It’s IAWBO’s Birthday! But YOU get the gifts
I’m so excited to share this with you! As you know, I LOVE Gina Bell! She has helped me through some major mindset issues with my own business, and is my fab co-pilot for my Master LIFE Cleanse program!
And now she’s gone and done something insane…so insane, I really had to be a part of it!
You’ve got to see the Virtual Birthday Gift Bag that is available through the International Association of Women in Business Online (IAWBO) 
More than 30 successful women (including me) have contributed their wisdom to this complimentary gift bag devoted to supporting – and accelerating – the success of women in business online like you.
And it’s SO much more than your average “give-away”…
Each item in the gift bag is an EXCLUSIVE resource not available for-free anywhere else and also includes access to a special interview series that will unfold on IAWBO’s blog… the How Does She Do It? 2.0 series. You’ve watched and you’ve wondered. Now you can KNOW what these women do to achieve MEGA success.
And, you’ll really appreciate this too…
You’ll get immediate access to all 30 gifts with just ONE opt-in! (You do not have to subscribe to any other list – unless you want to). No more having to sign up for 100 people’s ezines to get a crappy (pardon my French) freebie you can get anywhere. This is HIGH quality stuff!
Hurry — the virtual gift bag is valued over $1000 and is only available for a short time. You can see ALL the fantastic gifts included inside at IAWBO How 2010!
Kim
P.S. Once you register for your gift bag PAY VERY CLOSE ATTENTION to the thank you page where you’ll discover the MEGA secret we’ve been keeping. You’ve really got to see it to believe it!
The Only Person Holding YOU back…is you: 3 ways you get in your own way.
It sounds really harsh and shocking, and I want it to be that way. You are the person who is holding you back. There might be others contributing to the problem, but when it comes right down to it, you’re the one who lets them.
- You replace your instincts with someone else’s advice, and/or worry about what other people think. Bad, Bad, Bad idea! This is a case where fear is good…in the form of your intuition telling you not to listen. If you are constantly looking for outward advice/approval then you have lost your authentic voice! You are holding yourself back by not having confidence in yourself. This is simple enough to remedy. Start with baby steps. Say no (when you really want to). Listen to your body (it reacts physically when something feels off) and get back to the basics (look back at your life and count your blessing and all the things you have already accomplished!)
This is your life, you know how to run it! You don’t need someone else’s permission. - You are too attached to your “but” and have too many excuses.
One of my favorite saying is, “Get off your but!” That is, look at the excuses you’re using to hold yourself back. Easy to identify by the standard…”I’d love to do __________, BUT___________.” There is a well known theory out there: if you are hungry enough for something you’ll do what it takes to get it (no matter what the cost). I’m not saying that you should go about things in an unethical, illegal or immoral way, but check your “but” next time. Then ask yourself, is this but a true CAN’T or a WON’T. There is a huge difference. Won’t is very empowering. I means that this is something that you won’t do for whatever reason, and stating it makes you realize how often the can’t is actually a won’t. Give yourself permission to say, “I WON’T exercise tonight because CSI is on,” and you’ll be so much closer to living your truth! - You are focusing on the wrong things. Have you taken time to figure your goals “from the inside out?”
That is where true happiness lies! I wrote a blog on it recently. Think about this scenario (it makes your priorities very clear): if there were a fire or flood and I had 5 minutes to get out (or die) what would I make sure went with me? Most people say they’d grab their kids, pets, photo’s, maybe the odd heirloom. You aren’t going to be worrying about the Volvo or your designer purse. Looking at the inside-out perspective you can see that your family takes precedence over “things”…but are you living that way? You can say, “But I want money FOR my family. So they can have everything they want: nice clothes, iPods, travel.” But I bet, they’d rather see more of YOU then any of those things! Are you holding yourself back from happiness and wealth because your definition of happiness and wealth doesn’t actually ring true to you?
Think about those 3 ways. What is your true definition of success? What kind of excuses are you using, and how are they preventing you from living your authentic life? How are you letting someone else run the show called Your Life? Answer those questions and you will be light years ahead of the average person, who is content complaining about how things are, without actually doing anything to change them! You can also learn more way you are holding yourself back, and how to stop NOW, by becoming a Premium Member and joining us for the live call on Monday!
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Do positive thinkers need to grow up and get real?
I had an outstanding day yesterday. One of the many things that made me so happy:
I bought a new printer a few days ago, and had to take it back. When I took it back to exchange it for one that didn’t jam up every time I tried to print, I actually was given money back. Yep, the printer had since gone on sale and I exchanged it for a new one, plus they gave me money in return! I felt so much better after 2 days of a stupid printer that didn’t work. NOTICE, that is all about my perspective on that outcome? (I could have been angry, yelled at the customer service agent, demanded my money back, went to another store and purchased a similar printer for more money. That is probably how I would have acted a few years ago.)
