It’s IAWBO’s Birthday! But YOU get the gifts
I’m so excited to share this with you! As you know, I LOVE Gina Bell! She has helped me through some major mindset issues with my own business, and is my fab co-pilot for my Master LIFE Cleanse program!
And now she’s gone and done something insane…so insane, I really had to be a part of it!
You’ve got to see the Virtual Birthday Gift Bag that is available through the International Association of Women in Business Online (IAWBO) 
More than 30 successful women (including me) have contributed their wisdom to this complimentary gift bag devoted to supporting – and accelerating – the success of women in business online like you.
And it’s SO much more than your average “give-away”…
Each item in the gift bag is an EXCLUSIVE resource not available for-free anywhere else and also includes access to a special interview series that will unfold on IAWBO’s blog… the How Does She Do It? 2.0 series. You’ve watched and you’ve wondered. Now you can KNOW what these women do to achieve MEGA success.
And, you’ll really appreciate this too…
You’ll get immediate access to all 30 gifts with just ONE opt-in! (You do not have to subscribe to any other list – unless you want to). No more having to sign up for 100 people’s ezines to get a crappy (pardon my French) freebie you can get anywhere. This is HIGH quality stuff!
Hurry — the virtual gift bag is valued over $1000 and is only available for a short time. You can see ALL the fantastic gifts included inside at IAWBO How 2010!
Kim
P.S. Once you register for your gift bag PAY VERY CLOSE ATTENTION to the thank you page where you’ll discover the MEGA secret we’ve been keeping. You’ve really got to see it to believe it!
Authentic In Business
Free Teleseminar on September 15, 2010
@ 11:30 am Eastern / 10:30 am Central
9:30 am Mountain / 8:30 am Pacific
“Authentic In Business:
Letting the REAL You Shine Through!”
Join us!
My friend and colleague, Andrea Costantine is interviewing me on the topic of authenticity and business.We’re talking shop, but it will be fun, I promise.
If you’re a woman in business (or want to be), listen carefully because I’m sharing some important tips for keeping your identity and letting your authentic self show in a place that can feel scary and vulnerable: with your clients and customers!
You Will Learn:
- How a MAJOR break-down can lead to a major break-through!
- 3 Main Ways to identify your life purpose.
- Top 3 things women heart-centered entrepreneurs must focus on to keep their business’ from becoming work.
- Why the people you surround yourself with have the largest influence and how much money you make.
- How to keep Emotional Vampires at bay!
Sign up on Andrea’s site:
http://www.andreacostantine.com/authentic/
Time to Speak Your Truth
I’m so proud of my friend, Andrea Costantine, that I just have to blog about this!
It is rare to come across a book or piece of work that is so very raw, real, and inspiring. That is why I have decided to participate in sharing this work with you today.
Today is the launch of her book, Speaking Your Truth: Courageous Stories from Inspiring Women” – a powerful anthology of which I am an advocate for.
Speaking Your Truth has 49 stories for women by women. These stories are heart-wrenching and inspiring. The stories are based on love and healing, family matters, spirituality and much more.
Here are some things people have said about this book:
“Speaking Your Truth sizzles with brave energy. These amazing stories are a powerful testimony to the strength of human spirit, and a source of hope to all.” Sharon Lippincott
“Read one of these stories and you’ll keep turning the pages for more.” Susan K. Elliott
“The courageous stories of these women proves that there can be triumph over tragedy. What an inspiration to read their remarkable stories of resiliency in overcoming difficulty.” Danielle Waagmeester
“Speaking Your Truth is like a bowl of grandma’s soup on a cold day.” Sara Ortiz
Find out more now and order your copy today of the Speaking Your Truth anthology. Get your copy (and perhaps a copy for a friend, your mother, or a colleague) here.
If you choose to support her, and get courage to speak your own truth, awesome! Thank You and Congrats ahead of time!
xoxo
Kim
The Only Person Holding YOU back…is you: 3 ways you get in your own way.
It sounds really harsh and shocking, and I want it to be that way. You are the person who is holding you back. There might be others contributing to the problem, but when it comes right down to it, you’re the one who lets them.
