Dump The Junk
I am on a personal mission, to dump my own junk and help others dump their’s. So far, so good 
So…Dump The Junk. It’s a really catchy phrase and very accurate for what I do. So accurate in fact, that I’ve decided to do a free ebook with that very title. It’s still in the works, but I’m inviting some pretty fabulous experts to share how they dumped their junk and got to the place they are in life. Look for it in the next couple of months, published by the Center for Authentic Self Development.
I originally go this idea about a month ago, while brainstorming with my business coach. We were talking about my business, my services, my products — essentiall, what I “do” for people. I believe Gina said something like, “Kim, you help your clients dump the junk.”
We laughed and I knew immediately that that phrase sums up exactly what I do, perfectly!
It’s so important to clear out all the “stuff” or “junk” holding you back FIRST! If you don’t make room for what you want (more clothes, new job, new car, more money) it won’t come to you. Sometimes dumping the junk involves just being aware you have junk, and it goes away on it’s own. Sometimes you have to act to dump the junk.
Regardless of what you have to dump, you have to dump it and throw it out first or the new good “happy stuff” will just pass you by!
I’ll make sure that I let everyone know when Dump the Junk: The official guide to discovering your authentic life is finished. Can’t wait…it’s going to be good!
Kim
4 Great Paradoxes of a Great Life–Explained
Everything is about perspective. The happiest people, the ones who are the most successful and the wealthiest just found ways to make the world work for them. A paradox is when 2 ideas seem to directly oppose each other, and yet can both be true.
The most common example is the phrase: Water, water everywhere, but not a drop to drink! It may seem contradictory, after all, how can you be surrounded by water and not be able to drink it? So is the case if you are stranded in a life boat in the middle of the ocean. This statement would then be true, and make sense.
As you’re reading these ideas, relax and let the concepts sink it. Don’t fight them if you don’t understand or don’t agree. Hopefully, it will end up expanding your thinking and help you further discover your authentic life.
#1 Be selfish, but always Put the other person first. This is what got me in thinking of this topic. On one hand, I feel that it is most important to make yourself happy first because you can’t rely on others to do it for you. HOWEVER, that doesn’t mean that I can’t make another feel good too. That is my understanding of this paradox. Overall, I hope to get to a place where I can be happy, no matter what, AND because of that others are happy around me. After all, it is so much nicer to be around someone who is joyful and content, rather than resentful or frustrated. So feel free to put your happiness first. When you are happy, you’re a great role model for those around you.
#2 Live in the moment, but Focus on your future. This is another one that has been rolling around in my head. I have noticed there are two crowds teaching the LoA, and they’re either saying to live in the moment and enjoy what is in front of you, or that you should focus on where you want to go, not where you are. So which statement is true? Well, both. The key to understanding this paradox is the underlying fact that you need to follow your feelings. Yes, enjoy the moment. Feel really good about where you are, while knowing that you’re headed in the right direction. If you don’t feel good about the moment, then view it as a small section of time in your life, focus on the small amount of good, and put the rest of your energy into aligning with how you will feel once you have manifested your dream life.
#3 Fake it to make it, but Be Authentic. This was something one of my mentors wrote about on her own blog and I loved it! I could help but add this one to my list. I have been an advocate for “fake it til you make it,” but only under certain circumstances. So how do you know when to fake it, and how can you still be authentic? The secret is all in knowing why. What do you want to be the outcome? That is, if you want to be successful in business, but are struggling, what do you want? You want to be successful. This is a great example for when you should fake it! Start by creating an office space that commands respect and says “Successful.” Then dress the part. The confidence will slowly follow, and so will the increase in business. By being clear on what you want, you can “fake it” but be authentic. I’m not saying that you should buy an office building, spend lots of money and jet around the world, because that’s what successful people do. Start slow and identify the core idea of success for you. Personally, I never want an office building and I really don’t want to jet around the world speaking at conferences. So that kind of “faking” would be inauthentic, even thought I might end up successful.
#4 Find joy in life by Embracing anger and resentment. This comes from one of my favorite all time paradoxes: No two things can occupy the same space at the same time. It’s impossible to be happy when you’re angry or upset, so pretending to be happy, pushing it down or faking won’t do anything but aggravate you. There is also a false understanding of happiness. Being happy doesn’t mean you don’t get mad. You can experience the entire range of emotions and still be happy. Being joyful means a couple of things: a) you have a trusting in the universe that things will work out (takes the pressure off you having to ‘control’ everything) b) you don’t take things too seriously c) you bounce back easily from disappointments (due to the first 2). Which means you can feel the anger, be disappointed, hate someone, want to throw something…and then recover quickly. Embrace the feeling instead of fighting it. You won’t have to fight it, it won’t hang around as long, and you’ll be a lot happier. Everything is about perspective. The happiest people,the ones who are the most successful and the wealthiest just found ways to make the world work for them, rather than feeling like it’s against them.