So, I had a good day. This morning I woke up to find someone had commented on one of my blog posts…YAY! I thought, I am uplifted whenever anyone takes the time to comment. But this was a TROLL. Yikes. Yuck. Ick. 
I sent the comment to the trash because I don’t need anyone smearing ME with THEIR “junk” but basically I was told that I was naive and “to grow up.” (The issue was a post I wrote about the power of positive, group thinking, comparing it to a Criss Angel episode I watched 6 months ago).
In the last 2 or 3 years I have discovered that (GASP) I feel better, happier, safer, freer when I believe that positive forces rule/fuel the world. I am happier when I CHOOSE to see the positive aspects of my life, and the examples in it. Do I believe everything anyone tells me? No. I am the first to check out www.Snopes.comwhenever I’m sent a crazy email. Do I believe everything that Criss Angel (a paid illusionist) does is pure and real? No, but at that point in my life I was searching for a sign, and I think I got one. Does that make me naive? Maybe in some people’s eyes.
I the end I am happy and my family is happy. What else matters? I am going to continue choosing to absorb the positive vibes of those around me, and deflect the negative ones. There is enough “junk” in this world, and I have my own to deal with, I don’t need yours! (And you don’t need mine).
I’m Not living up to my full potential!
Byron Katie is a very loving soul, can’t you just feel it?
In this video, she helps a man through some self-sabotaging beliefs and I have a feeling that he’s not the only one who’s ever worried about this!
Byron Katie–I’m too fat
A friend of mine shared these videos a couple of months ago and I resonated so strongly with them that I knew I had to share with you. Of course I forgot about them until recently when I realized that they were a perfect fit for my upcoming Happiness & Self Premium Membership call (these videos also go very nicely with several topics in my “Letting Go” Premium Series, starting in August.) I invite you to join us as we discuss self esteem, self love and self discovery on July 19! Learn more at http://kimberlyenglot.com/being-the-perfect-sized-you/
Talk about getting it…You are the perfect sized YOU!!!
If you are unhappy regarding your own physical appearance, take the time to watch these videos! Take to heart what Katie has to say. (Part 2 is my favorite–“You’re not too fat to be you…and in a perfect Universe, someone has to be you!” Love it!!!– but make sure you watch Part 1 first or it won’t make as much sense)
Byron Katie: I’m too fat. Parts 1 & 2
Let It Go…
Based on feedback I got from my latest How Can I Help You? survey, I’ve created the next series for the Premium Membership calls (view previous call topics here)! I noticed a lot of people are struggling with fear and being weighed down (figuratively and literally). Most wanted more information on being happy with their bodies, as well as letting go of being afraid of what other people think….so to combat those predicaments, I’m creating the Let It Go series! 
Release yourself from the prison of:
- Worrying about what other people think of you (learn that it’s none of your business)
- Believing what your inner critic is yelling, (don’t believe everything you think)
- Needing utter perfection in your life so that you can continue the facade of happiness (no Martha Stewart’s allowed)
More details will come in the coming months, but starting in August 2010, Premium Members are guaranteed to learn how to let the junk go! See the basics below.
4 Part Series: Let It Go!
- … What other’s think. How to stop caring and start living!
- … Excess weight. How to finally be happy where you are, and watch the weight fall off as a “side-effect”!
- …“Emotional baggage.” How to release the “junk” you’ve accumulated from past heart-ache, disappointment and failure.
- … Perfection. When and where “good enough” is good enough!
If you’re interested in ANY of the topics above and need information you can quickly and easily apply to your own life, make sure you stop by the Premium Membership page and check out exactly what Premium Membership means for you and how you can join us for less than a fast-food meal each month! (Hurry so you don’t miss out on that Charter Members pricing, the monthly fee WILL GO UP).
What the worst day of my life taught me
A few years ago I had one of those lightening-strike moments. Except it came in a very quiet, very unusual place.
I came home after a terrible week at my job. My feet hurt, my head hurt and I was ready to lash out at the first person to cross me (likely my poor husband). And then I felt the little energy that was left in my body be sucked right out of me as I walked in the back door of my house.
Dishes left over from last night, laundry to be folded and dust everywhere. Socks on the living room floor and mail strewn all over the dining room table. I was deflated and didn’t know whether to cry or scream.
Usually this would be the time when I broke down and allowed myself (and my inner critic) to throw a tantrum. ..