- You replace your instincts with someone else’s advice, and/or worry about what other people think. Bad, Bad, Bad idea! This is a case where fear is good…in the form of your intuition telling you not to listen. If you are constantly looking for outward advice/approval then you have lost your authentic voice! You are holding yourself back by not having confidence in yourself. This is simple enough to remedy. Start with baby steps. Say no (when you really want to). Listen to your body (it reacts physically when something feels off) and get back to the basics (look back at your life and count your blessing and all the things you have already accomplished!)
This is your life, you know how to run it! You don’t need someone else’s permission. - You are too attached to your “but” and have too many excuses.
One of my favorite saying is, “Get off your but!” That is, look at the excuses you’re using to hold yourself back. Easy to identify by the standard…”I’d love to do __________, BUT___________.” There is a well known theory out there: if you are hungry enough for something you’ll do what it takes to get it (no matter what the cost). I’m not saying that you should go about things in an unethical, illegal or immoral way, but check your “but” next time. Then ask yourself, is this but a true CAN’T or a WON’T. There is a huge difference. Won’t is very empowering. I means that this is something that you won’t do for whatever reason, and stating it makes you realize how often the can’t is actually a won’t. Give yourself permission to say, “I WON’T exercise tonight because CSI is on,” and you’ll be so much closer to living your truth! - You are focusing on the wrong things. Have you taken time to figure your goals “from the inside out?”
That is where true happiness lies! I wrote a blog on it recently. Think about this scenario (it makes your priorities very clear): if there were a fire or flood and I had 5 minutes to get out (or die) what would I make sure went with me? Most people say they’d grab their kids, pets, photo’s, maybe the odd heirloom. You aren’t going to be worrying about the Volvo or your designer purse. Looking at the inside-out perspective you can see that your family takes precedence over “things”…but are you living that way? You can say, “But I want money FOR my family. So they can have everything they want: nice clothes, iPods, travel.” But I bet, they’d rather see more of YOU then any of those things! Are you holding yourself back from happiness and wealth because your definition of happiness and wealth doesn’t actually ring true to you?
Think about those 3 ways. What is your true definition of success? What kind of excuses are you using, and how are they preventing you from living your authentic life? How are you letting someone else run the show called Your Life? Answer those questions and you will be light years ahead of the average person, who is content complaining about how things are, without actually doing anything to change them! You can also learn more way you are holding yourself back, and how to stop NOW, by becoming a Premium Member and joining us for the live call on Monday!
Want to use this in your eZine or on your blog? Sure as long as you don’t change anything and include the following:
Grab your FREE Copy of “Dump The Junk, and Be Happy” eBook at http://kimberlyenglot.com. Kimberly Englot is CEO of The Center for Authentic Self Development. She is the courage you need to put yourself back on your priority list, without feeling guilty or selfish.
My Secret to the Law of Attraction
I was late jumping on whole Rhonda Byrne “The Secret” bandwagon, by a good 2 years! But once I finally gave in, I jumped right on, and pushed everyone else out of the way, eager to take the reigns! I did everything I could think of to get more information, buying books, borrowing books, borrowing DVDs, audios and hiring a coach. I was/am determined to figure it out and I think I’ve found the secret to “The Secret!” — it was in a place I did not expect to find it!
I can’t cover it all here, but I hope you will join me for my LIVE call-in radio show on Friday (August 20 at 11am ET/ 8am PT) where I explain the entire thing. (Find all details HERE). I will do my best to give you the Cliff Notes version.
Since discovering the Law of Attraction, my brain “knew” what it had to do…but sometimes it worked and sometimes it didn’t. I kept thinking, “Something has to be missing.” Which, of course, added tonnes of resistance and mucked up everything that much more!
A couple of months ago I listened to “Ask Your Guides” by Sonia Choquette (I also own the paperback, but I do so much running around that the audio version is priceless to me!) And I started to do what she recommended…something I haven’t done if a very long time: I began to pray!
You can be hung up on that word all you want, but it’s just a way to say that I connected with a higher source. You can call it meditating, casting spells, or whatever you want…but it works if you do it. I “pray” all day every day. And it is the secret to trusting that when you ask, it IS given!
