard all the advice and your brain knows what to do, but you don’t do it. What gives?

You’ve got some mindset blocks and it’s necessary to remove them before you can follow through. And I’m here to warn you that attempting to do it by yourself is frustrating, discouraging and will be in vain.

Because you can’t do it alone.

Powerful people (those who live opening and freely as their authentic self) do the work and find the support. No one actually feels like spending an hour to meal plan, exercise when they’re tired or create the eZine. It almost always feels like work at first, but powerful people do it anyway.

And they’re able to because they have support.

So get honest with your excuses and get to work finding an ally to help you live your authentic life. It’s the best way (and I might say, the only way) because you can’t do it alone.

 If you are tired of doing it alone (and failing miserably) it’s time to get real and get support! I guarantee you’ll have all the support and tools you need to live your authentic life by the time we’re done.

When it comes to life and business, lack of clarity will hold you back from happiness and fulfillment.

You waste time chasing what someone else wants.

You waste money on programs you don’t need.

You waste energy worrying and procrastinating (and then feeling guilty afterward).

It all comes down to a form of self doubt that is completely manageable: Clarity.

I’m a guest expert in a telesummit in a few weeks and I was going over some prep notes for my talk on finding clarity in a frustrating world. I realized how common (and manageable) this challenge is for women and I want this post to help you diagnose and move forward.

First you have to identify that your lack of progress in getting what you want IS lack of clarity. I have 3 signs that immediately remind me it’s time to get back to the basics:

1. I procrastinate. When I’m feeling foggy, I’ll decide I need to repaint the bathroom and then spend 2 days thinking about paint, colour schemes and bathroom decor. Sometimes a break is warranted and a break-through soon follows but if you find yourself focusing on non-goal oriented tasks more than once every few months, you’re procrastinating.
2. I give up. I get so overwhelmed at choices that I think why bother and spend a few hours in a complete, whiny funk. Luckily, I’ve gotten really good a noticing when I slip into overwhelm mode and I reach out for support from my best friend in business! If you get the urge to throw in the towel more than once a week, you’re overwhelmed.
3. I chase every new program, sign up for every single teleseminar and decide that what I REALLY need is to learn more about (^{fill in the blank with latest lifestyle/biz fad)}. This is really common (it’s called Bright Shiny Object Syndrome)  if you’re new to business, or making a niche/brand switch. The internet is a blessing and a curse because SO much information is readily available. If you see your calendar filled with more than 1 teleseminar a week OR if you are on more than 10 eZine lists, Bright Shiny Object syndrome could be your clarity challenge.

Obviously these are fairly subjective signs that you lack clarity, but the underlying theme is serious: without clarity you are wandering aimlessly, unhappily, unsuccessfully through life and then beating yourself up at the end of the day when you’re no closer to your goal. 

Once you’ve dumped the Junk not working, you can easily identify what you want and move forward. It’s pretty easy to just do it, when you know what to do AND why you’re doing it.

If you think you need help dumping the Junk, let me know! I’m here to help (and it’s a painless process, honest). Grab your Dump The Junk & Be Happy ebook to get started.

I realized that due to technology issues, not everyone received the last lesson in my Dump The Junk eCourse! The best way to fix it is to offer it up to all (although it won’t make as much sense if you haven’t completed lessons 1-9).

Here is what you should have received:

Hi again!

This is the last *official* lesson in the Dump The Junk eCourse. (I will
be offering you the chance to sign up for a Live Bonus call on the topic
of living in the moment and all the myths that go along with that).

When it comes to cleansing your life of things that don’t work,
the first step is to realize that IT ISN’T WORKING IN THE FIRST PLACE!

You can’t change a darn thing if you’re in denial. And pretending
everything is fine only makes it harder in the long run.

My favorite indicator that I need a Life Cleanse? Things feel hard.

• Nothing is flowing properly.
• My friends annoy me.
• I feel cr@ppy about my weight/body.
• I dread work (and I’m self employed, so that’s bad!).
• I can’t seem to get anything right, no one seems to respond the
• way I want them to and I feel totally frustrated and ready to throw in the towel.