These are ideas that will help you find happiness, if you just embrace them., rather than feeling like it’s against them.
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The How of Happiness: 10 Actions to Get You Started
If you studied the happiest people in the world, you would find commonalities among all of them. They view difficult circumstances differently than others. They worry less, feel guilty less and trust more. Happiness is learned, but like a muscle, you need to work it out. Here are 10 actions that you can take today, to start exercising your happiness muscles.
1.Let go of obligations
Sometimes you continue to do things just because you’ve always done them. This doesn’t mean that you have to continue to do them. What are you holding onto that you really resent? Let it go.
2. Say No
Say no when you mean no. Often you get into a habit of saying yes, because you always say yes, and then you later regret it. Set the intention to be aware of the things you’re agreeing too, and make sure that they align with what you want in life. If you absolutely must say yes to something you’re not thrilled about, change your perspective on it.
3.Change your mind
Sometimes circumstances change, impressions change, and people change. This is okay. You are not the same person you were 5 years ago, why do you have to stick with the same decisions? If you wish to switch directions in your life, give yourself permission to change your mind.
4. Question others
You are not a bad person for not agreeing with everyone, some people might just “set off” your intuition. Listen to that gut feeling. If something doesn’t feel right, it probably isn’t. Don’t try to force it.
5. Have your own opinion
That intuition is very important! Like in the above action, having your opinion is very important, it is what sets you apart from everyone else. You can agree with others, or disagree with them, as long as you have a very clear reason as to WHY you agree or disagree.
6. Make mistakes
Learning is growing, and you can’t learn if you’re perfect. Change your perspective on failure. Failure is not a bad thing, it gives you the opportunity to relax, try new things out, test yourself a bit. If you are perfect, you are not living up to your true potential. The more successful you are, the more mistakes you make.
7. Let “it” go
Just release whatever you’re holding on to. Whether a grudge, a relationships, a job or a dream, if it’s causing you pain or holding you back in life, you need to release it. There are many different methods to doing this, Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT), the Sedona Method and The Work are three well-known methods.
8. Love Yourself
This might be the hardest of all these actions, but it is also the most important. When you love yourself, all the other happiness actions follow. Look in the mirror daily and actually see the person looking back at you. Don’t judge her, just let her know you love and accept her. You are doing the best you can, at any given moment.
9. Seek a new story
Reassess that story you’ve been telling yourself. Is it true? Are you really a victim, simply not control of your situation at all? Can you really not do anything to change, because of something that happened in your past? Is bad luck the main factor in why you’re unhappy right now? Really? Change that story. Feature an empowered, happy and successful person who doesn’t let the past dictate the future.
10. Jump into the fear
This is difficult, there are times where you must calculate risks and there are times where you just have to jump right in without thinking too much. Your intuition will be key in this. I know that in my own life, any time I’ve been really excited about something, it’s come with fear. Are there opportunities in life that have you excited? Do you see greater potential for yourself, but let fear stop you? Don’t let that fear hold you back, find a way around it.
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Those are just 10 steps to get you started. Being happy doesn’t mean you are never afraid, or angry, or frustrated. It means you have a resilience and a trust that others don’t, and that is something you can learn. This can be overwhelming and hard to deal with alone. If you are currently dreaming of changing careers, find love, or making a big change in your life, you’ll want to join me for the Happiness & Harmony Makeover, where I’m covering in detail exactly what to look out for AND how to become a happy person. It’s FREE and you can sign up at http://kimberlyenglot.com/hhteleseminar. About the Author: Kimberly Englot teaches success-driven women how to create the life vision they crave, have the courage to pursue it and live it from a purely authentic place so they can enjoy all the happiness, freedom and success they deserve. Kimberly is the founder of the Center of Authentic Self Development. Learn more about her programs and gain access to FREE coaching, inspiration & advice at: http://www.kimberlyenglot.com. |
The How of Happiness: 3 Easy Actions
The How of Happiness: 3 Easy Actions
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Rejection is God’s Protection
“Rejection is God’s Protection”
Is that an awesome quote? I wish I could claim is as my own, but I got it from the book my Authentic Self Bookclub just finished reading, “Happy for No Reason: 7 Steps to Being Happy from the Inside Out
Anyway, this blog post won’t be terribly profound, but I was thinking about the discussions we had last night about the book and I opened the book up to share a quote I loved (a different quote) and turned to this page. There it was shining back up at me.