I know that feels a bit vague, but try it out. And if you want more detailed info, tune into my show where I explain it much more, including some of the mini prayers I use to get rid of my traffic headaches (I rarely fight traffic), the guides/angels I call on to keep me safe when I’m scared, and how I find bargains! It’s a magical topic and a fun show!
I hope you ‘ll join me live.
Kim 
PS- DETAILS again: August 20th at 11am ET (10am CT, 9am MT, 8am PT). http://www.blogtalkradio.com/authentic-self. You can call in for an Oracle Reading or listen via your computer!
Do positive thinkers need to grow up and get real?
I had an outstanding day yesterday. One of the many things that made me so happy:
I bought a new printer a few days ago, and had to take it back. When I took it back to exchange it for one that didn’t jam up every time I tried to print, I actually was given money back. Yep, the printer had since gone on sale and I exchanged it for a new one, plus they gave me money in return! I felt so much better after 2 days of a stupid printer that didn’t work. NOTICE, that is all about my perspective on that outcome? (I could have been angry, yelled at the customer service agent, demanded my money back, went to another store and purchased a similar printer for more money. That is probably how I would have acted a few years ago.)
So, I had a good day. This morning I woke up to find someone had commented on one of my blog posts…YAY! I thought, I am uplifted whenever anyone takes the time to comment. But this was a TROLL. Yikes. Yuck. Ick. 
I sent the comment to the trash because I don’t need anyone smearing ME with THEIR “junk” but basically I was told that I was naive and “to grow up.” (The issue was a post I wrote about the power of positive, group thinking, comparing it to a Criss Angel episode I watched 6 months ago).
In the last 2 or 3 years I have discovered that (GASP) I feel better, happier, safer, freer when I believe that positive forces rule/fuel the world. I am happier when I CHOOSE to see the positive aspects of my life, and the examples in it. Do I believe everything anyone tells me? No. I am the first to check out www.Snopes.comwhenever I’m sent a crazy email. Do I believe everything that Criss Angel (a paid illusionist) does is pure and real? No, but at that point in my life I was searching for a sign, and I think I got one. Does that make me naive? Maybe in some people’s eyes.
I the end I am happy and my family is happy. What else matters? I am going to continue choosing to absorb the positive vibes of those around me, and deflect the negative ones. There is enough “junk” in this world, and I have my own to deal with, I don’t need yours! (And you don’t need mine).
Redefining Success
What does success mean to you?
I know that most people have a canned response. “Success means having lots of money, wearing expensive clothes, travelling around the world and driving a fancy car.” Notice that all of those things are external? They are all things that you “get” outside of yourself, and most of those things don’t make you happy for long.
Crazy idea…If your house were to burn down, what would you take? You’d take the photo’s, the babybooks, family pet…you wouldn’t head to the closet to get your favorite pair of shoes or that designer dress.
WHAT IF you defined success from the inside out?
So start this process with a quick exercise. What does success really mean to you? What do you want to do with your life? Write it down, not editing or worrying about others might think. Then look at the difference between what you say you want, and what you currently have. Create a “backward” map. That is, start where you want to be and map out a backward trail until you end up where you are now. Since you are where you are now, start there and take the next logical step to living a successful life.
Who’s in Control Around Here? (Hint: It Should Be You!)
Do you think you’re not in control of your life? Think again. Rebecca Rosen reveals why you have the power to co-create your destiny.
In last month’s article, we explored how to determine your dominant intuitive senses as well as the different ways intuition and spirit speak to you in your everyday life. But now you may be wondering why it’s important to be intuitively connected and spiritually awake.
Over the years, spirit has taught me that we each come into life with certain lessons to learn in order to spiritually grow and evolve. Before we are born into our physical bodies—and with the help of our spirit guides—we draw up a loose script, or blueprint, for our lives. The script is based on lessons we failed to learn the last time we were incarnated—yes, I am referring to reincarnation—and those we are meant to learn this time around.
