People seem to think it’s really hard.

Or that it requires practice, or time, or some kind of spiritual awakening.

And that irritates me a little…just enough to write this post to let you know that you can be happy RIGHT NOW–that you can start living an extraordinary, authentic, purpose-filled life RIGHT NOW!

It only requires a few simple things:

1. Keep your promises: Don’t make promises you can’t keep. Don’t sign contracts you don’t intend to fulfill. Don’t take appointments that you will cancel and don’t waste other people’s time on a whim, it demonstrates lack of respect for yourself AND the other party. If you say you are going to be available to help your best friend with her wedding invites, be there (and show up on time.) If you say you are ready to work with a coach and you make the commitment, show up fully. Just do it. You’ll feel better and you will strengthen your authentic self…the one who walks her talk!
2. Pay your bills on time. Like I said, simple. You’d be surprised how many people don’t do this. Stop spending your money on stuff to fill the void in your life while letting the bills pile up and causing Life Clutter (JUNK!) to make you feel bad. Just stop. (Also see Tip #1 for Why This Works!)
3. Listen to your heart, not the Inner Critic. I know this one isn’t a concrete as the first 2, but it’s equally important. You don’t have to believe every thought you think. Just because you’ve always believed you suck at math doesn’t mean you do…it’s quite possible that you’re great at it, but one bad quiz (and a mean first grade teacher) has labelled you a failure. Think you are too old to start a business or go back to school? Think that things will never get better? That’s your Inner Critic and if you learn to tune out those mean stories and concentrate on what your heart says, I guarantee you’ll feel better. Start now. 

If you need a bit of proof or inspiration that you can dust off your authentic self and live a happier life make sure you grab your free copy of my Dump The Junk & Be Happy eBook. It’s just in the right hand column, next to this post and it has real life stories of how 10 successful women did just that. Grab a copy now. Just do it!

After a crazy January and early February, I’m back and ready to get things rolling again!

I’m healthy, happy and on a mission to get you feeling the same way

I use oracle cards/angel cards/affirmation cards whenever I feel stuck or need some comfort. Yesterday, I thought I’d pull an Angel card to see what is up in the general air and I was very surprised to get the “Release” card (Angel Therapy, Doreen Virtue).

So what does it mean?

• If you have questions on what your divine purpose is in life, this card is for you.
• If you have and idea but are scared or intimidated…
• If you feel blocked when trying to move forward…
• If you are struggling with what your purpose is…

Archangel Michael is with you and wants you to hear this message: Your authentic self knows what your mission is and is ready to move forward. This higher self is tuned into the universal flow of support available to you and your purpose. Archangel Michael will help you release anything that is standing in your way.

Action Steps (Taken from Angel Therapy Guidebook)

• Take out two or more sheets of paper and a pen.
• Breathe and relax totally.
• Write at the top on one page: “Archangel Michael, what do I need to release to be fully on my path and purpose?”
• Jot down ANYTHING that comes to mind, even if it feel silly or irrelevant (often those things are priming the deeper ‘stuff’ and are necessary to get to the root).
• Include thoughts, visions, feelings, single words. The pen may even seem to write on it’s own, which is safe because you’re connecting with Archangel Michael. (So you can release that fear, too!)
• Remember, note everything you receive, even if it doesn’t make sense right now.
• When you’re finished (it may take only minutes, or may take a few hours, depending on your patience and how much you need to release) ceremoniously RELEASE it. Destroy your fear and obstacles by burning (in fire safe vessel, like a fireplace) drowning in water, freezing, burying or sending into heaven for God to take care of (by attaching to a helium balloon).
• Declare: “I now fully release anything that is not for my highest good.”
• And so it is!

There you have it. A fantastic, intention based, and spiritual way to dump the junk that is keeping you stuck! It’s also a great way to strengthen your inution and connect with  your authentic self.

