Byron Katie–I’m too fat
A friend of mine shared these videos a couple of months ago and I resonated so strongly with them that I knew I had to share with you. Of course I forgot about them until recently when I realized that they were a perfect fit for my upcoming Happiness & Self Premium Membership call (these videos also go very nicely with several topics in my “Letting Go” Premium Series, starting in August.) I invite you to join us as we discuss self esteem, self love and self discovery on July 19! Learn more at http://kimberlyenglot.com/being-the-perfect-sized-you/
Talk about getting it…You are the perfect sized YOU!!!
If you are unhappy regarding your own physical appearance, take the time to watch these videos! Take to heart what Katie has to say. (Part 2 is my favorite–“You’re not too fat to be you…and in a perfect Universe, someone has to be you!” Love it!!!– but make sure you watch Part 1 first or it won’t make as much sense)
Byron Katie: I’m too fat. Parts 1 & 2
Let It Go…
Based on feedback I got from my latest How Can I Help You? survey, I’ve created the next series for the Premium Membership calls (view previous call topics here)! I noticed a lot of people are struggling with fear and being weighed down (figuratively and literally). Most wanted more information on being happy with their bodies, as well as letting go of being afraid of what other people think….so to combat those predicaments, I’m creating the Let It Go series! 
Release yourself from the prison of:
- Worrying about what other people think of you (learn that it’s none of your business)
- Believing what your inner critic is yelling, (don’t believe everything you think)
- Needing utter perfection in your life so that you can continue the facade of happiness (no Martha Stewart’s allowed)
More details will come in the coming months, but starting in August 2010, Premium Members are guaranteed to learn how to let the junk go! See the basics below.
4 Part Series: Let It Go!
- … What other’s think. How to stop caring and start living!
- … Excess weight. How to finally be happy where you are, and watch the weight fall off as a “side-effect”!
- …“Emotional baggage.” How to release the “junk” you’ve accumulated from past heart-ache, disappointment and failure.
- … Perfection. When and where “good enough” is good enough!
If you’re interested in ANY of the topics above and need information you can quickly and easily apply to your own life, make sure you stop by the Premium Membership page and check out exactly what Premium Membership means for you and how you can join us for less than a fast-food meal each month! (Hurry so you don’t miss out on that Charter Members pricing, the monthly fee WILL GO UP).
Being the perfect-sized you
I know that weight and dress size is a contention for a lot of women, and that we’re not supposed to focus on the numbers. But that scale (and the dressing room mirror) doesn’t lie…or does it?
Keep in mind that you have a pre-conceived notion about what you look like. You look in the mirror and probably don’t see the same thing that other people see when they look at you. 
Because of that very thing, you need to lose the weight in your HEAD before it comes off your body. I know because I gained a lot of weight after I got married (25 lbs on my relatively small frame), and lost 35lbs 6 months later…and even though I was smaller, it wasn’t enough. Being in the 130’s should have been perfect. It was my goal…but I was still of “fatty mindset” because it wasn’t good enough. That “fatty mindset” took me back up 10 lbs, still in a normal healthy range and the weight I’m currently at, I am more comfortable here because this is where I remain and I am happy with it.
Which takes us back to my main point, you can by “skinny” according to someone else’s standards and “fat” according to your own. It’s all about perspective and perspective is something you have COMPLETE control over. Weight goes up and down normally (to a certain extent–I believe approximately 5 lbs) but your thoughts on what you look like don’t change as easily. Ask anyone who has dramatically changed their appearance or lost a lot of weight (more than 50 lbs), the mindset is harder to get over than the weight.
I am sharing some tools to help you in my next Premium Membership call on July 19, 2010.
You can join us and find out:
- The #1 thing you can do right now to change how you feel about your body, even if you think you need to lose weight
- How to ACT THIN when you feel frumpy and ugly
- 7 Easy Steps to IMMEDIATELY activate your confidence (great for those situations when you need to fake-it-to-make-it)
- Abraham’s take on health and weight loss (gotta get some Law of Attraction perspective in there
) - And of course, much more.