While these particular predetermined events, encounters and lessons are bound to show up along our journey, it’s ultimately up to us what we choose to do with them once they appear. Meaning, the future is not set in stone! We have the power—through our choices and free will—to help direct, shift and shape our futures, acting as co-creators with God, the source and the universe.
As Elisabeth Kubler-Ross so eloquently put it: “Mankind’s greatest gift, also its greatest curse, is that we have free choice. We can make our choices built from love or from fear.”
We can say yes to life, embracing all that is showing up with an open heart and mind, while holding the intention to resolve, learn and grow from our experiences. When we do this, we pass the tests and grow spiritually. But when we’re in a disconnected state, we may act from our lower selves and fear. In doing so, we fail to learn the lessons life is currently presenting, which is what many of us do from time to time. And when we do, similar struggles will continuously to pop up in different ways until we get it right.
Strengthen your connection with your intuition
Many of us have fallen into the trap of listening to and being guided by our minds (ego) more than our hearts (intuition). When we are predominantly ruled by our ego, we tend to operate from fear, doubt, judgment, anger, jealousy, impatience and anxiety. When we’re feeling disconnected, dissatisfied and alone, it’s usually because we’re not striking a balance between our ego (mind) and our intuitive voice (heart).
On the other hand, when we are spiritually aligned with our authentic selves, operating from our hearts and in tune with our higher selves’ knowing or intuition, we tend to make better choices. And when we make choices based in love, we incur more positive and less negative karma.
Karma is simply the process of cause and effect. If you do A, B will happen. Karma (the law of cause and effect) is essentially the same thing as the law of attraction: that which is like is drawn. When we continuously put negative energy out into the universe through our thoughts, feelings, words and actions, we attract more of that negative stuff back into our lives. The reverse holds true as well. Every day I hear the same message relayed from the other side: Everything we think, say and do follows us when we die. Therefore, it’s in our best interest to be fully accountable for all of our thoughts, words and actions and strive to come from a place of love.
Once we realize all situations in our lives—the positive and the negative—are a result of our decisions, actions, inactions and reactions, we can feel empowered and inspired, knowing we do actually have a say in what happens to us.
To top that off, I’d like to remind you that it’s never too late to re-create. Many of us have regrets about past situations we wish we could undo. And while we can’t change the past, we are given what I call opportunities to redo. And how do we ensure a better future outcome? We start by “shushing” our ego and allowing our intuition to guide us.
Connecting with your intuition begins with quieting your mind through meditation. To help you get started, I will leave you with a simple breathing exercise found in Chapter 1 of Spirited: Connect to the Guides All Around You.This exercise helps me get into a more receptive state of mind for both my personal and professional spiritual work, as the breath connects us with spirit. I encourage you to experiment with it as a way to reconnect with your inner being and spiritual wisdom.
Try Rebecca’s breathing exercise
What you’ll need: Five undisturbed minutes. Choose a quiet place where you feel comfortable. For example, sit in the backyard or in a park (or on a bus stop bench, if that’s all you have). It doesn’t matter where you are, as long as it’s an environment that puts you at ease.
Close your eyes and begin to breathe deeply. After a few deep breaths, focus on clearing out your “icky” energy. Take a minute and ask any negative energy that’s hanging around to hit the road. Continue to breathe. Notice your breath start to slow down and become a steady flow of inhales and exhales.
Breathe.
For the next five minutes, try quieting your mind chatter. Stop thinking about what you’re going to do as soon as this exercise is over, how you’re going to meet your work deadlines or what you’re going to make for dinner. Release thoughts about yesterday or last week or last year. The goal here is to stop thinking about the past or the future and to learn what it feels like to be present.
Breathe.
Let your worries and anxiety drift away.
Sit in this place of stillness for as long as feels right for you.
Rebecca Rosen has served as a bridge between this world and those who have crossed over to the other side for the past 10 years. Her work has led to many guest appearances, including Entertainment Tonight, The Rachael Ray Show and Nightline, and her first book, Spirited: Connect to the Guides All Around You (HarperCollins). Due to the high and growing demand for spiritual truth, she has committed herself full time to serving as a medium and also educates thousands of people around the country with her seminars, lectures and workshops. Learn more about Rebecca by visiting her website.