Usually about the 5th day of this, the light clicks on and I go
back, reassess and purge all of the things (usually just a bunch
of stale thoughts) holding me back.

With a good Life Cleanse under my belt (I’ve done the process so
often, my usually takes less than a day, but the first time it
took months!) I feel better and things start to get easy again.

So, for the final lesson, we actually go back to the beginning.
Recognizing it’s times to dump the junk and bounce back!

————————————————————–
Resilience can be taught!
————————————————————–
Being aware enough to realize that when things get hard, it’s
THE #1 SIGN THAT YOU NEED TO ADJUST!

This lesson (in the form of a radio show I did last spring) will
help you to get over any fear holding you from really cleansing
your life by sharing
–how to make No Fail Decisions
–How to manage fear
–How to bounce back when life gets frustrating!

========================================
Here is the lesson:
If life is hard, you’re doing it wrong!
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Enjoy!
I’ll be letting you know about the Bonus coaching call as soon
as I have all the details finalized.

xoxo
Kim

PS: Had to share this quote:

  Happy people know that regardless of what happened yesterday, last
month, years ago –or what might happen later today, tomorrow or next
year –now is the only place where happiness can actually be found
and experienced.

~ Richard Carlson, “Don’t Sweat the Small Stuff”

Be Happy Now.

After a crazy January and early February, I’m back and ready to get things rolling again!

I’m healthy, happy and on a mission to get you feeling the same way

I use oracle cards/angel cards/affirmation cards whenever I feel stuck or need some comfort. Yesterday, I thought I’d pull an Angel card to see what is up in the general air and I was very surprised to get the “Release” card (Angel Therapy, Doreen Virtue).

So what does it mean?

• If you have questions on what your divine purpose is in life, this card is for you.
• If you have and idea but are scared or intimidated…
• If you feel blocked when trying to move forward…
• If you are struggling with what your purpose is…

Archangel Michael is with you and wants you to hear this message: Your authentic self knows what your mission is and is ready to move forward. This higher self is tuned into the universal flow of support available to you and your purpose. Archangel Michael will help you release anything that is standing in your way.

Action Steps (Taken from Angel Therapy Guidebook)

• Take out two or more sheets of paper and a pen.
• Breathe and relax totally.
• Write at the top on one page: “Archangel Michael, what do I need to release to be fully on my path and purpose?”
• Jot down ANYTHING that comes to mind, even if it feel silly or irrelevant (often those things are priming the deeper ‘stuff’ and are necessary to get to the root).
• Include thoughts, visions, feelings, single words. The pen may even seem to write on it’s own, which is safe because you’re connecting with Archangel Michael. (So you can release that fear, too!)
• Remember, note everything you receive, even if it doesn’t make sense right now.
• When you’re finished (it may take only minutes, or may take a few hours, depending on your patience and how much you need to release) ceremoniously RELEASE it. Destroy your fear and obstacles by burning (in fire safe vessel, like a fireplace) drowning in water, freezing, burying or sending into heaven for God to take care of (by attaching to a helium balloon).
• Declare: “I now fully release anything that is not for my highest good.”
• And so it is!

There you have it. A fantastic, intention based, and spiritual way to dump the junk that is keeping you stuck! It’s also a great way to strengthen your inution and connect with  your authentic self.

Happy Valentines Day! Spend the day focused on love and take time to release what no longer works for you.

xoxo

Kim

PS. Look for a special announcement regarding a Bonus Group Coaching call later this month on living in the moment and all the myths that go with happiness and ‘being in the now.’ I promise this call will enlighten and give you some new options to release what isn’t working!

Happy New Year!

So many things have happened to me in the last 10 days (since I went underground and offline to celebrate Christmas and New Years). I got in touch with my authentic self again. Did a mini life cleanse on my life. Set new priorities.

My husband accepted a new job, in a new city.

We had a serious buyer put an offer on our house BEFORE we even put it on the market. Gotta love real estate agents who are ambitious and know their network marketing!