You never know how stuff will work out in the long run, but if you believe in yourself and keep the faith, everything will work out. In fact, one of the main characteristics of happy people is that they believe the universe is out to support them.
So the next time you’re frustrated or worried about something not quite turning out the way you want it too (or flat out failure), just remember that rejection is God’s protection.
Have a great day everyone!
Kim
Happiness: It’s all about perspective
This ancient Chinese story speaks very loudly to the fact that the Law of Attraction works in ways we cannot possibly understand. Which is exactly why when you ask for something…you cannot get fixed on “the how,” or try to make it happen.
And old farmer used a horse to till his fields. One day, the horse ran away, and when the farmer’s neighbors sympathized with the old man over his bad luck, the farmer shrugged his shoulders and replied, “Bad luck? Good luck? Who knows?”
A week later, the horse returned with a herd of wild mares, and this time the neighbors congratulated the farmer on his good luck. His reply was, “Good luck? Bad luck? Who knows?”
Then, when the farmer’s son was attempting to tame one of the wild horses, he fell and broke his leg. Everyone agreed this was very bad luck. But the farmer’s only reaction was, “Bad luck? Good luck? Who knows?”
A week later, the army marched into the village and drafted all the young men they could find. When they saw the farmers’ son with his broken leg, they let him stay behind. Good luck? Bad luck?
We can never know how a situation will turn out. When things don’t work out exactly as planned, happy people believe that what IS happening, is happening for the best. The Universe is out to support them. In hindsight, I have seen this happen in my life over and over again. I’m sure if you looked back, you would find the same is true for you.
Happiness is a choice, so you can either fight the “negative” circumstances, seeing them as bad luck, or you can relax and trust that what is coming will be in your favor.
If you need a little help doing this, join us for the Happiness & Harmony Makeover, on March 3rd where we explore this concept even further and guide you to the point where you can feel good when things don’t work out as planned.
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Creating Your Million Dollar Story
Your Million Dollar Story doesn’t have to have anything to do with money. In fact, if you want to, you can live in a log cabin in the woods with your dog, writing romance novels…that would be considered a Million Dollar Story. In my Shine Your Inner Light life vision kit (to be released in May) I go into detail on how to craft a Million Dollar Story suited to you. I cover a few things quickly in this video, but also check out this week’s Authentic Self Expression radio if you want more information.
What do you think?
Remember to listen live on February 24, at 4:30 pm CST to hear more details on exactly how to create the Million Dollar mindset! http://blogtalkradio.com/authentic-self
Sweep up the old before you invite in the new!
I have been doing a mini-facelift on my house for the last week.
I intentionally set up my house using Feng Shui; I make sure I do the best I can to get the proper energy flow. This year, my Feng Shui adviser is Katie Weber (http://redlotusletter.com). I purchased her Money Map & 2010 Success Pack and have been changing re-doing, painting and cleaning for the last 10 days.
But today is the end. No more cleaning or painting, at least not for a couple of days. Which brings me to this purpose of this post.
It is a NEW chance for you to adjust your life vision for 2010. Today is Chinese New Years Eve. Which means you need to get your physical and mental stuff in order! It’s a great time to clarify your purpose for 2010 and zero in on exactly what you want and create your plan to get it. I did exactly that.
I switched offices, painted, and feng shui-ed to my hearts content. This morning I am cleaning up the rest of my house. Paying particular attention to my wealth zone (which happens to be in my hall way and 2 closets.) So I purged, organized, swept and scrubbed. Can’t be wealthy if you’re feeling yucky.
So if you have started the year off feeling a bit “yucky” give your house a good clean out today. Sweep the floors, vacuum the carpets, mop, dust and if you’re feeling ambitious, clean your windows. That will “sweep out” the bad luck and make everything shiny and inviting for the Chinese new year tomorrow. (It’s important you do it today because if you do it tomorrow, it’s considered to be “sweeping out the good luck with the bad.”
So that is my take on another free way for you to change the flow of your life. It all starts in the physical, which is just a representation of the mental. So if your physical space is clutter, dirty and dull, what does that say about how you are feeling as a person?
I’m covering all of this and even more in my Master LIFE Cleanse, which starts in a couple of weeks. Go to http://www.themasterLIFEcleanse.com to learn more or sign up to join us. It is so important to sweep out the old, before you can shine up and invite in the new!