This call is the 4th and final part in my Happiness Series and is available ONLY to Premium Members (luckily, it’s really affordable and you get access to the rest of the series to help you find harmony in Health, Career and Wealth too, for the price of ONE MONTH’s Membership!)
I’ve taken a lot of the content from my Perfect-Sized You action guide: Eat, Shrink and Be Happy. You can get the total scoop on “authentic weight loss” at http://eatshrinkandbehappy.com
Happy Happy Joy Joy! Spread happiness
I sent this out to my eZine list last night. But I had to REALLY share this great new (if you know me, you know that I don’t do anything half way!). So I’m announcing it on my blog too. (I think everyone has the right to be happy, and it’s the small things that add the most joy.)
Wednesday I found out news that I just HAD to share with the world!
My husband and I are expecting a new member of the Englot Family!
On Sunday, we are going to pick up our new, adopted puppy a Border Collie cross! I’ve 
been floating on air since I found out we were approved yesterday morning.
And of course, I spent a lot of time and money yesterday night at the local pet store trying to decide on which bed to buy her and what color of collar to get (Pink, or Blue with Sparkles? So hard to decide!). My husband had to intervene or we would have been there all night (I picked the pink one).
We haven’t decided on a name yet, we’re going to wait and see what suits her. Sasha, Misha, and Sammy are in the lead right now. What do you think? I think she looks like a Sasha or a Sammy.
Anyway, I’ve been sooooo happy the last 24 hours that I’ve gone slightly delirious. I am offering Happiness Booster Coaching for the first 10 people that book sessions, at the outrageous price of $147 for 60 minutes!) That’s a savings of over $100.
This is PERFECT for you if:
- You basically know what you need to be doing in your business, but you’re procrastinating because you feel overwhelmed, unsure or not confident. You just need a new, more experience perspective to provide some fresh insight and you’ll be off and running! We’ll get to the root of the procrastination so that you can excel in your business and create more products, programs and add more clients (which translates into more $$$).
- You want to make a change in your life (write that book, find that special someone or change careers) but you want to do it painlessly and fear, self-sabotage and limiting beliefs are holding you back! I have some exercises and questions for you to ask yourself so that you can INSTANTLY change your perspective and you can easily accomplish your 2010 goals in the time that is left this year.
- You have a specific “unhappiness” trigger (hate your job, constantly worried about money, stuck in a dead-end relationship). We will get to the bottom, the EXACT THOUGHT that is causing your pain and holding you back. When we find it, you’ll instantly change your perspective so that you can shift your energy and the good stuff starts to flow toward you!
An hour is more than enough time to accomplish this…as my Platinum Master LIFE Cleanse Clients know! (See Alesia’s Rave Review below).
Because I have limited space in my calendar, this Delirious with Happiness, Outrageous Happiness Booster price is limited to the first 10 people…first come, first serve. After that, the price goes up to the regular amount of $250 an hour.
An hour of time. Less than the cost of a designer handbag, nice leather shoes, a night out or more months wasted! What is your time worth?
Okay, this is supposed to be a quick, joy-filled message! I’ve got to go back to puppy planning now! Have a great night 
xoxo
Kim
P.S. Don’t risk regret at the end of this year that you did not act quick enough to get into my schedule. I only have limited space open for coaching clients!
Raving Reviews!
Success = Passion + Intensity + Opportunity
I subscribe to Success magazine. It’s a fantastic resource, full of inspiration articles and stories.
I was reading about Gillian Michaels (the trainer for the Red Team on the Biggest Loser) and she has a lot of things to say about success, health, wealth and being authentic. Something really struck me, though, and I really had to share some of her insights.
Gillian’s Formula for Success (according to me)
“I opened myself up to the opportunities that came my way, and I pursued them with passion and intensity. And when you do that and you stay open, then you allow those opportunities to manifest in ways that they are meant to.”
Oh my goodness! A women aligned with my own self. What a great way to describe how the Law of Attraction works. She also said this:
“Do you see failure as a validation that you’re worthless, or do you see failure as an entry point for learning so you grow stronger and wiser and better? And do you see failure as an integral part of success? Taking ownership of the state of your life, you’re empowering yourself to change it in any way you choose.”