I’ve spent some time relaxing, reflecting and releasing attachments (especially the one to our first home! This is what allowed it to sell overnight.)

As 2012 is a World Year 5 in Numerology (2+0+1+2=5), and I am now in a Personal Year 5, all of this is to be expected. 5 is a time to release the old-not-working-any-more and move on to new adventures! Because of this, I’m having an Out With The Old Sale to replace my usual 12 Days of Christmas Sale.

January 3 – January 8, 2012 Only

The Master Life Cleanse Home Study Kit 2.1
Save 40% ($547 $328)

Talk about ‘Out with the old!’  The original version, created in 2008, was the exact process I took to go from angry, resentful, over weight and overwhelmed to the happy and peaceful entrepreneur I am now! If you’ve made 2012 resolutions or goals, NOW is the time to do this cleanse.

You’ll learn:

• 7 types of negative people. Plus a bonus section on how to handle spouses, in-laws and business associates that are draining the life from you!
• How to identify the negative scripts and limiting beliefs that are keeping you from being happy. (AKA: The reason you stay in a job you hate and date loser after lose.)
• Why positive thinking isn’t about always being happy, when negative thinking can be helpful (really) and my process that ensure a good day EVERY DAY.
• 2 SIMPLE WORDS that stop the INNER CRITIC in its tracks.
• Why cleaning out your closets will do more than clean up your house.

This process will ensure you clean out the 3 main Life Toxins keeping you stuck: Toxic Relationships, Toxic Thoughts, Toxic Habits. It will also teach you how to set boundaries and priorities, to ensure that the life you create is the life YOU WANT…not the life your mother wants for you, or the life that you think you should have.

This is an eProduct and will be delivered to your email address once you add to cart and fulfill payment. You can learn at your own pace and go back to any lesson, at any time.

Learn MORE or

Use Code: Outwiththeold to save 40%

*** At the end of January 2012, this product is being totally revamped and rejuvenated with new material and a printed version of the Master Life Cleanse Action Guide. The price will also increase substantially. ***

2012 Personalized Numerology Report  & 2012 Monthly Forecast
Save 20% ($97 $77)

Using your full Birthday (Day, Month, Full Year) and your Birth Name and Public Name, I can tell a lot about you. I can almost immediately see where your struggles are, why, and how to overcome them.

 Using the Birthday and Name info you provide, I take a few days to create a specific report for you. I share your Life Path Number, Soul Number, Power Name Number, Birthday Number and your Attitude Number (these 6 numbers are most important). I provide you with what each means, and how it relates to YOU and Your life.

 I then share with you your current Life Stage (there are 4) and what your mission/struggle is.

 I will also provide you with a basic forecast for your Personal Year in 2012 AND your 12 Personal Months. This will help you immensely in your planning!

 Business launches, book launches, divorces, marriages, pregnancy, travel, surgery, business partnership…Find out HOW and WHEN to act to make this a very successful, happy, EASY year for you! (Any time I’ve struggled, it’s been because I acted when the numbers weren’t aligned for me. Sometimes pushing ahead does more harm than good. Don’t learn the hard way!)

Learn More or

PS: *** VERY IMPORTANT*** Remember to include your full Birth Day, Month and Year (time of birth is not used), your Name at Birth AND your Public Name (or name used now) in the Special Instructions section of the order.

 Live Class –2012 Outlook: What’s In Store for 2012!

Jan 19, 2012 at 8pm Eastern (7pm CST, 5pm PST)

Save 50% ($95 $47)

• 60 minute live class and mp3
• PLUS Reports for Your Personal Year Forecast and Life Path Identity when you sign up by Jan 8, 2012 (delivered via email by Jan. 18).

I have found that nothing is as accurate when planning the future, as numerology. Time and time again I’m surprised at how life unfolds precisely as “the numbers” say it will. Pregnancy, career move, house sale…quiet times in business, booming times in business, people I should stay away from, people that will help me grow…ALL of it has been defined in my own personal numerology!

This class will give you an outlook of 2012 and what is in store for the World Year 5, PLUS how that affects each of the 9 Personal Years.

