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How to manage the Self Sabotage
Good Morning,
It’s time for my BIG ANNOUNCEMENT!
The last few weeks I’ve immersed myself in my latest, top secret project. Although a few details have leaked out because those involved have been unable to keep it to themselves (I can’t really blame them!) today is the official announcement.
I’ve assembled some stellar ladies–those I have worked with or really, really admire…to help me bring some integrity, truth and REAL authenticity back into the business/coaching/online realm.
We’re getting real and vulnerable and sharing dirty details about fear, limiting beliefs and self sabotage. Read more
You’ve been slimed: psychic attack & energy vampires
It’s interesting that this should appear in my life right now (the LoA working wonders!) as I was just having a conversation yesterday about the lack of integrity out there, which led me to share a video I made last year about internet “Trolls.”
This video by Deborah King (author of Truth Heals) is another great take on the toxic person, and the types of psychic attack that may show up because of them.
What do you think? Do you agree with this? Disagree? Think it’s a load of cr@p? Experienced it before? Share your thoughts.
Want to see the video that sparked some conversation on Facebook? “Don’t Feed The Trolls” from January 2010. Watch it here. I also write an entire section about Energy Vampires in my book The Now of Happiness. Learn more or purchase a copy here.
Sometimes People Suck
Confessions of a Happy Person…
I’m EXTRA spunky today (my husband says it’s because of the full moon?) and so I’m going to funnel it into something that I think you’ll be relieved to find out — You’re Not Alone.
Sometimes people suck.
And by “people,” I’m generalizing. Sometimes I suck, I’m sure you’re not perfect either 
There, I said it. You know it — so quit judging me and pretending you have no idea what I mean.
I work with a lot of people, thousands over the last 10 years and I’ve learned a few things. Hopefully my experience will make yours much less painful, and you can apply my experience to life and business.
You can stop feeling like you’re alone in this irritation, and stop ignoring it (because ignoring this fact won’t make you feel better and won’t change a thing. You can’t change reality by ignoring it or fighting it.)
Here I go…
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People will disappoint you.
Even ones you love will break promises, not follow-through or outright lie to you about their intentions. Sometimes this is intentional, mostly it’s not.
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Not everyone will agree with you.
Some will say you’re wrong or you don’t know what you’re talking about. Some will give you a look, and others will point at you and laugh
This doesn’t feel good, but it happens and there is nothing you can do. Trying to please everyone will leave you burnt out, unhappy and you’ll still have people who think you’re “doing it wrong.” -
Not everyone will like you.
Just like #2, about 50% of the people will like you and about 50% will not. Trying to make everyone like you in not authentic and by doing so you’re also leaving your integrity on the floor to be stomped all over. It is hard going against the crowd, but staying true to who you are and standing up for your own values will leave you happier than having a lot of “friends” who don’t even like the real you.
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Everyone has a shadow.
It shows up as fear, jealousy and sabotage. There are some people who are so unhappy, uncomfortable and un-confident that they will do what they can to bring you down. Don’t be surprised if these people end up being the ones you thought you could depend on. Sad, but true. Those closest to you might get a little bit jealous when you start losing weight, making more money or playing a bigger game. They’ll get passive-aggressive, or outright snarky, and they’ll do what they can’t to make you feel bad. Jealousy can get ugly.
While you might have a perfect life where none of this exists (if that’s the case, why are you reading this?) 99% do not. I have been fairly lucky, with my attraction marketing plan (in business and in life) and through doing a Life Cleanse on myself twice a year since 2009, I have eliminated a lot of this. But I do get the odd troll who just wants to bring me down, and often its the trolls I thought I could depend on that sting the most.
So what can you do?
- Recognize them for what they are: Human. People have bad days, and some are just mean spirited. If they’re an snarky email comment, or a nasty Facebook Friend or Twitter follower, delete and block. If it’s someone in your life, you’ll have to make bigger changes to yourself (or your relationship).
- Acknowledge that “it is what it is.” The reality of your situation is that it is what it is, because it is what you’re currently experiencing. And fighting it or disagreeing with it won’t make it go away, or make you feel better. In fact, you’ll usually feel worse.
- Turn to your true “tribe” for proper support (you know the ones that you know for sure, are their for you). My true tribe is really small…a tribe of about 5, depending on the issue, but I have a tribe of several thousand through Twitter and Facebook who I can count on most of the time to “get” me. Not always, but like I said, my attraction marketing works and I have some FAB people in my social media circle!
That’s it for this true-life confession. Don’t feel bad, you’re not alone, sometimes people really do suck!
©2010 Kimberly Englot
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