Again, thank you, Gillian…I couldn’t agree more!
It’s Your Right to Be Wrong
Catchy title, isn’t it? I can’t claim it as mine. I was actually sent a “reminder” on Facebook for an event that I didn’t want to go to. But that is a whole other blog on social media etiquette…
Regardless, I loved this subject line. And it got my mind rolling.
What are some other rights that we have as humans, that we so often forget to claim or apologize for? Here is what I came up with:
- Reserve the right to make mistakes. Yes. You are not perfect. I am not perfect and anyone pretending to be perfect isn’t fooling anyone! In my business research I continually see the fact that it’s those who fail continually, who actually succeed. Crazy, I know. But this is the reason why, instead of giving up after one failure, they go on UNTIL they succeed. Keep trying a new avenue and it will eventually work out for you.
- Reserve the right to change your mind. It’s hard for us to do this, especially as women who are used to being nice and accommodating, never to trouble anyone. I say screw that! I know it sounds harsh, but I reserve the right to change my mind at any time especially if something isn’t working for me. Which leads me to…
- Reserve the right to be self-ish. If you don’t focus on making you happy, no one is going to do it for you. AND if you place your happiness in another person’s care, they can easily take it from you, on purpose or not. That doesn’t sound very empowering, does it? Focus on self care, and then spread the love to others. It will be so much easier when you do it this way, even though it’s counter-intuitive at first.
- Reserve the right to say NO. Look back at number 3. This is your life and you only get once chance to live it. Looking back there are very few things that I regret saying no, too. You’re more likely to regret saying yes to something you are just on the fence about, than to say no. Re-prioritize and set boundaries or change your perspective so that saying YES, feels good!
- Reserve the right to say YES! You know when you want to say yes, but something holds you back? You really want to take a ball room dancing class, or ask that cute guy out for coffee but something is holding you back…it’s call fear. Specifically it’s an underlying commitment that at one time worked to keep you safe, now it works to keep you stunted. If there is ANY disconnect between the life you have and the life you want, check your actions and say YES to more of the things that align you with what you want.
- Reserve the right to be vulnerable. You don’t always have to be in control and serene. Sometimes getting emotional and opening up leads to true break-throughs and clarity. AND sometimes it helps people to see you as human. I was once told that I was intimidating, which I found intriguing because I’m introverted, but I have always tried to be approachable. It wasn’t until I started to relax and let my real self show through that people started to really respond to me, but I first had to get it out of my head that I always had to calm and cool to be professional. Warmth does not equal weakness (and excitement or enthusiasm doesn’t mean you’re unsophisticated or “uncool.”)
- Reserve the right to change. That is change, period. Unless you are living underground and in the dark, you are changing every single day. Hopefully you’re changing and expanding with new ideas, new theories, new experiences. It’s as simple as noticing something small and appreciating it (like a beautiful sunrise) that can bring huge change into your life by changing perspective. Reserve the right to grow as a person and (see #2) change your mind.
- Reserve the right the be wrong. See #1!
Reserve the right to give yourself permission to be a human being, full of imperfections and faults.
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The Ultimate Solution to creating lasting happiness & harmony
I have some really exciting news…
Over the weekend, Gina Bell and I decided to makeover the Master Life Cleanse!
LOL, actually we’re just changing the name.
Now you might be wondering why I’m telling you this…
This is really great for YOU because it means I’m having a virtual “clearance sale” on the Master LIFE Cleanse Action Guide because we have to change the name. Which means cover changes and some content upgrades.
I’m clearing it out!
Sort of…Obviously it’s a virtual product, BUT I am clearing out this version AND the price (Outrageous $17 3-Pay)!
(Short on time, but want in? Go to http://kimberlyenglot.com/mlcactionguide2-1/)
The Master LIFE Cleanse Action Guide:
Your Guide to Happiness & Harmony!
Are you:
• Feeling stressed, tired and overwhelmed?
• Worn-out trying to live up to other people’s expectations?
• Desperate to rediscover the real you, but unsure how?