You’ll get a report of your personal year, what to focus on, what to avoid, what is inevitable. Good year to marry? Good year for travel? Or maybe you should stay put, stay single and focus on your career? Is is a karmic year for you? If so, there are certain things you’ll want to do!

Is it a  planning year, a contemplative year or a year where all hell breaks lose?

I’ll share it all with you, as well as how your Personal Year will interact with the World Year.

PS: *** VERY IMPORTANT*** Remember to include your full Birth Day, Month and Year (time of birth is not used), your Name at Birth AND your Public Name (or name used now) in the Special Instructions section of the order.

from Positive Inspirational Quotes (PIQ) on Facebook

I love this and I think it goes nicely with our Dump The Junk in 2012 theme. It’s not about making the toxic relationship ‘bad’ or creating enemies, it’s about setting a boundary for yourself that tells the world and the universe that you deserve to be treated well. You deserve to be valued. That starts by valuing your authentic self.

Don’t forget to sign up for the FREE Dump The Junk eCourse! You can learn more at http://kimberlyenglot.com/dumpthejunkcourse

My theme for 2012, as I announced it a few weeks ago, is ‘Dump The Junk.’ It’s fitting for more than one reason.

Next year in numerology is a World Year 5 (this is very different than a Personal Year), and the theme for Year 5 is releasing what isn’t working to allow for new opportunity to come in. Talk about Dumping The Junk! Depending on your own personal numerology, this might be more difficult for some people.

For example, I am personally entering a Personal Year 5, which is telling me that I can look forward to releasing a lot of stuff that isn’t working, having some adventures a long the way, and ending up in 52 weeks reflecting on and up and down year that was quite successful. I’m not going to give up and cry when things get tough, because I know they will.

World Year 5 might be harder for those of you with Life Path 2, 4 or 6, but if you can see what is coming it makes you feel more prepared and in control. If you are interested in getting your numerology read and having a 2012 Personalized Forecast done, you can learn more at http://kimberlyenglot.com/numerology/. I suggest that you get proactive and Dump The Junk NOW, regardless of the kind of year ahead!

You will naturally feel better, calmer and more in control when you let go of the Junk holding you back. Discover your authentic self, the one that is secretly sparkling under all that anxiety and self limiting behaviour!

Take 15 minutes today, do it right now if you have time, find the things that don’t belong in your life. Make a list, set the intention to do a cleanse, and then get to work!

The following items are ‘Junk’:

1. People who constantly belittle you, make you feel stupid, or tell you that you can’t do something.
2. The thoughts/beliefs that tell you those meanies are right.
3. The activities that you don’t enjoy any more, even if you once loved them.
4. The fear that you’re not good enough or that you’re a burden
5. The Oprah magazines from 2003 that you’re going to get to ‘later’
6. The books on your shelf that you haven’t read, and you feel guilty about that every time you look at them (read them, or donate them.)
7. The j.o.b that barely pays your bills, doesn’t fulfill you, and makes you cry.
8. The ‘Friend’ who only calls you when she wants something.
9. Worrying about things that don’t really matter (or thinking that by worrying, you’re some how preventing it).
10. Anything in your house that you a) don’t use b) don’t love c) don’t want.

It’s easy to get too busy to notice the Junk, but you really don’t want to wake up in 40 years drained and feeling abused. This is in your control. Do something about it!

Let’s start 2012, the World Year of Change, Adventure and Newness, with a fresh, clean and revitalized mind, body and spirit!

Wishing you a wonderful weekend, I’m off to finish the details for a Wine & Tapas Christmas party we’re hosting tomorrow (sparkling juice is on the menu for me )

It started yesterday and runs until December 8th. A revolutionary new look at who we’re being in the world and if we like the person in the mirror.

I used to be as pent up and fake as they come. I was working away at my life To Do list, checking off all the things that I thought would make me happy and working towards a life of resentment, frustration, and stuff!

It wasn’t until I peel back all of the expectations that I’d allowed to build up and dumped the junk covering up my authentic self that I became a happier, healthier person. I had to get raw and real first.