What the worst day of my life taught me
A few years ago I had one of those lightening-strike moments. Except it came in a very quiet, very unusual place.
I came home after a terrible week at my job. My feet hurt, my head hurt and I was ready to lash out at the first person to cross me (likely my poor husband). And then I felt the little energy that was left in my body be sucked right out of me as I walked in the back door of my house.
Dishes left over from last night, laundry to be folded and dust everywhere. Socks on the living room floor and mail strewn all over the dining room table. I was deflated and didn’t know whether to cry or scream.
Usually this would be the time when I broke down and allowed myself (and my inner critic) to throw a tantrum. ..
But for some reason, I didn’t. This was one of THOSE days, the days that feel like the worst days of your life and I would have had plenty of reason to allow the clutter to suck me into a drama-filled sulk.
Except I didn’t. I choose to try something new, and it worked!
I decided to just do it. I took one look at that big ugly mess and I decided to fix without complaint. I don’t know what happened, but I thought to myself, “Crying won’t clean my house.”
I decided to just do it FOR ME. I then looked around and thought, I could just go to bed and not worry about this mess. But it will be there looking at me in the morning. And who wants to start there weekend off like that? Not me!
I decided I deserved better. I said to myself, “Kim, you deserve to wake up to a clean house, fresh laundry and an empty sink. You deserve to enjoy your Saturday morning with coffee on the patio.
I decided I can handle anything. I started in the kitchen (it wasn’t that bad. Nothing 15 minutes couldn’t cure). I moved to fold laundry while I watched TV (kill 2 birds with one stones…no actual birds were harmed). I then quickly swept up the floor and dusted the TV. My entire cleaning took about 60 minutes. And I saved myself: a mental breakdown, a wasted Friday night, a fight with my husband, a terrible nights sleep and an angry Saturday (and wicked weekend!). All because of 60 minutes worth of clutter that I cleaned.
It wasn’t the physical clutter that had me down. Well, it was, but it was actually the mental “stuff” that was causing the anguish. The stuff I was telling myself and the victim story I was tempted to fall into. This is a perfect example to demonstrate to you HOW mental and physical clutter are so tied and how they can take over your life (or not) if you let it.
Whether its a forced clear (like with me) or just a intuitive nudge, you know if you have too much…you know if your life if full but not fulfilling because you can feel it.
- You feel overwhelmed, stressed and run down. There is never enough time for you!
- You worry a lot (or feel guilty) about your kids, your job, bills
- You dread certain tasks, so you put them off (like cleaning out the garage or taking in the recycling) and so it never gets done, which makes you feel worse.
If you are experiencing any of those “symptoms” it’s time for a Mini Cleanse!!! Specifically, clearing out the junk…the life clutter! (Get Life Clutter Package NOW)
You know what I mean, don’t you always feel better after you finish a task that you’ve been putting off? Aren’t you relieved after you give your house a good scrub? Don’t you feel better when you clear your schedule for the day and send the kids on a play date? (And if you don’t know the feeling I’m talking about you REALLY need to Clear your Life Clutter!!!!). Cleanse your mental and physical life and see what a HUGE difference it makes!
This “mini makeover” is taken DIRECTLY from my Master Life Cleanse program that wrapped up in May. So it’s fresh and new and waiting for you! You can learn all about the entire Master Life Cleanse at http://themasterlifecleanse.com
You will learn:
- my exact mantra for getting the dishes done, (when I really want to throw at tantrum and just go to bed) WITHOUT drama or fighting.
- why your physical clutter is just the tip of the iceberg, and how it is majorly holding you back, PLUS how to INSTANTLY clear your mental clutter
- how to save yourself time and money! This is my best-kept secret and really easy to follow. Do you know what it is?
You get my Master Life Cleanse action guide (which covers ALL of the Life Cleanse topics) AND the mp3 for the Life Clutter teleseminar, which goes really deep into what life clutter is, how it’s preventing you from moving ANYWHERE, and exactly what to do to free up your time, energy and money (without draining your wallet).
Life Clutter Package OR Until JUNE 28th I’m offering a Life Clutter Package 3-pay. Get the Mini-Makeover for only $25 for 3 months.
