from Positive Inspirational Quotes (PIQ) on Facebook

I love this and I think it goes nicely with our Dump The Junk in 2012 theme. It’s not about making the toxic relationship ‘bad’ or creating enemies, it’s about setting a boundary for yourself that tells the world and the universe that you deserve to be treated well. You deserve to be valued. That starts by valuing your authentic self.

Don’t forget to sign up for the FREE Dump The Junk eCourse! You can learn more at http://kimberlyenglot.com/dumpthejunkcourse

Good morning lovely readers!

I’ve been waiting for this day for months and it’s finally here. It’s like waiting for Christmas morning (I love that feeling) and I can now officially reveal my FREE Limited Edition follow up to Dump The Junk & Be Happy:

Dump The Junk & Be Happy: Biz, Career, Money!

It was written by me and 11 other successful women in business. We realized that you need to switch your mindset if you’re going to create a business that actually makes money (so may business owners give up because it’s just too hard, and heart-breaking). This book is all about mastering your mindset, releasing what doesn’t work (like self doubt, needing everyone to like you, fear, worry, lack mentality) and how to do it to ensure that you create a life and a business that fits YOU and makes you happy.

This is your life!

Learn more and get this FREE eBook before it disappears…yes, it really is a Limited Edition!

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Quick reminder:

Mother-In-Law always criticizing how you raise your kids?

Angry unsubscriber picking on grammar, spelling or how often you email your list?

Ex who says stuff like, “Hey, I love that dress. It reminds me off my Grandma” ?

It’s NOT about you, don’t take it personally.

Even if they are brave enough to facilitate a direct attack on you, it’s not really about you.

It’s a Junk story they’ve created in their own heads.

That’s about them…you’re fabulous, just as you are.

Day 4 was a big one! You CAN’T miss these calls. Really. Watch the highlights and the go listen to the actual calls.

Free Registration is closed, but you can receive all of the calls when you UpLevel Your Success Now.

We had a Money Mindset Theme for Day 3. There are still a few hours left to catch some of yesterday’s calls.
Register at Emergency Mindset Makeover if you haven’t already.

View the highlight video below:

It’s time to set aside the fear of failure, greatness, not enough, and not perfect. You already are perfect and you are as ready as you’ll ever be.

Learn how to identify and manage the fear of success and failure by joining us for the Emergency Mindset Makeover Telesummit, June 20-24. It won’t cost you a dime, but it will change your life forever.

Live Fearlessly Now. Learn more about the Emergency Mindset Makeover Telesummit and how it will end self sabotage.

Good Morning,

It’s time for my BIG ANNOUNCEMENT!

The last few weeks I’ve immersed myself in my latest, top secret project. Although a few details have leaked out because those involved have been unable to keep it to themselves (I can’t really blame them!) today is the official announcement.

I’ve assembled some stellar ladies–those I have worked with or really, really admire…to help me bring some integrity, truth and REAL authenticity back into the business/coaching/online realm.

We’re getting real and vulnerable and sharing dirty details about fear, limiting beliefs and self sabotage. I’ve been busy speaking with each expert and I can’t gush enough about the Aha moment’s I’ve had, along with the integrity and transparency each women is bringing to the table. Really.

If you have ever held yourself back, and beat yourself up about it…if you’ve ever really, really wanted something, but not gone after it…if you’ve ever sat back an thought, ‘WTH, what am I doing wrong?’ I invite you to check out my Emergency Mindset Makeover telesummit.

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I recorded a short 5 minute video to explain more and all the delicious details are on the site. This might just change your perspective forever.

Imagine no more need to be perfect. No more worrying about what others think. No more ‘what if’ or ‘I wish’ or ‘I can’t’. Just perfectly, imperfect action that gets your life humming along an allows you to fully participate in everything you’ve been dreaming of.

None of us are perfect, we openly admit it. We’re human. So are you…and because we’re all human, I believe you can do it. I’ve done it…you can too.

