Letting go of what others’ think
The Next Premium Membership call is on Monday, August 23, and it’s all about how to let go of what other’s think.
Let It GO! How to let go of what others’ think…and start living your life, your way
Obviously, to keep the world running smoothly, and to not throw us all into complete anarchy, we have to care what other’s think to some extent. But I’m not talking about manners, social norms, or cultural rules. That stuff is fantastic, as a common courtesy for your fellow human beings.
I am talking more about the deep down, dark, scary “stuff” that you need to show in order to fully be you. You know, the light that you want to shine, but feel it’s silly, new agey, off-the-wall, and will send your close family and friends running for the hills shrieking “Witch!”
All kidding aside, you know exactly what I mean. It is important to understand that by shading that light, you are hiding a part of the real you, and you will always feel like something is missing. On the Premium Call, I’m going to teach you the exact process for letting that go.
Whether it’s the Law of Attraction, believing in angels, thinking you’re psychic, or letting people know that you believe there is a God, (which can be hard if you’re the intellectual, analytical, academic kind) you don’t have to fear what other people will say if you let that side show.
Fear is a human construct, with 2 exceptions: we are born with the fear of falling and the fear of loud noises. EVERYTHING else is something we have absorbed from others or created for ourselves. And it isn’t the fear of the actual “thing” that scares us…it’s the thought behind the thing.
You’re not afraid of telling people you believe in angels and that they guide your life and keep you safe, you’re afraid of the thoughts you have created thinking you know their anticipated responses. Sounds confusing, but it isn’t really.
For example, I am terrified of snakes. To the point where even seeing them on TV makes me squirm. Sometimes I close my eyes and tell my husband to let me know when the scene is over because they just give me the heebie-jeepies. Ick. I can’t even stand thinking about them now, as I write this!
BUT, it isn’t the actual snake that I’m afraid of. If that were the case, seeing the snake on TV would not elicit any response from me. My rational brain would tell me that there is no actual snake in front of me, and that I am safe. Therefore, I’d have no fear of snakes, except when they were in front of me…which is…never!
However, my brain has a “story” about snakes that it tells itself: They’re creepy, they’re slither, they appear in unexpected places, they surprise the heck out of you when you’re walking through the grass, they will pop up and bite you.
Again, the only snakes in my part of the world are small and completely harmless unless you’re a bug of some kind. They’re good for the environment, and I haven’t come across one in years! Yet, I still have a “thing” about them.
You have the same “thing” about being you. You have a story you are telling yourself about what others think, and what it will do to you. The problem with this, is that you know that you need to be you. In order to fulfill your hopes, dreams and goals — to be happier, healthier and wealthier, you KNOW that you need to release this fear.
I can live with my fear of snakes because I rarely see them and they do not affect my ability to be happy in life. I could not live and be happy while being afraid of what people thought if they see me as new-agey and woo-woo by my fairly conservative neighbors, family members and friends...and so I let that fear go! It still pops up, (hey, I’m not perfect!) but I have found a way around it, a way that I wish to share with you.
I can live my life, my way…and be happy! And so can you.
So in this members-only, Premium Call,
I am sharing:
- 3 ways to identify if someone is holding you back in life (and what to do). I have a feeling you know this already, deep down, but I’m going to dig it up for you and remind you of it!
- A 5-Step Strategy for letting go of what others think, without cutting out everyone in your life! (no sense being YOU, all alone!)
- The 2 teeny-tiny little words that will COMPLETELY empower you to change how you view everything! It’s absolutely the most freeing phrase in the English language!
And I’ve got way more information and cool techniques for you!
Join us NOW or check out more information about the Premium Membership over at http://kimberlyenglot.com/membership! (Join us NOW and get access to 3 months of Archives in the private forum AND set your inaugural status BEFORE the price DOUBLES in October...never pay more than your current monthly price)
Catch you on Monday!
Let It Go…
Based on feedback I got from my latest How Can I Help You? survey, I’ve created the next series for the Premium Membership calls (view previous call topics here)! I noticed a lot of people are struggling with fear and being weighed down (figuratively and literally). Most wanted more information on being happy with their bodies, as well as letting go of being afraid of what other people think….so to combat those predicaments, I’m creating the Let It Go series! 
Release yourself from the prison of:
- Worrying about what other people think of you (learn that it’s none of your business)
- Believing what your inner critic is yelling, (don’t believe everything you think)
- Needing utter perfection in your life so that you can continue the facade of happiness (no Martha Stewart’s allowed)
More details will come in the coming months, but starting in August 2010, Premium Members are guaranteed to learn how to let the junk go! See the basics below.