Happy Valentines Day! Spend the day focused on love and take time to release what no longer works for you.

xoxo

Kim

PS. Look for a special announcement regarding a Bonus Group Coaching call later this month on living in the moment and all the myths that go with happiness and ‘being in the now.’ I promise this call will enlighten and give you some new options to release what isn’t working!

from Positive Inspirational Quotes (PIQ) on Facebook

I love this and I think it goes nicely with our Dump The Junk in 2012 theme. It’s not about making the toxic relationship ‘bad’ or creating enemies, it’s about setting a boundary for yourself that tells the world and the universe that you deserve to be treated well. You deserve to be valued. That starts by valuing your authentic self.

Don’t forget to sign up for the FREE Dump The Junk eCourse! You can learn more at http://kimberlyenglot.com/dumpthejunkcourse

I hate to say it, but if you don’t like your life (business, relationship, neighbourhood, job….) you are the only one responsible for changing it. That means that you have to do something different, to get different results.

Here is what will happen when you try something different: YOU WILL GET IN YOUR OWN WAY!

Unless you have total, unbiased, non-judgmental support from an outside source to keep your momentum up, your lizard brain will thwart your attempts to change. Watch out for these two lizard brain traits so that you can be aware of them and create a plan to beat them at their own game!

These Two things will stop good intentions EVERY TIME

1) “It’s Not That Bad”

When things get hard, it is so much easier to settle back into the comfortable routine and think to yourself, ‘Well, I don’t really need to lose weight. There are people worse off than me.’ Or ‘You know, I don’t really want to run a marathon, that’s just something on everyone’s bucket list.’

And that gives you automatic permission NOT to change a thing…because you’re already gloriously happy, just as you are.

Except you’re not. It’s your brain tricking you into think that you are.

I’m not arguing against being happy where you are, totally the opposite! If you are truly, 100% happy at your current weight, fitness level and musical ability then you do not need to change a thing. But don’t fake it and use it as an excuse to remain the same, because that definitely won’t make you happy.

If you are crying yourself to sleep, struggling to get up every morning to go to a job you hate, fighting with your spouse more than you’re cuddling…it IS that bad. Time to try something new.

2) Inertia: what got you here will not get you there.

I just love this graphic. It sums everything up perfectly!

I know that most people think there is an innate drive for success and happiness. This is a total lie. There is only an innate drive for ‘more of the same.’ It’s a matter of high school physics: An object in motion remains in motion unless another object interjects.

You will not lose 10 lbs or learn to play the violin by thinking about how much you want it. You have to fight the inertia and take action. The same is true with every goal.

If you want to make more money, you have to do something different.

If you want a better relationship with your spouse you have to do something different.

If you want a beautiful, organized home you must do something different!

What got you here, will not get you there.

You have to take purposeful, strategic action to change your life.

If you are looking to stop the insanity and try something different and get total support to help you achieve your results (like write a book, lose 10 lbs, forgive your sister) then you’re in luck because I can help! Learn more about my coaching options here. Or at the very least, do something different and grab my FREE eBook: Dump the Junk and Be Happy! on the right hand side of this page

In this video I talk about the 2 mindsets that hold you back, even when you  REALLY, REALLY want to change something.

And, I share the EASY 2-STEP PROCESS to change it. It really is easy!

If you like it, let me know that you think and share it.

If you don’t, explain…I love to hear your voices!

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• The exact thoughts and actions that create a rewarding freedom-rich business

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Good morning lovely readers!

I’ve been waiting for this day for months and it’s finally here. It’s like waiting for Christmas morning (I love that feeling) and I can now officially reveal my FREE Limited Edition follow up to Dump The Junk & Be Happy:

Dump The Junk & Be Happy: Biz, Career, Money!

It was written by me and 11 other successful women in business. We realized that you need to switch your mindset if you’re going to create a business that actually makes money (so may business owners give up because it’s just too hard, and heart-breaking). This book is all about mastering your mindset, releasing what doesn’t work (like self doubt, needing everyone to like you, fear, worry, lack mentality) and how to do it to ensure that you create a life and a business that fits YOU and makes you happy.

This is your life!

Learn more and get this FREE eBook before it disappears…yes, it really is a Limited Edition!

Go to http://kimberlyenglot.com/dumpthejunk to grab your copy.

Positive emotions attract abundance. The happier you are, the more things you find to be happy about. The same goes for money — the better you feel about money (or your business or job) the more opportunities you’ll notice.