• Unhappy with some of the relationships in your life?
• Drowning in clutter, disorganization and a growing to-do list?
• Afraid of what others might think if you make a change?
• Terrified that when you start to make changes people will judge you, make snide comments, or avoid you all together?
• Constantly comparing yourself to others, feeling inferior or than you have so far to go to catch up or keep up?
If you have answered YES to any of these points and you don’t want to feel this way one second longer –
Grab your copy of this Action Guide! http://kimberlyenglot.com/mlcactionguide2-1
Interested in what others are saying about the Master Life Cleanse?
Here is what Alesia had to say about her private Life Cleanse coaching call with me and Gina:
You ended the call notes with the suggestion to ponder ‘What if I am already okay!!’
I can’t tell you how freeing that is! It took the long ingrained cultural Automatic Negative Thought of “work is hard” and blew to smithereens!
My “inner work” doesn’t need to be hard (in fact I wonder if it needs to “be” at all.) Several times in my private call and in the weekly calls you’ve said it could be fun. You suggested taking things which I procrastinate on (like writing thank you notes) and turn them into something to be fun. That is REVOLUTIONARY to me!
Before the call – “things should be hard.”
After the call – “things should be easy!”
Gina’s suggestions on how to make my difficult work moments stress-free and easy were also very helpful!
Thank You!
Alesia Zorn
Oregon, USA
http://www.alesiazorn.com/
Because I’m continually learning and growing my knowledge base, this action guide is evolving as well. (It went from 60 pages last year, to over 100 this year, and I can easily add another 40 in all the new tools and techniques I’ve come up with for this current Life Cleanse). Which means that next edition, the price will also be going up!
So if you want a copy while at this price point, I’ve made it super easy for you! In fact along with the incredibly low $47 price, I’ve also decided to do an Outrageous $17 3-Pay! (That way no one has ANY reason to not do this program!)
Grab Your Copy At http://kimberlyenglot.com/mlcactionguide2-1/
I’m ONLY offering the Outrageous $17 3-Pay for the next 7 days. And once I get the new cover design, the price is going up!
Here’s a sneak peek at what is covered:
* Six primary LIFE TOXINS that you MUST IDENTIFY if you want to experience Happiness & Harmony in your life
* INCLUDING how to break through barriers such as:
* Toxic Relationships;
* Automatic Negative Thinking Scripts;
* Resistance; Guilt, Self-Doubt, & Resentment;
* Breaking Free of Worry;
* Comparison traps;
* Tolerating Good Enough;
* and more!
This is a content-rich Action GUIDE where you learn actual techniques to help you identify the toxins at work in YOUR life and how to “cleanse” them and make room for the growth, happiness and harmony you deserve.
Get your copy now, at the Outrageous $17 3-pay price! http://kimberlyenglot.com/mlcactionguide2-1/
Have a great week!
Kim
PS– Remember you only have until April 12, 2010 to take advantage of my Outrageous $17 3-Pay Option and grab Your copy of this Life Cleanse Action Guide!
http://kimberlyenglot.com/mlcactionguide2-1/
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Who Am I? Confronting my worst fear
To preface this post: I am terrified of FAILURE! It’s a huge driving force for me to succeed, but as I learned, if you don’t look the fear in the eye and tell it to go away it will own you (and you will eventually sabotage yourself anyway).
Sometimes you have to be careful. Well, I’m actually referring to myself in this post (yep, another one all about me 
).
Sometimes I have to be careful OR I will end up not exactly where I wanted to be. Which is where I am.
I know!It’s a bit ironic….
Here I am, an authentic-life coach, and I managed to end up in a bit of an unauthentic place. And now I’m publicly writing about it!!!! But that is exactly why I’m going public, because if I can’t be honest and free…who can?
Here it goes…
So I had a plan, to unveil my Insiders Group. It’s (or rather it was) a monthly membership group. This year’s focus is all about Happiness, Using the Law of Attraction, and Discovering Your Truth. But the last couple of weeks, I just wasn’t feeling it. I ignored that feeling and kept going, which means I didn’t really give it my all to promote it.