4 Part Series: Let It Go!
- … What other’s think. How to stop caring and start living!
- … Excess weight. How to finally be happy where you are, and watch the weight fall off as a “side-effect”!
- …“Emotional baggage.” How to release the “junk” you’ve accumulated from past heart-ache, disappointment and failure.
- … Perfection. When and where “good enough” is good enough!
If you’re interested in ANY of the topics above and need information you can quickly and easily apply to your own life, make sure you stop by the Premium Membership page and check out exactly what Premium Membership means for you and how you can join us for less than a fast-food meal each month! (Hurry so you don’t miss out on that Charter Members pricing, the monthly fee WILL GO UP).
Being the perfect-sized you
I know that weight and dress size is a contention for a lot of women, and that we’re not supposed to focus on the numbers. But that scale (and the dressing room mirror) doesn’t lie…or does it?
Keep in mind that you have a pre-conceived notion about what you look like. You look in the mirror and probably don’t see the same thing that other people see when they look at you. 
Because of that very thing, you need to lose the weight in your HEAD before it comes off your body. I know because I gained a lot of weight after I got married (25 lbs on my relatively small frame), and lost 35lbs 6 months later…and even though I was smaller, it wasn’t enough. Being in the 130′s should have been perfect. It was my goal…but I was still of “fatty mindset” because it wasn’t good enough. That “fatty mindset” took me back up 10 lbs, still in a normal healthy range and the weight I’m currently at, I am more comfortable here because this is where I remain and I am happy with it.
Which takes us back to my main point, you can by “skinny” according to someone else’s standards and “fat” according to your own. It’s all about perspective and perspective is something you have COMPLETE control over. Weight goes up and down normally (to a certain extent–I believe approximately 5 lbs) but your thoughts on what you look like don’t change as easily. Ask anyone who has dramatically changed their appearance or lost a lot of weight (more than 50 lbs), the mindset is harder to get over than the weight.
I am sharing some tools to help you in my next Premium Membership call on July 19, 2010.
You can join us and find out:
- The #1 thing you can do right now to change how you feel about your body, even if you think you need to lose weight
- How to ACT THIN when you feel frumpy and ugly
- 7 Easy Steps to IMMEDIATELY activate your confidence (great for those situations when you need to fake-it-to-make-it)
- Abraham’s take on health and weight loss (gotta get some Law of Attraction perspective in there
) - And of course, much more.
This call is the 4th and final part in my Happiness Series and is available ONLY to Premium Members (luckily, it’s really affordable and you get access to the rest of the series to help you find harmony in Health, Career and Wealth too, for the price of ONE MONTH’s Membership!)
I’ve taken a lot of the content from my Perfect-Sized You action guide: Eat, Shrink and Be Happy. You can get the total scoop on “authentic weight loss” at http://eatshrinkandbehappy.com
June’s Premium Call: Happiness & Health
Get Happy! Live longer by eating, sleeping and drinking your way to happiness
Being healthy is an important part of being happy. And being happy is an important part of being healthy! These states of being are intimately connected, and without one, the other cannot function optimally.
YOU are in control of your happiness, and your health. Your body does not have a mind of it’s own, you have the mind, and what you think about creates the resistance which is what creates the aches, pains, excess weight etc…
(NOTE: If you don’t believe in the Law of Attraction, you’ll think I am crazy…so you can stop reading this right now.)
What are your dominant thoughts? Do you even know? Chances are that if you have any kind of “dysfunction” in your body, it’s the reflection of negative thoughts/word in your head, and you’re not aware of it. Now, this doesn’t mean that if you have a cold, you were thinking about catching a cold (although that could be the case)…but it does mean you had enough negative energy in your body to “attract” a cold. That is, you were tired, run down, stressed and just inviting in the virus. That’s just a simple example.
If you want to get further to the bottom of the health-happiness cycle, join me LIVE June 21, 2010 at 6pm ET/3pm PT for June’s Premium call.
I am covering:
- The importance of de-stressing and detoxing your life (and exactly how to start)
- 4 Anti-aging tips that don’t involve weird food, plastic surgery or expensive creams.
AND:
- Tips for sleeping better, why 4 days is all you need to get started losing weight and keeping it off, and the beverage you should drink every day to slow down the aging process (it’s NOT water!)
And to get you working toward more happiness AND health until the Premium call, I have a few tips for you to feel better.