But for some reason, I didn’t. This was one of THOSE days, the days that feel like the worst days of your life and I would have had plenty of reason to allow the clutter to suck me into a drama-filled sulk.
Except I didn’t. I choose to try something new, and it worked!
I decided to just do it. I took one look at that big ugly mess and I decided to fix without complaint. I don’t know what happened, but I thought to myself, “Crying won’t clean my house.”
I decided to just do it FOR ME. I then looked around and thought, I could just go to bed and not worry about this mess. But it will be there looking at me in the morning. And who wants to start there weekend off like that? Not me!
I decided I deserved better. I said to myself, “Kim, you deserve to wake up to a clean house, fresh laundry and an empty sink. You deserve to enjoy your Saturday morning with coffee on the patio.
I decided I can handle anything. I started in the kitchen (it wasn’t that bad. Nothing 15 minutes couldn’t cure). I moved to fold laundry while I watched TV (kill 2 birds with one stones…no actual birds were harmed). I then quickly swept up the floor and dusted the TV. My entire cleaning took about 60 minutes. And I saved myself: a mental breakdown, a wasted Friday night, a fight with my husband, a terrible nights sleep and an angry Saturday (and wicked weekend!). All because of 60 minutes worth of clutter that I cleaned.
It wasn’t the physical clutter that had me down. Well, it was, but it was actually the mental “stuff” that was causing the anguish. The stuff I was telling myself and the victim story I was tempted to fall into. This is a perfect example to demonstrate to you HOW mental and physical clutter are so tied and how they can take over your life (or not) if you let it.
Whether its a forced clear (like with me) or just a intuitive nudge, you know if you have too much…you know if your life if full but not fulfilling because you can feel it.
- You feel overwhelmed, stressed and run down. There is never enough time for you!
- You worry a lot (or feel guilty) about your kids, your job, bills
- You dread certain tasks, so you put them off (like cleaning out the garage or taking in the recycling) and so it never gets done, which makes you feel worse.
If you are experiencing any of those “symptoms” it’s time for a Mini Cleanse!!! Specifically, clearing out the junk…the life clutter! (Get Life Clutter Package NOW)
You know what I mean, don’t you always feel better after you finish a task that you’ve been putting off? Aren’t you relieved after you give your house a good scrub? Don’t you feel better when you clear your schedule for the day and send the kids on a play date? (And if you don’t know the feeling I’m talking about you REALLY need to Clear your Life Clutter!!!!). Cleanse your mental and physical life and see what a HUGE difference it makes!
This “mini makeover” is taken DIRECTLY from my Master Life Cleanse program that wrapped up in May. So it’s fresh and new and waiting for you! You can learn all about the entire Master Life Cleanse at http://themasterlifecleanse.com
You will learn:
- my exact mantra for getting the dishes done, (when I really want to throw at tantrum and just go to bed) WITHOUT drama or fighting.
- why your physical clutter is just the tip of the iceberg, and how it is majorly holding you back, PLUS how to INSTANTLY clear your mental clutter
- how to save yourself time and money! This is my best-kept secret and really easy to follow. Do you know what it is?
You get my Master Life Cleanse action guide (which covers ALL of the Life Cleanse topics) AND the mp3 for the Life Clutter teleseminar, which goes really deep into what life clutter is, how it’s preventing you from moving ANYWHERE, and exactly what to do to free up your time, energy and money (without draining your wallet).
Life Clutter Package OR Until JUNE 28th I’m offering a Life Clutter Package 3-pay. Get the Mini-Makeover for only $25 for 3 months.
I just want you to know that you’re not alone AND that you can take care of this and feel light and free again! Go into your summer 25lb lighter, mentally, so you can enjoy the time with your kids and so you can spend it outside instead of inside searching for the bills you need to pay.
You won’t regret it!
Love & Light,
Kim
PS: Already have the Action Guide? Just want the mp3? Get it here.
PPS: REMEMBER, you only have until June 28th to take advantage of the 3-pay option! Don’t wait (because the longer you wait, the MORE the clutter will build up). Life Clutter Package 3-pay.
PPPS: You can learn all about the entire Master Life Cleanse at http://themasterlifecleanse.com
Use your powers for good
Guilt.
It’s a dirty word in my realm, and for the last few years I rarely let it enter my experience. I don’t feel guilty about saying no (or saying yes, to the odd guilty pleasure). I don’t feel guilty about doing something I love, and I don’t feel guilty about taking “me time” when I need it.
I’m not perfect, but for the most part, I’ve eliminated guilt in every area of my life.
There is a lot of guilt around getting rid of guilt! I address this deeper in my Master Life Cleanse program, but essential we treat guilt as the price we pay for doing what we want.