I just want you to know that you’re not alone AND that you can take care of this and feel light and free again! Go into your summer 25lb lighter, mentally, so you can enjoy the time with your kids and so you can spend it outside instead of inside searching for the bills you need to pay.
You won’t regret it!
Love & Light,
Kim
PS: Already have the Action Guide? Just want the mp3? Get it here.
PPS: REMEMBER, you only have until June 28th to take advantage of the 3-pay option! Don’t wait (because the longer you wait, the MORE the clutter will build up). Life Clutter Package 3-pay.
PPPS: You can learn all about the entire Master Life Cleanse at http://themasterlifecleanse.com
Your Daily Dose of Joy!
I’m on another happiness-theme kick, mainly because I am about to wrap up the third (of four) installment in my How to Be Happy series for the Premium Members.
All this happiness is good for my health and I am always looking for ways to share how I do it, with you! I can’t remember exactly what I was reading earlier this week, but something caught my eye and got me thinking about finding your joy!This is not the first I have written about joy. My blog, podcasts and articles are full of “how to be joyful” tips (and I wrote How to Live a Joyful Life specifically specifically for Aspire Magazine’s May/June “Joyful Life” Theme! Heck, my book that is scheduled to come out in December is titled “The Happiness Formula!” so I like to consider myself a carrier of joy to others.)
Here are 3 simple steps to help you add more joy into your daily life, so that you can feel peaceful, light and calm.
- Define Your Joy
My joy is probably not the same as your joy. Society leans on us to need certain things to be joyful, so you might think that you need to spend money and accumulate joy. This is not true. If you listen to your authentic self, and examine your true priorities you will easily find your Joy.
I had a client who thought her joy was with a certain boyfriend and in a certain joy. Although I could feel that this wasn’t the case for her, she was not ready to hear it. For several weeks I supported her as she discovered that her Joy had nothing to do with this man, and in fact, he was causing her pain and disrupting her Joy! She discovered her Joy was actually exercise, spending time with friends and taking good care of her spirit through reading and meditating.
I encourage you to take a few minutes and think about your life. Define what bring you lasting Joy. Create a list in a journal and… - Set Aside Time for Your Joy
You might be thinking that you don’t have time in your life to take long walks and meditate, and hey, if that isn’t your Joy, don’t do it! However, if your first thought to reading this is, “I don’t have time for this,” then you have a problem and you definitely need to set some time to discover your Joy because this is a major sign you’ve lost it!
There is no need to panic, you don’t need to spend 60 minutes in silence to feel joy (that’s why defining YOUR joy is so important). Start with 20 minutes per week. After a few weeks, add in another 2 minutes, and work your way up to 15 minutes a day (or more). I promise, when you start doing this, you won’t want to let it go. This time rejuvenates your spirit, and you will feel calm and secure, no matter what is going on around you. - Nourish Your Joy
This means take care of yourself when your struggling. Pull out that Joy List you wrote in step 1 and do some of them. I know when I feel stressed or start to panic, the first thing I do is ground myself…literally. I stand up, stretch and feel my feet on the floor. This brings me out of my head and into the reality that this is just a moment in time and it will pass. After that I might take my dog for a quick walk, or just step outside to breathe some fresh air. You could buy some flowers and admire them, open your favorite book to a random page and read the message there for you, email or call a friend, dance…whatever you need to do to reconnect with your spirit.
It doesn’t get much simpler than that. We like to make things complicated and get frustrated when simple things feel difficult. This is simple stuff. The hard part is taking the time out and making a priority to do it! It is like any new habit, it feels hard a first but with practice it becomes easier and soon it’s a part of your regular day and you don’t have to think twice.
Make a conscious effort to try it for a month and see how you feel. I bet you won’t want to go back!
Want to use this in your eZine or on your blog? Sure as long as you don’t change anything and include the following:
Grab your FREE Copy of “Dump The Junk, and Be Happy” eBook at http://kimberlyenglot.com. Kimberly Englot is CEO of The Center for Authentic Self Development. She is the courage you need to put yourself back on your priority list, without feeling guilty or selfish.