So check out the page and see if it’s for you. Entrepreneur or not, you will come away with some life changing thoughts at the very least!

xoxo,

PS: Join us live…It’s totally free, from June 20-24th. Again, all details are at http://www.emergencymindsetmakeover.com/

PPS: Life is great and you deserve happiness

I had eye surgery last Friday. Besides minor discomfort, and the inability to read or spend much time on my computer for 3 days, it was not a big deal.

Something strange happened, though. After wearing glasses for 20 years, I found myself feeling like a part of my identity was gone. Strange? Yes. Silly? Probably…but it’s given me the opportunity to, literally, have a new pair of eyes and a fresh perspective.

So, as I was lying on my couch last Friday afternoon, I was thinking about the other things in my life that don’t belong any more (besides glasses) that I’d been tolerating for too long. Luckily, there weren’t many things, and nothing major. My list contained:

• The 3 boxes of clothing and housewares that need to be donated to charity (sitting in the garage for 4 months)
• The silly idea that I have to do it all, and be perfect at it
• Not running, even though it bugs me when I don’t, and even though I get positive vibes after
• Thinking I ‘have to’ run in the 10k every year, just because I have in the past

That’s it. So the next day we got those boxes out of the garage and donated, I’m actively working on NOT being perfect (why even try, it’s so obvious I’m not), and the running thing…well, I know it’s there so I’m going to be working on releasing that to (or just doing it!)

Are you letting Junk pile up?

Is it time to look at life again, with a fresh new perspective and clarity around what you want?

Life is busy. Careers, spouses, kids, parents, obligations…that doesn’t leave a lot for the average woman to take time for herself. This leads to resentment, frustrations, even rage (or worse) numbness.

If you’re feeling that way, it’s time to do a clean sweep on the Junk in your life.

Being so busy, it’s easy to let the Junk pile up…after all you’ll get to it later. Except that you don’t, and so the pile continues to grow little by little until you wake up one morning unable to bear it and then completely freak out.

This moment is completely avoidable, if you make the time to periodically cleanse the Junk in the first place.

Think of life like a pristine vase. It’s beautiful, clean, and only contains things you LOVE. Over time someone will tell you that you must have ‘ABC’ in your container, and even though you don’t want it there, you let it in. Someone else tells you to add ‘DEF’, and again, you don’t really think it fits but because they said so, you add it. It feels wrong, but the more things that other people TELL you to add, the less ‘wrong’ it feels and your ability to tolerate it goes up. Until one day you find your beautiful, pristine vase dirty, scummy, and overflowing with garbage!

YUCK! No wonder you feel so bad.

If you take the time go clear out the vase every once in a while, the Junk stays out, and you don’t get used to tolerating things that aren’t good for you.

Take 15 minutes today, do it right now if you have time, to look into your Vase and find the things that don’t belong in there. Make a list, set the intention to do a cleanse, and then get to work!

The following items are ‘Junk’:

1. People who constantly belittle you, make you feel stupid, or tell you that you can’t do something.
2. The thoughts/beliefs that tell you those meanies are right.
3. The activities that you don’t enjoy any more, even if you once loved them.
4. The fear that you’re not good enough or that you’re a burden
5. The Oprah magazines from 2003 that you’re going to get to ‘later’
6. The books on your shelf that you haven’t read, and you feel guilty about that every time you look at them (read them, or donate them.)
7. The j.o.b that barely pays your bills, doesn’t fulfill you, and makes you cry.
8. The ‘Friend’ who only calls you when she wants something.
9. Worrying about things that don’t really matter (or thinking that by worrying, you’re some how preventing it).
10. Anything in your house that you a) don’t use b) don’t love c) don’t want.

It’s easy to get too busy to notice the Junk, but you really don’t want to wake up in 40 years drained and feeling abused. This is in your control. Do something about it!

If you KNOW you need to do something about it, but need some guidance or support, contact me (kimberly@kimberlyenglot.com) for a complimentary Discovery Session. We’ll figure out what doesn’t belong, what you need to add back in, and how to do it in a way that makes you happy! This is your life, your happiness is up to YOU. Fight for it!