I was full of excuses…”It’s through Christmas…people are with their families. I want to spend time with my family, not promoting and working.”
But I had a “niggle” that something wasn’t right. I attributed it to things being slow (but come on, December is so busy for everyone).
Nope, that’s not it.
The truth was that the program had morphed into something that didn’t feel like me. AND it happened slowly and stealthily.
I had to change one thing, but then that one changed affected something else…and then I had to change something else. So before I knew it, my “flexibility” ended up creating a monster.
No matter what I tried I could feel right about it.
In a panic on Monday, I reached out to my business coach for support. I was searching and reaching for something that I could never find. Maybe I should adjust my marketing plan, maybe my niche isn’t right, maybe…maybe…maybe… And in the back of my mind was this thought that I didn’t want to think.
Maybe this program isn’t YOU any more and you need to let it go.
NOOOOOO! That can’t be it, that would be giving in, giving up, and failing. Maybe if I just find something else….
So I was searching and searching, finally I allowed myself to acknowledge that haunting little voice. It wasn’t my ego, or any limiting beliefs, it was my Authentic Self calling me, asking me to return to what I had originally asked for.
My business coach (bless her soul!) made it okay for me to “give up” and actually showed me that giving up was actually going to save me, so it wasn’t really giving up.
So I cancelled my Discover Your Authentic Life Insiders Group. ( I guess you could say this is your official notice)
It had morphed into something that I didn’t want. BUT the crazy thing is, that now that I’ve confronted that fear and gone head first into it, I feel great! I don’t feel like I gave in or failed at all. I feel bright and shiny again, like my self….my authentic self!
Don’t get me wrong, I LOVE the content that I was preparing to share with the group.
I love all of the experts I had lined up, and all of the cool bonuses I was unveiling.
And I will continue to love all of that, but I don’t have to settle for “good enough” when it comes my business.
If I want to deliver that content in an 8 week program, I can. I don’t need to be flexible when it comes to that part of me. There is no need for me to conform to what others want me to do, at least not to the point where I have lost myself and my voice.
From this, I have re-found my authentic voice and I want you to learn a few things:
- Flexible is good. Just make sure it always feels good to you. There is no point in bending until it hurts (or even just “niggles.”)
- Support is imperative! Think of all of the money I could have spent on books, marketing solutions and courses trying to make my idea right. There isn’t enough money in the world to throw at a problem that comes from covering up your authentic self. Instead of spending thousands on systems, I funnel my budget towards my coaching and mentorship. Don’t get me wrong, systems are wonderful. They make life much simpler, but only if you have the right intention behind them. And you can’t always find that intention if you’re trying to fit yourself into a vision that doesn’t work for you anymore. If I didn’t have my coach to tell me that it was okay to change my mind, and then change my mind again and again and again, if I needed to, then I would have just thrown money at the problem and tried to make it go away.
- Working on it doesn’t work. Yep, you’ve heard me say this before. It’s the title of one of my fave books AND a subject I was covering in the Insiders Group (is that ironic??) but it’s really true. Like I said above, you can’t work on something to fix it. You have to acknowledge it and let it be. When I acknowledged that the group had turned into something that I didn’t want anymore, the problem immediately disappeared. Instantly! I realized that there was no problem and could see the non-solution! (Which was cancel the group as it is, use the content in a different way (when it feels right) AND focus on what you love (my Master LIFE Cleanse material)). So that is what I’m doing. I quick working on it, and just acknowledged it’s presence, and now it’s gone.
- Everyone gets stuck sometimes (see the importance of #2). Even authentic-life coaches and people who “should” know better. In fact, it’s very very easy and only takes one “should” or obligation or “have to.” Very important to have someone who can point this out, and give your permission to do what scares you (but that you know you want to do anyway).
- It’s okay to be afraid of the authentic self, but don’t let that deter you from following it. (See #2 to help you get through that fear!)
So those are my lessons. I now feel free, fabulous and can’t wait to re-direct my energy to something that really feels great to me! I will revisit the Happiness, Using the Law of Attraction, and Discovering Your Truth stuff (after all I absolutely love that stuff too!), but it wil
l change to fit me instead of me changing to fit it!
