Who’s in Control Around Here? (Hint: It Should Be You!)

Do you think you’re not in control of your life? Think again. Rebecca Rosen reveals why you have the power to co-create your destiny. 
In last month’s article, we explored how to determine your dominant intuitive senses as well as the different ways intuition and spirit speak to you in your everyday life. But now you may be wondering why it’s important to be intuitively connected and spiritually awake.

Over the years, spirit has taught me that we each come into life with certain lessons to learn in order to spiritually grow and evolve. Before we are born into our physical bodies—and with the help of our spirit guides—we draw up a loose script, or blueprint, for our lives. The script is based on lessons we failed to learn the last time we were incarnated—yes, I am referring to reincarnation—and those we are meant to learn this time around.

While these particular predetermined events, encounters and lessons are bound to show up along our journey, it’s ultimately up to us what we choose to do with them once they appear. Meaning, the future is not set in stone! We have the power—through our choices and free will—to help direct, shift and shape our futures, acting as co-creators with God, the source and the universe.

As Elisabeth Kubler-Ross so eloquently put it: “Mankind’s greatest gift, also its greatest curse, is that we have free choice. We can make our choices built from love or from fear.”

We can say yes to life, embracing all that is showing up with an open heart and mind, while holding the intention to resolve, learn and grow from our experiences. When we do this, we pass the tests and grow spiritually. But when we’re in a disconnected state, we may act from our lower selves and fear. In doing so, we fail to learn the lessons life is currently presenting, which is what many of us do from time to time. And when we do, similar struggles will continuously to pop up in different ways until we get it right.

Strengthen your connection with your intuition

Many of us have fallen into the trap of listening to and being guided by our minds (ego) more than our hearts (intuition). When we are predominantly ruled by our ego, we tend to operate from fear, doubt, judgment, anger, jealousy, impatience and anxiety. When we’re feeling disconnected, dissatisfied and alone, it’s usually because we’re not striking a balance between our ego (mind) and our intuitive voice (heart).

On the other hand, when we are spiritually aligned with our authentic selves, operating from our hearts and in tune with our higher selves’ knowing or intuition, we tend to make better choices. And when we make choices based in love, we incur more positive and less negative karma.

Karma is simply the process of cause and effect. If you do A, B will happen. Karma (the law of cause and effect) is essentially the same thing as the law of attraction: that which is like is drawn. When we continuously put negative energy out into the universe through our thoughts, feelings, words and actions, we attract more of that negative stuff back into our lives. The reverse holds true as well. Every day I hear the same message relayed from the other side: Everything we think, say and do follows us when we die. Therefore, it’s in our best interest to be fully accountable for all of our thoughts, words and actions and strive to come from a place of love.

Once we realize all situations in our lives—the positive and the negative—are a result of our decisions, actions, inactions and reactions, we can feel empowered and inspired, knowing we do actually have a say in what happens to us.

To top that off, I’d like to remind you that it’s never too late to re-create. Many of us have regrets about past situations we wish we could undo. And while we can’t change the past, we are given what I call opportunities to redo. And how do we ensure a better future outcome? We start by “shushing” our ego and allowing our intuition to guide us.

Connecting with your intuition begins with quieting your mind through meditation. To help you get started, I will leave you with a simple breathing exercise found in Chapter 1 of Spirited: Connect to the Guides All Around You.This exercise helps me get into a more receptive state of mind for both my personal and professional spiritual work, as the breath connects us with spirit. I encourage you to experiment with it as a way to reconnect with your inner being and spiritual wisdom.

Try Rebecca’s breathing exercise

What you’ll need: Five undisturbed minutes. Choose a quiet place where you feel comfortable. For example, sit in the backyard or in a park (or on a bus stop bench, if that’s all you have). It doesn’t matter where you are, as long as it’s an environment that puts you at ease.

Close your eyes and begin to breathe deeply. After a few deep breaths, focus on clearing out your “icky” energy. Take a minute and ask any negative energy that’s hanging around to hit the road. Continue to breathe. Notice your breath start to slow down and become a steady flow of inhales and exhales.

Breathe.

For the next five minutes, try quieting your mind chatter. Stop thinking about what you’re going to do as soon as this exercise is over, how you’re going to meet your work deadlines or what you’re going to make for dinner. Release thoughts about yesterday or last week or last year. The goal here is to stop thinking about the past or the future and to learn what it feels like to be present.

Breathe.

Let your worries and anxiety drift away.

Sit in this place of stillness for as long as feels right for you.

Rebecca Rosen has served as a bridge between this world and those who have crossed over to the other side for the past 10 years. Her work has led to many guest appearances, including Entertainment Tonight, The Rachael Ray Show and Nightline, and her first book, Spirited: Connect to the Guides All Around You (HarperCollins). Due to the high and growing demand for spiritual truth, she has committed herself full time to serving as a medium and also educates thousands of people around the country with her seminars, lectures and workshops. Learn more about Rebecca by visiting her website.