It’s interesting that this should appear in my life right now (the LoA working wonders!) as I was just having a conversation yesterday about the lack of integrity out there, which led me to share a video I made last year about internet “Trolls.”

This video by Deborah King (author of Truth Heals) is another great take on the toxic person, and the types of psychic attack that may show up because of them.

What do you think? Do you agree with this? Disagree? Think it’s a load of cr@p? Experienced it before? Share your thoughts.

Want to see the video that sparked some conversation on Facebook? “Don’t Feed The Trolls” from January 2010. Watch it here. I also write an entire section about Energy Vampires in my book The Now of Happiness. Learn more or purchase a copy here.

Confessions of a Happy Person…

I’m EXTRA spunky today (my husband says it’s because of the full moon?) and so  I’m going to funnel it into something that I think you’ll be relieved to find out — You’re Not Alone.

Sometimes people suck.

And by “people,” I’m generalizing. Sometimes I suck, I’m sure you’re not perfect either

There, I said it. You know it — so quit judging me and pretending you have no idea what I mean.

I work with a lot of people, thousands over the last 10 years and I’ve learned a few things. Hopefully my experience will make yours much less painful, and you can apply my experience to life and business.

You can stop feeling like you’re alone in this irritation, and stop ignoring it (because ignoring this fact won’t make you feel better and won’t change a thing. You can’t change reality by ignoring it or fighting it.)

Here I go…

1. People will disappoint you.

   Even ones you love will break promises, not follow-through or outright lie to you about their intentions.  Sometimes this is intentional, mostly it’s not.

2. Not everyone will agree with you.

   Some will say you’re wrong or you don’t know what you’re talking about. Some will give you a look, and others will point at you and laugh This doesn’t feel good, but it happens and there is nothing you can do. Trying to please everyone will leave you burnt out, unhappy and you’ll still have people who think you’re “doing it wrong.”

3. Not everyone will like you.

   Just like #2, about 50% of the people will like you and about 50% will not. Trying to make everyone like you in not authentic and by doing so you’re also leaving your integrity on the floor to be stomped all over. It is hard going against the crowd, but staying true to who you are and standing up for your own values will leave you happier than having a lot of “friends” who don’t even like the real you.

4. Everyone has a shadow.

   It shows up as fear, jealousy and sabotage. There are some people who are so unhappy, uncomfortable and un-confident that they will do what they can to bring you down. Don’t be surprised if these people end up being the ones you thought you could depend on. Sad, but true. Those closest to you might get a little bit jealous when you start losing weight, making more money or playing a bigger game. They’ll get passive-aggressive, or outright snarky, and they’ll do what they can’t to make you feel bad. Jealousy can get ugly.

While you might have a perfect life where none of this exists (if that’s the case, why are you reading this?) 99% do not. I have been fairly lucky, with my attraction marketing plan (in business and in life) and through doing a Life Cleanse on myself twice a year since 2009, I have eliminated a lot of this. But I do get the odd troll who just wants to bring me down, and often its the trolls I thought I could depend on that sting the most.

So what can you do?

• Recognize them for what they are: Human. People have bad days, and some are just mean spirited. If they’re an snarky email comment, or a nasty Facebook Friend or Twitter follower, delete and block. If it’s someone in your life, you’ll have to make bigger changes to yourself (or your relationship).
• Acknowledge that “it is what it is.” The reality of your situation is that it is what it is, because it is what you’re currently experiencing. And fighting it or disagreeing with it won’t make it go away, or make you feel better. In fact, you’ll usually feel worse.
• Turn to your true “tribe” for proper support (you know the ones that you know for sure, are their for you). My true tribe is really small…a tribe of about 5, depending on the issue, but I have a tribe of several thousand through Twitter and Facebook who I can count on most of the time to “get” me. Not always, but like I said, my attraction marketing works and I have some FAB people in my social media circle!

That’s it for this true-life confession. Don’t feel bad, you’re not alone, sometimes people really do suck!

©2010 Kimberly Englot

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