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How do you feel about your house? Feng Shui and Clutter
I just finished a week of mini-renos so that I could switch our guest bedroom with my office. Now I have a new office, new paint, a new layout, and a new outlook! Literally, just by paying attention to my space, and what kind of energy I’m sending out into the world, I’ve change my path. It’s really easy. This is a 6 minute video to help you do the same. Plus, I share the quickest, easiest thing you can possibly do to change your flow of money.
(Hint: In feng shui, red stimulates (fire) and blue cools (water). This is exactly what you want to happen where money and bills are concerned).
Frienemies, do you have one?
According to the first definition on http://urbandictionary.com: A “toxic” person who poses as a friend but subconsciously or consciously wishes you harm.
Couldn’t have written it better myself.
A “frienemy” (friend- enemy) is a type of toxic person. And you have no room for these people in your authentic life. So this post will reveal all of the classic signs of a frienemy, so that you’re aware if you have one! I’ll cover the basics of what to do if you have a Frienemy on this weeks radio show, and I’m going into details in the Master LIFE CLEANSE starting in March.
Sign #1: You dread calling her if you have good news!
Congratulations are in order! You have a new job, just got engaged or are expecting a baby. You can’t wait to tell everyone…except one person. You dread calling her because she will find a way to “rain on your parade” (pardon the cliche) and make the happy occasion not so happy. Whether she starts in on why the timing isn’t great, or about how your life is always so great and the fact that you’re lucky while her life sucks, she leaves you feeling sorry for her. You also end up resenting her for not being happy for you.
Sign #2: After spending time with her you feel worse.
It’s time for the monthly get together with your best frienemy. You’re feeling optimistic, good things are happening for you and you can’t wait to hear all about her new boyfriend! It’s been a month and lots can happen! You’re really excited to see her. Nothing like a wonderful afternoon spent talking with a good friend! You meet her at the coffee shop, order a latte and sit in the comfy chairs to start catching up. After an hour your smile is gone, along with your energy and your bouncy outlook on life. It’s one thing to support someone in a time of need, another thing to always be supporting one person because she’s ALWAYS in need. Her boyfriend broke up with her, she hates her job and she got a parking ticket. When you finally get around to talking about you, you don’t even feel like sharing anything with her. By the end of the visit you slink back to your car feeling like you need to take a long nap…so much for good vibes today.
Sign #3: You’ve been friends for a really long time and now you can’t remember why.
I had a client send me an email. She was desperate because she had a big event coming up and one person was ruining it for her. This was a momentous occasion! An engagement only happens once (hopefully). The frienemy was so excited that she didn’t even mind that she wasn’t going to be the maid-of-honor! Except that she decided to take over the planning of the bridal shower and the girls-night-out party. The resentment and jealousy became obvious when my client learned that the “friend” had been spinning tales, getting in between people, and bad mouthing almost everyone. WOW! What to do?
“We’ve been friends forever! I can’t imagine my bridal shower without her.”
“How fun is it going to be with everyone fighting, or no one speaking?” I asked her. “Sounds like you have a frienemy…”
My client decided that this time of her life, the engagement and everything leading up to the honeymoon, was precious and that this friend needed to be dealt with. Looking back she said that things have felt off for a long time, she just didn’t want to admit it.
If you have a friend whose been in your life for a long time but you just don’t have a connection anymore, don’t feel bad. People grow and change, relationships should too.
Sign #4: You become someone you don’t like when you’re with her (complaining, whining, being negative or judgmental).
You’re in a great mood. Can’t wait to talk to your office friend Jenny about the latest gossip going around the office. You’re feeling really good, it’s been a good day. You got everything you wanted accomplished and you deserve a good 15 minute coffee break. Sitting down with her, it turns into a 20 minute complain-fest. By the end of it, you hate your job, the company and anyone that dares to look at you. What’s changed? Your energy patterns have, and you became the negative person that you usually try to avoid!
Those are just a few of the signs that you have a potential Frienemy. It’s not necessarily her fault, she might not be aware of it. And some environments bring out the worst in otherwise great people. Once you’re aware of the effect of these friends, it’s important to guard yourself.
I go into more detail on the types of toxic people and give you some tips for how to deal with them on Authentic Self Expressions this week (4:30 pm CST on Wednesday, February 10, 2010). If you need more help for the toxic relationships in your life, join us for the Master LIFE CLEANSE where we talk in great detail about Toxic People and how to protect yourself from them (and what to do if YOU ARE the toxic person in the relationship!). Learn more about that at http://themasterlifecleanse.com
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