The #1 thing I can suggest is to get enough sleep! Sleep rejuvenates and vitalizes the body, without it, you eventually go crazy. And even just a small deficit of sleep is enough to make even the happiest a cranky, snappy mess! It isn’t always easy to increase the quantity of your sleep, I can however share with you MY own personal tips to get better quality.
- Create a routine. I have a shut-the-office-door-and-close-the-laptop-after-9-pm rule…unless there is an emergency of some kind (usually pertaining to a client or my website). I have a shower, climb into bed with my cat or my dog, maybe run-through my tarot cards for the next day, and read something light and inspirational. This routine puts me in a “happy” mindset. And if you were on April’s Premium call, you know that going to be happy means you wake up happy! Create a routine and stick to it the best you can.
- Go to bed earlier. In Marci Shimoff’s book, “Happy for No Reason” she notes scientific research that states the hours before midnight are worth two times (sleep-quality wise) as the hours after midnight. This means that if you go to sleep by 10pm, in those 2 hours, you are getting the same quality of sleep as from Midnight to 4 am.
- Make the effort. This is all on you, if you don’t make the effort to change, you’ve got no one to blame but yourself. Yes kids, work, laundry are calling you…but they’ll still be there in the morning. If you can’t take the time out to care for yourself in the short-term, you’re going to find yourself with a whole new set of problems in the long-term.
So make Happiness & Health a priority this month, and sign up for the FREE LIVE call on June 21, 2010 at 6pm ET/3pm PT.
If you know that you want this info, but can’t make the live call, you can become a Premium Member and get the mp3 recording, access to the previous 2 mp3s in the Happiness Series and all the actions guides/ secret resources that go with the calls.
Learn more about Premium membership.
Dump The Junk…in your money mindset
Not enough money coming in? That is the #1 excuse people give me for why they are holding off on their dreams. #2 is “not enough time” and BOTH stem from 
a lack mentality. In order to truly feel wealthy, you have to feel abundant. No, you have to KNOW you are abundant, that there will always been enough for those things that are important to you.
But society, family culture, and advertising teach us that we are not enough. We don’t have enough, there isn’t enough to go around and there is limited supply. This is a fear-based tactic…focus on the lack. This thinking is called emotional junk. And when you “see” the junk, you are empowered to dump the junk! And dumping the “life junk” is the fastest route to happiness, based on the principle that you have to make room for new fresh stuff to come in and that means clearing out the old thoughts and beliefs that aren’t working.
This works for everything! It is especially true for money and wealth mindset. If you know anything about the Law of Attraction (LoA) you know that focusing on lack only brings about more lack. Try something new and focus on the abundance in your life.
Living a prosperous, wealthy life doesn’t mean having lots of money. It is much larger than that. However, money is a big part of it. If you want wealth, think wealthy thoughts!
Here are 3 ways to dump the junk (the fear and lack mindset) and replace it with a thriving, abundant mindset:
- Look around at everything you already own. Focus on the value of what you have in your life already. If you want to go a step further and really feel the wealthy, go through and place a post-it note with the price you paid on everything. TV, furniture, appliances, shoes, handbags, computers, cell phones, do this for anything and everything. You’ll see very quickly how much value you already hold in your life, especially if you’re really focused on the price tag of things.
- “Act Rich”. This requires that you first get to the bottom of what you think “rich” people act like. Everyone has a different definition. Some people see wealth as having a lot of nice fluffy towels, or expensive sheets to sleep on. And others view it as always being well groomed and having nice manners. What does wealth mean to you? Then act like it, without spending money. Make the effort to put on makeup in the morning, give yourself a pedicure, clean your house, wax your car…anything you need to do feel “rich.”
- Create a Wealth List. List 10 things in your life that you are thankful for, relating to money. Thankful for a job that pays your bills, thankful for health insurance, thankful for a warm, comfortable bed, whatever it is, WRITE IT DOWN! Do this every evening for 10 days and see how your perspective has changed.
Those are just a few ways for you to change your perspective on wealth and money. Remember that “wealth” doesn’t just mean having lots of money, it includes family, friends, sense of community, health and well-being too! Focus on all the ways you’re already wealthy, and you realize that you don’t need anything else. That is when you have dumped the junk…and ARE happy. This is an ongoing process. Even the best in personal development understand that life is about the journey, not the destination and that growth in continual.
If you want more information, or need some extra help. Check out the FREE Premium Membership call: Money Doesn’t Buy Happiness, but is sure does help! How to feel wealthy when more money is flowing out, then flowing in. And find out more ways to “Act Rich”, and WHY money doesn’t buy happiness.
