from Positive Inspirational Quotes (PIQ) on Facebook

I love this and I think it goes nicely with our Dump The Junk in 2012 theme. It’s not about making the toxic relationship ‘bad’ or creating enemies, it’s about setting a boundary for yourself that tells the world and the universe that you deserve to be treated well. You deserve to be valued. That starts by valuing your authentic self.

Don’t forget to sign up for the FREE Dump The Junk eCourse! You can learn more at http://kimberlyenglot.com/dumpthejunkcourse

• “I love her, but I dread spending time with her…”
• “But, we’ve been friends FOREVER…”
• “I never feel like she truly listens to me, but she never fails to call me at 3am after another bad break up.”
• “He only calls me when he needs money.”
• “I dread meetings with him. He manages to make me feel so inadequate…”

I get at least one email with a similar example per month, from someone who is unsure if they’re in a toxic relationship, and what to do about it.

The basic question they’re asking is: Should I Stay? or Should I Go? And they’re looking for permission to do what their heart is already whispering: This person isn’t good for you. Get out now!

But the guilt sets in. Followed by the rational excuses to stay:

• You’re a nice person.
• You don’t want to hurt their feelings.
• You don’t want to deal with the drama.
• You can’t leave your job right now.
• It’s better to have negative contact than NO contact…at least this way you know they’re okay.

And on and on go the reasons to put up with this hurtful, harmful treatment.

Because only YOU can truly know the answer, I won’t give you a concrete Yes or No answer on how to identify and deal with a toxic relationship. I will give you 4 questions to help you assess if this is a toxic person for you (remember: toxic doesn’t mean they’re bad people…just bad for you, right now) and how invested you are in trying to save it.

Consider: Physical and Emotional reaction when with Person X. List 5 normal reactions for each. Then ask:

1. What am I getting out of this relationship? (Why am I still allowing this relationship, if I have already identified it as toxic.)

2. Do I truly care about the survival of this relationship, or has it just been something I’ve unconsciously continued with?

3. Do I cherish this person and everything they offer for me?

4. Am I willing to possibly do all the work in this relationship to make it work? Do I take full responsibility for my part and still (honestly) wish to continue?

If you’re interested in seeing a FREE video on my favorite techniques for dealing with people who drive you crazy, and the 10 Part Dump The Junk eCourse (with free reports, audios and articles sent directly to your inbox once or twice a week) REGISTER HERE:

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Christmas is in a few weeks! 2012 rolls over us in 4 weeks! Are you ready?

Since coming out about my numerology services, I’ve been busy preparing 2012 Forecasts for clients who are wondering about timing, focus and why they’ve felt so stuck in 2011! (And will it get better?!)

Depending on what your Personal Year is for 2012, there are some things to look out for! I’m giving a very brief description of each of the 9 personal years!

So,  how to determine your personal year?

Add each individual digit of your Birth Day and Birth Month to 2012.

Example for me that is May, 22 (5th month + 22nd day +2012 year)

or 5+2+2+2+0+1+2 =14

and reduce it to a single number: 1+4 = 5

I’m in a Personal Year 5 next year.

If you’re in a Personal Year 1:

Time to be #1 at whatever you do! Hopefully you spent 2011 (as a Personal Year 9) prepping for this time!

Personal Year 2:

Work on your emotional side this year. Focus on building (or rebuilding) relationships with friends, family, business colleagues and spouses.

Personal Year 3:

Time to express your creative side! Take a chance, do something out of the ordinary and live life in a bigger way this year.

Personal Year 4:

The year of the expert. Read, research and learn! Also balance this with family and home life (so don’t become a total workaholic.)

Personal  Year 5:

Energy is flying everywhere! Great time to travel and try new things. Not a great year for major commitments (although pregnancy often occurs in Year 5…scattered energy ). When things get too crazy remember, this too shall pass.

Personal Year 6:

After the craziness of Year 5, it’s time to commit, settle down and revamp your home. Also a time for learning and education. In year 6, people often get the urge to redecorate or start a business.

Personal Year 7:

This a year for rest. Let things settle and don’t do anything rash. It might feel like life is falling apart…take this time for focus, introspection and quietly making plans for a great 8 Year next year.

Personal Year 8:

Abundance and prosperity are yours if you’re smart. This is a time to work hard, work smart and invest.

Personal Year 9:

A time to let go and clear away what you no longer want and no longer need. Clean the closets, have a garage sale, decide to eat better or change your spending habits for the better. It’s a great year to prep and make room for all the good that will follow next year (in Year 1).

***There is a very brief introduction to what a Forecast looks like. (They’re actually about 10 pages long.) Depending on your other numbers, you will tolerate the ups and downs differently.***

For me, a 5 year is difficult because I’m a Life Path 11/2…which is all about love. However, I can see that having a baby will bring that love to me and will make the rest of the adventurous, Topsy-turvey year bearable…I also know that it won’t last forever AND I have my month forecast, so I can tell when the really rough months will be and prepare ahead of time!

Check out my Basic 2012 Forecast Report if you are interested in making 2012 a smooth year, with the craziness and bumps out in front of you! Learn more at http://kimberlyenglot.com/numerologyreport/

Love & Light,

Kim

Quick reminder:

Mother-In-Law always criticizing how you raise your kids?

Angry unsubscriber picking on grammar, spelling or how often you email your list?