Which brings me to my main point of this blog post:
You cannot possibly feel bad enough (or guilty enough) for someone else, to make THEM happy in the long term. Others do not grow because you shrink.
An example is the best way to illustrate my point. I have a client who makes a lot of money doing what she loves, and she feels guilty! She feels guilty that there are people out there without jobs, and guilty that she has a lot of material things, while others have very few. She even feels guilty about feeling guilty because she knows it’s a waste of time! To combat this guilt, I showed her that her feeling guilty did nothing to improve the circumstances of her friends and family, and a light-bulb turned on for her.
She “got it,” and realized that she could improve their lives by living hers to the fullest and being happy!
A funny thing happens when you’re happy (and you release guilt)…people want to know why. They gravitate towards you because you are nice to be around, and they start to feel better.
You are no good to anyone playing small, or not living your life to the fullest. Use your powers for good, don’t stunt them.
A favorite saying of mine:
“Better to light a candle, than curse the darkness”
The Launch of Authentic Self Expressions…TV
Season 1, Episode 1
DUMP THE JUNK! Yes, I’m yelling there, but only because I’m excited. This is the perfect time to launch a new avenue in my business…a “TV” show. It’s the video version of my podcast and you’ll find weekly webisodes here, from me.
I’m still working the bugs out…software wasn’t cooperating for me, so it cuts off weirdly at the end. This just wasn’t enough for me to say, “screw it” and scrap the episode though so you’ll just have to deal with that little snafu!
HOW I dump the junk…and be happy
I have been talking A LOT about the importance “dumping the Junk” lately. Some of it has to do with the end of the Master LIFE Cleanse program, I always feel refreshed after teaching that course.
Part of it has to do with the need I see out there…people’s lives are still filled with JUNK! So I feel a personal responsibility to share my experiences with others. (Enter the Dump The Junk eBook, which is FREE, so you have no reason NOT to grab a copy, devour it and live it.)
In my Authentic Self Book Club meeting on Wednesday, one of the participants asked me how I was able to not let negative circumstances get to me. The short version of my answer is this:
I just don’t experience the negative in the same way that I used to. I’ve dumped the Junk, and become less magnetic to negative stuff (aka: Junk — sarcastic, angry people; guilt; anger; self doubt; debt). I just don’t physically or emotionally attract the stuff anymore.
Not that my life is perfect. Far from it! But I am living and experiencing a different life than I was 3 years ago. And it all stems from the effort I’ve been putting in to change how I am feeling and what I’m attracting. It takes effort, but done right, it feels effortless.
I’m not going to share how I Dumped MY Junk in this post, you can grab the free book for that, but I am going to share with you 3 of my favorite “happiness vibes” exercises.
These are the systems that I use to pull myself out of a funk when I notice I’m falling into one. And with time, I’ve managed to go from “flabby thinking” and letting my thoughts control my emotions with out my awareness, to being fit and fabulous! (Vibrationally, at least). These are the ways I did it.
Focus Wheel. This is an Abraham-Hicks Process and I’ve talked about it before. It’s just a wheel, with what I want in the center. I get “on” the wheel but stating a true, yet positive statement that feels good. After I get the first one (it’s the most difficult) the LoA takes care of the rest, flooding my system with more positive and true thoughts. By the time I’ve filled out the entire wheel, I am very close to feeling like I’ve already accomplished my goal in the center. And that puts me “into the vortex” to attract what I want, quicker and without a lot of effort.
The Wheel on the right is a quick example I created. It should give you the basic idea to help you get started with your own. NOTE: Do not put anything on the wheel that doesn’t make you feel good! Only positive thoughts are allowed.- Gratitudes (specific). After I’ve completed the Focus Wheel, I spend time coming up with 10 things that I am grateful for, specific to whatever I placed in the center of my wheel. (Example, if my Focus Wheel is all about feeling good and looking fit, I’d do 10 Gratitudes on how I already feel like a “thin” person).
- Rampage of Appreciation. After the the Gratitudes I do another Abe-Hicks Process. I sit and I just appreciate everything around me. This is like a broad Gratitude list. I appreciate the sun shining and my healthy, fat cat. I love the sweater I’m wearing, it feels so good, and the computer I’m writing at. I love the people I’ve come across and the paint on my walls. Love everything, but be honest. You’ll create a lot of dissonance (resistance) if you try to fake this.
Those are my Secret Weapons to happiness. And I do them daily. Get into a habit of setting aside 20 minutes each day to do the same and see how it becomes a habit to feel good…and see how you become less attractive to the Junk in life!
For those of you who are eZine subscribers, you already have my Dump The Junk & Be Happy eBook. Everyone else, you can get it here.
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