Negative emotions are destructive. They flood your body with stress hormones, which make you sick, cause cancer, heart disease and high blood pressure. When stressed, you’re more likely to smoke, drink, eat poorly and NOT exercise. This causes you to feel worse, and the cycle continues. Dump the Junk already.

To break the habit of negative thinking (especially with something like money) you must first notice that you have a lot of “Junk” around it. Notice how stressed you become when you swipe your card buying milk, praying it won’t be declined.

Notice how all your fights with your spouse are about money.

Notice how you will do anything to ensure that your daughter has the best clothes, and you haven’t purchased anything since 2003.

Notice how exhausted you feel when you think about paying your bills.

Now, what are the thoughts behind those feelings? What are you thinking?  Are you thinking, “I’m unworthy of having more. I have to give everything I have to my children. Rich people are greedy. I wish I could have it as easy as my sister.“

You’ll notice thoughts of unworthiness, sadness and lack…Junk!

Recognize the Junk and then make a new deal…promise yourself that you will consciously change your view.

1. Let go of any judgment you have about yourself or your situation. You did what you had to, given your level of personal growth at the time. Now that you are aware you can choose a NEW way of thinking about money, you have a new level of personal growth, a new mindset and more power.
2. Learn from the negativity. Get out your journal and write down the top 3 worries you  have about money. Where did you learn these from? What purpose did they serve at the time? Why do you still carry them with you? What can you do about it?
3. Decide to do something. Change your attitude from negative to positive. Whether you use affirmations, proof, a vision board, whatever your ‘medium’ find a new way to ingrain your positive thinking. This will take work and you won’t be perfect at it, but over time you will turn around your money mindset.
4. Make decisions according to your new Junk-Free mindset...and follow through.
5. Let it go. Nothing can drag you down if you’re not holding on. Let go of the Junk. You don’t need it anymore.
   I have a prayer I use to release any fear I have around money, relationships, business…pretty much everything. Write it down and repeat it as often as you need to:

I give myself permission to let go. I release. I let go. I release all tension. I release all fear. I release all anger. I release all guilt. I release all sadness. I let go of old limitations. I let go and I am at peace. I am at peace with myself. I am at peace with the process of life. I am safe. I am happy. I am loved.

The best thing you can do for yourself is to recognize you need to change something, and then change it. Seek support if you need. Find positive people to encourage you and keep you accountable and then just do it.

Want to use this article in your eZine or on your blog? I’d love that just ensure you don’t change it and include the following:

© 2011 The Center for Authentic Self Development

Start by grabbing your FREE copy of Kimberly’s Limited Edition eBook: Dump The Junk & Be Happy: Biz, Career & Money at http://kimberlyenglot.com/dumpthejunk.

Kimberly Englot  is the President & Founder of the Center for Authentic Self Development. She works with women & heart-centered entrepreneurs who are willing to say ‘yes’ to happiness, and ‘no’ to excuses. Author of The NOW of Happiness: Your Official Happiness Formula and contributing author in Success Rituals 2.0: winning habits of highly successful women, how she does it and how you can too, Kimberly teaches clients the mindset mastery needed to succeed in business, relationships and life!

You have a job to take the stress off and release any money worries while you’re starting your business (that’s just smart). Often, these jobs only widen the gap between where you are and where you want to go, turning you into an unhappy, resentful and frustrated person. This is very bad energy for client attraction, and only exacerbates your situation.

There ARE ways to turn your mindset around if you want to be joyful in your job while you get your business flowing…That is NOT the point of this video. (If you are interested in learning to love your job, even if you really hate it right now but can’t quit, check out my Premium Members MP3 here.)

Here are 3 signs that you cannot ignore…signs you have to quit your job now! Your business and health depend on it!

Quick reminder:

Mother-In-Law always criticizing how you raise your kids?

Angry unsubscriber picking on grammar, spelling or how often you email your list?

Ex who says stuff like, “Hey, I love that dress. It reminds me off my Grandma” ?

It’s NOT about you, don’t take it personally.

Even if they are brave enough to facilitate a direct attack on you, it’s not really about you.

It’s a Junk story they’ve created in their own heads.

That’s about them…you’re fabulous, just as you are.