Ex who says stuff like, “Hey, I love that dress. It reminds me off my Grandma” ?

It’s NOT about you, don’t take it personally.

Even if they are brave enough to facilitate a direct attack on you, it’s not really about you.

It’s a Junk story they’ve created in their own heads.

That’s about them…you’re fabulous, just as you are.

Day 4 was a big one! You CAN’T miss these calls. Really. Watch the highlights and the go listen to the actual calls.

Free Registration is closed, but you can receive all of the calls when you UpLevel Your Success Now.

We had a Money Mindset Theme for Day 3. There are still a few hours left to catch some of yesterday’s calls.
Register at Emergency Mindset Makeover if you haven’t already.

View the highlight video below:

So many great ideas shared today!

If you haven’t signed up already, there is still time to join us for Days 3, 4 and 5 a no cost.

Register at the Emergency Mindset Makeover site.

Good Morning,

It’s time for my BIG ANNOUNCEMENT!

The last few weeks I’ve immersed myself in my latest, top secret project. Although a few details have leaked out because those involved have been unable to keep it to themselves (I can’t really blame them!) today is the official announcement.

I’ve assembled some stellar ladies–those I have worked with or really, really admire…to help me bring some integrity, truth and REAL authenticity back into the business/coaching/online realm.

We’re getting real and vulnerable and sharing dirty details about fear, limiting beliefs and self sabotage. I’ve been busy speaking with each expert and I can’t gush enough about the Aha moment’s I’ve had, along with the integrity and transparency each women is bringing to the table. Really.

If you have ever held yourself back, and beat yourself up about it…if you’ve ever really, really wanted something, but not gone after it…if you’ve ever sat back an thought, ‘WTH, what am I doing wrong?’ I invite you to check out my Emergency Mindset Makeover telesummit.

http://www.emergencymindsetmakeover.com/

I recorded a short 5 minute video to explain more and all the delicious details are on the site. This might just change your perspective forever.

Imagine no more need to be perfect. No more worrying about what others think. No more ‘what if’ or ‘I wish’ or ‘I can’t’. Just perfectly, imperfect action that gets your life humming along an allows you to fully participate in everything you’ve been dreaming of.

None of us are perfect, we openly admit it. We’re human. So are you…and because we’re all human, I believe you can do it. I’ve done it…you can too.

So check out the page and see if it’s for you. Entrepreneur or not, you will come away with some life changing thoughts at the very least!

xoxo,

PS: Join us live…It’s totally free, from June 20-24th. Again, all details are at http://www.emergencymindsetmakeover.com/

PPS: Life is great and you deserve happiness

If you know me, you know that I’m a bit of a paradox. I am quite the softy, liking things that are beautiful and warm and fuzzy. I’m also quite stubborn and can be ‘spunky’ as one friend put it (a polite way of saying I will call you on your ‘stuff’.) I am scientific, analytic and very into ‘how and why’ of life. So when I go into ‘softy’ mode, it can surprise people. I’m going into woo-woo land just a bit today, even though I’m against ‘fluff’, when it comes to trusting your gut and using your intuition (in business and in life) it’s not fluff…it’s just smart!

I’m reading ‘listen‘ by Lynn A. Robinson right now. It’s about trusting your gut in times of adversity, and it’s a great book. I’ve read lots of book on intuition, but this is definitely written for a ‘spunky’ softy like myself, who loves to ask ‘Why’ and ‘How.’

You are full of magic, and all the answers you need are within, if you know how to ask and what to look for.

I often get asked, ‘How do you know when it’s your intuition, and when it’s just fear?’

My usual answer is, ‘If it’s a ‘real risk’ and you can’t afford to take it (ie: you’ll die)…it’s fear. If it’s fear filled with enthusiasm and possiblity, it’s’ fake fear.’ Breathe through it. You’ll be great!)

I understand if that’s not quite the answer you’re looking for, especially if you’re a ‘how’ and ‘why’ gal too.

From Lynn, this might help:

When you’re feeling good about something, that’s your intuition saying, “Move in that direction.”

So you’ve ‘asked’ and you’re waiting for the answer. Lynn asked 1000+ people how they know when they’re receiving a ‘yes.’

• “I feel energized when I think of the decision.”
• “It’s a thought that stays with me. If it doesn’t go away, I know it’s intuition.”
• “I feel safe.”
• “And idea pops into my head that wasn’t there moments ago.”
• “I feel at peace.”

The way you know you’ve got a ‘no, don’t go there?’

You feel shut down, closed, off, heavy, negative and irritable. One woman describes it as, “It feels like I got a letter from the IRS that says I’m scheduled for an audit.”

Look back in your life. When did you follow through when your spirit was screaming, ‘don’t do it!’ Did you take a job that was wrong, or stay in a relationship you knew was bad for you?

Trust your gut, you really do know best.

Are you an addict?

Are you addicted to asking everyone else’s opinion?

Are you addicted to worrying about what others think?

Are you addicted to asking advice before asking yourself?

If so, you’re living your life by jury…and what kind of life is that?

Not yours.

Take a moment right now and look at your life.

Are you happy?

Are you satisfied and fulfilled?

Do you trust your decisions?

Are you living your life? Or are you really living the life that has been compiled by all of those people whose opinions you ask each time  a major decision comes up?