That is what this Virtual Video Summit is about –  peeling back the layers that aren’t you. Getting real with what you want. My video runs today, it will help you to stand in your power when you start to change and others don’t like it!

My friend Catrice Jackson (the hostess and producer of this event), has created a video to tell you more about it.

It won’t cost you a thing, and will set you up for a fresh, new 2012! (Which is what New Years is all about anyway.) Register here for the videos, the expert group discussions, free bonus gifts and exclusive CRAZY deals on products and programs that will REALLY help you Discover Your Authentic Self! Sign Up  Here.

Reflection and NonJudgement

I am a BIG fan of oracle cards. I don’t plan my entire life around them, but I do consult them regularly for comfort, confirmation and insight. My favorite deck is Wisdom of The Hidden Realms by Colette Baron-Reid (which this card is from) and I use it for myself and for clients.

This card is very pertinent. We’re reaching the end of the year and it’s the perfect time to sit back, reflect and decide what to do next.

How is life? Is it how you had mapped it out according to your resolutions 10 months ago? Did you lose those 10 pounds? Did you finish your manuscript? Did you make the effort to spend more quality time with your husband or find the perfect business coach?

Take the time now to assess your life and reflect on your authentic self. What is she calling for? It sounds like a whisper, but it doesn’t go away. She’s saying Hello! Please listen. I’m trying to guide you to happiness. Let me.

The card explains it this way: See yourself in the mirror of your life. The Law of Attraction demonstrates that you ARE what you ATTRACT. Good thought attract good things. Fearful thoughts attract scary things. Change your thoughts, change your life.

Take the time and reassess now.

If you’re interested in an oracle reading and Authentic Self Assessment you can purchase one here.

I hate to say it, but if you don’t like your life (business, relationship, neighbourhood, job….) you are the only one responsible for changing it. That means that you have to do something different, to get different results.

Here is what will happen when you try something different: YOU WILL GET IN YOUR OWN WAY!

Unless you have total, unbiased, non-judgmental support from an outside source to keep your momentum up, your lizard brain will thwart your attempts to change. Watch out for these two lizard brain traits so that you can be aware of them and create a plan to beat them at their own game!

These Two things will stop good intentions EVERY TIME

1) “It’s Not That Bad”

When things get hard, it is so much easier to settle back into the comfortable routine and think to yourself, ‘Well, I don’t really need to lose weight. There are people worse off than me.’ Or ‘You know, I don’t really want to run a marathon, that’s just something on everyone’s bucket list.’

And that gives you automatic permission NOT to change a thing…because you’re already gloriously happy, just as you are.

Except you’re not. It’s your brain tricking you into think that you are.

I’m not arguing against being happy where you are, totally the opposite! If you are truly, 100% happy at your current weight, fitness level and musical ability then you do not need to change a thing. But don’t fake it and use it as an excuse to remain the same, because that definitely won’t make you happy.

If you are crying yourself to sleep, struggling to get up every morning to go to a job you hate, fighting with your spouse more than you’re cuddling…it IS that bad. Time to try something new.

2) Inertia: what got you here will not get you there.

I just love this graphic. It sums everything up perfectly!

I know that most people think there is an innate drive for success and happiness. This is a total lie. There is only an innate drive for ‘more of the same.’ It’s a matter of high school physics: An object in motion remains in motion unless another object interjects.

You will not lose 10 lbs or learn to play the violin by thinking about how much you want it. You have to fight the inertia and take action. The same is true with every goal.

If you want to make more money, you have to do something different.

If you want a better relationship with your spouse you have to do something different.

If you want a beautiful, organized home you must do something different!

What got you here, will not get you there.

You have to take purposeful, strategic action to change your life.

If you are looking to stop the insanity and try something different and get total support to help you achieve your results (like write a book, lose 10 lbs, forgive your sister) then you’re in luck because I can help! Learn more about my coaching options here. Or at the very least, do something different and grab my FREE eBook: Dump the Junk and Be Happy! on the right hand side of this page