Go out there, get that vision straight, know you’re non-negotiables and listen to those niggles! It’s all okay!
4 Tips for a Slim Holiday Season
I know that Christmas is fast approaching. This is a struggle for many people who
imagine a thinner silhouette. I have a few tips up my sleeve to help you get through
the next couple of weeks with out destroying your fun!
#1 DON’T CUT OUT THE COMFORT FOOD.
Often the first things to go when “on a diet” is the comfort food.
With Eat, Shrink & Be Happy, you’re not on a diet. BUT you may be tempted to cut out all chocolate, sugar, potatoes and bread. DON’T DO IT!
In my own experience, the moment I tell myself, “Kim, you know you said you wouldn’t eat that,” that is ALL I can think about. It occupies my entire mind space. Then what happens? … I end up sitting down and eating an entire bag of crackers and brie!
Don’t fall into that trap! There is nothing that will test your will power and your
sanity more, than cutting out comfort food.
Try this instead: Don’t cut it out. Allow yourself to eat whatever you want, but
pay attention to every bite. Notice the flavor and texture and enjoy every bit of
it. You’ll notice you eat a lot less because you are aware when you’re satisfied and you
just naturally stop eating.
#2 NOTICE WHEN YOU’RE HUNGRY. BUT if you’re going to eat it anyway:
“I’m not hungry but I’m going to eat this anyway.”
Another corner-stone of my action guide is to constantly check in and see
whether you’re hungry or not. Sometimes you aren’t hungry, but have a
craving anyway. Decide that you’re going to eat it. Say it out loud. (Go
into the bathroom so people don’t think you’re nuts) and repeat:
“I’m not hungry but I’m going to eat this anyway.”
Then promise yourself that you’re going to enjoy every last bit. AND
promise yourself you will not feel guilty afterward. This doesn’t work if you eat it
and then beat yourself up. That will just cause more emotional cravings.
#3 PRESENTATION IS KEY.
Something that looks beautiful and has a beautiful name is going to
taste better. It is also going to make you feel more satisfied.
Think of 2 restaurants: A fast food chain, they name their signature
hamburger….a hamburger.
Now think of a really fancy restaurant.
They might also have a hamburger, with the very same ingredients
(basically) and it is called something like a “Texan’s Choice Sirloin
Beef Steak Burger”.
What makes your mouth water more? What do you think will satisfy
you more? Yep. The fancy one.
So if you are hosting the holiday meal, come up with some interesting
names for some of your dishes. (Think “Gourmet Frenched Green Bean
Casserole, and 12 Whole Grain, Cranberry and Almond Stuffing.
You guests will be wowed (they will think you put more work into it
and they’ll think it tastes better) and you will be satisfied with less, because
you have tricked your brain into thinking it’s better quality.
#4 20% RULE
This is probably the easiest to do (in theory). You can eat 20% more
or less and your stomach doesn’t notice. They have actually done
studies on this.
This is great news now that you know it. SO put 20% less on your plate
than you think you will want to eat. (You might try to hold back 1 scoop of
mashed potatoes, and 2 pieces of turkey instead of 3).
Don’t try to put 50% less. You will notice, then you’ll go back for seconds
and the point of this is wasted. 20% will do. Then eat it, savoring it.
Set the intention to eat only until you are no longer hungry and enjoy
every second!
Hopefully those tips will have you thinking in a more relaxed way. Have
a plan in mind to tackle the next couple of weeks. The holidays don’t
have to be a struggle for you!
Remember that you are fabulous exactly as you are right now. And
that you’re doing the best you can. Your perfect body is the one you’re in.
In 6 months she might weigh less, but she will still be the same person.
Relax. Use a smaller plate, a taller glass and enjoy every minute of
these wonderful days!
Interested in more tips for surviving the holiday food-fest? Check out the Eat, Shrink, and Be Happy Action Guide. Not a diet book, it will help you to accept yourself, love yourself and lose weight while you admire the wonderful women in the mirror!
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