Identifying Self Sabotage Part 1

Self sabotage is something that everyone deals with at some point in life. It becomes a problem when you continually let fear, worry, and self doubt take over your dreams and then look back and regret it.

It is perfectly natural for you to have fear and worry, these are meant to keep you safe and from acting in a way that could harm you and your tribe. These feelings go all the way back to cave days, when failing to consider “what if” and be on high alert meant a saber-tooth tiger might have you for dinner.

Fear serves it purpose sometimes, but most people let it take over and are fearful of situations that aren’t actually risky. Don’t get me wrong, you have to seriously consider all aspects of a major decision before you leap into it, but too much thinking allows the fear to take over and will hold you back.

I could break self-saboteurs down into great detail, but in the end they’re all virtually related so I’ve identified 4 main categories, that I will share with you over the next week,  to help you understand what is holding you back from your dreams. Next time you have to make a decision, listen to your internal dialogue and see what you can “hear” yourself saying.

1. Self doubt and limiting beliefs.

“Because I have failed in the past, I will fail again so why bother.”
Because of something in your past, you’ve learned to play it safe. The base cause of limiting beliefs (and everything else that holds you back) is irrational fear. It isn’t necessary for you to have direct experience with these beliefs in order for them to corrupt you. For example, if you grew up without a lot of money you may have heard your parents claiming that poverty was more virtuous that wealth and you hold the belief that money is evil, without actually experience wealth.

“I can’t start my own business because I’ve never done it before.”

“I don’t deserve to feel good.”

“Money brings out the worst in people.”

“Asking for help means I’m weak.”

Those are some very broad, very common limiting beliefs.

That is the first of the four. I was overwhelmed with responses to my How Can I Help You survey, and it was very, very clear to me that the thing people are concerned about most is understanding, identifying and preventing their self-sabotaging behaviors. There was also a big concern about money and not having enough. I’ve tried to incorporate as much information as I can in this four part blog series, but if you want a more step-by-step process with exact tools and techniques to get you moving faster than you would on your own, I won’t leave you hanging.

From my Master LIFE Cleanse program I have created mini-makeovers. My favorite one is the Mindset Makeover Program and because I promised to listen to you, it is the best way to get you out of your small comfortable box and into happiness, health and wealth!

You can buy the Mindset Makeover for $147.

I’ve also created a $30 5-pay option for those of you who still have money concerns. (5 pays for this kind of product are unheard of, but I never said I followed the crowd ) but the 5-PAY is ONLY available until JULY 21, 2010. After that, you can no longer pay for it in installments.

The Master Life Cleanse: Mindset Makeover System
This Mini-Makeover combines the Automatic Negative Thoughts, Self-Sabotage /  Limiting Beliefs and the Guilt, Worry, Anger and Fear mindsets that hold you back from greatness! If you’re ready to clear out the negative thinking that is holding you back, it’s time for a mindset makeover.
You Will Learn :
~ A simple exercise to uncover your ANTs and false beliefs
~ The ONLY 2 ways you can deal with ANTs to get them out of your life for good
~ The 3 Steps to identify your true fears (they may not be what you think they are)
~ 5 Strategies you can do to immediately shift from “I can’t” to “I can”

Paid in Full: $147

Or choose the $30 5-Pay Option

I know you’re going to love this! Between the action guide (that covers the entire Master LIFE Cleanse program) and the 3 teleseminars you are going to flip at all the unique (and simple) ways you can identify your limiting beliefs and leave self sabotage FAR FAR behind you! Add it to your cart now, before you forget and get started on this process immediately!

What people have said about my Master Life Cleanse Program

Here is a testimonial from one my my Spring 2010 Master LIFE Cleanse:Happiness & Harmony participants.

“I started a business in 2010 and knew that I would do what I needed to do in order to succeed. I also knew that I would benefit from coaching. Enter Kim! and her wonderful Master Life Cleanse program. One of the biggest hurdles for me has been procrastination. I could spend endless time planning, making lists or thinking about what I should do, but not actually doing it. Since I participated in the MLC , I have been so much more productive. I have been able to complete information for my website, make networking phone calls and even put up a page on Facebook. Three of the really big things I got out of the MLC was clarity, clarity and clarity. The steps to this were so clear and concise and have been life changing for me. There were many terms that Kim came up with to describe a particular process. My favourite without a doubt is “Success Rituals” which refers to specific activities to assist with getting you in the frame of mind to work on any particular project with success. Thank you for your beautiful spirit and the work that you do.”

Joanne Klaassen
Winnipeg, Canada

After the Spring 2009 Master Life Cleanse, Kaitrece wrote me a long, beautiful letter. This is just part of it, you can read the rest HERE.

“…After the Life Cleanse, I felt refreshed and free. Free to Be.  To move. To Start. To Act.  I felt ‘clear’ – and I was. I’d walked through key areas and had the opportunity to make a fresh assessment of where I was and recommit to healthier, more self-affirming choices in my life. When you clear out the past, you free yourself, and in the process, you become trained to hear your own voice more clearly. Your Authentic Voice. When you can hear your Authentic Voice, its so much easier to make Authentic choices and find your Authentic Purpose – that gift you have to offer the world that is a unique expression of You.  No one else can do what each of us has been set here to do.

The biggest thing I took away from the Master Life Cleanse was something that I’d learned years before, but had lost the habit of practicing in my daily life. I learned to be aware of the ‘inner critic’ and listen in a more powerful way to the negative self-talk that we all hear but don’t always notice.

Today, I’ve gotten clear on what I feel passionate about and how I can package that into services I can offer in the marketplace.  I hired a Business Coach to help me create the business & results I really want in my life. I’ve selected a business name, filed for my DBA, registered my domain name and am now mapping out my site, systems and processes to launch my business. I’m really happy with how far I’ve come and am grateful to Kimberly for her guidance and continued support and cheerleading through the process!”

Kaitrece Fort
Riverside, CA, U.S.A
www.InlandBusinessTechnology.com