HOW I dump the junk…and be happy
I have been talking A LOT about the importance “dumping the Junk” lately. Some of it has to do with the end of the Master LIFE Cleanse program, I always feel refreshed after teaching that course.
Part of it has to do with the need I see out there…people’s lives are still filled with JUNK! So I feel a personal responsibility to share my experiences with others. (Enter the Dump The Junk eBook, which is FREE, so you have no reason NOT to grab a copy, devour it and live it.)
In my Authentic Self Book Club meeting on Wednesday, one of the participants asked me how I was able to not let negative circumstances get to me. The short version of my answer is this:
I just don’t experience the negative in the same way that I used to. I’ve dumped the Junk, and become less magnetic to negative stuff (aka: Junk — sarcastic, angry people; guilt; anger; self doubt; debt). I just don’t physically or emotionally attract the stuff anymore.
Not that my life is perfect. Far from it! But I am living and experiencing a different life than I was 3 years ago. And it all stems from the effort I’ve been putting in to change how I am feeling and what I’m attracting. It takes effort, but done right, it feels effortless.
I’m not going to share how I Dumped MY Junk in this post, you can grab the free book for that, but I am going to share with you 3 of my favorite “happiness vibes” exercises.
These are the systems that I use to pull myself out of a funk when I notice I’m falling into one. And with time, I’ve managed to go from “flabby thinking” and letting my thoughts control my emotions with out my awareness, to being fit and fabulous! (Vibrationally, at least). These are the ways I did it.
Focus Wheel. This is an Abraham-Hicks Process and I’ve talked about it before. It’s just a wheel, with what I want in the center. I get “on” the wheel but stating a true, yet positive statement that feels good. After I get the first one (it’s the most difficult) the LoA takes care of the rest, flooding my system with more positive and true thoughts. By the time I’ve filled out the entire wheel, I am very close to feeling like I’ve already accomplished my goal in the center. And that puts me “into the vortex” to attract what I want, quicker and without a lot of effort.
The Wheel on the right is a quick example I created. It should give you the basic idea to help you get started with your own. NOTE: Do not put anything on the wheel that doesn’t make you feel good! Only positive thoughts are allowed.- Gratitudes (specific). After I’ve completed the Focus Wheel, I spend time coming up with 10 things that I am grateful for, specific to whatever I placed in the center of my wheel. (Example, if my Focus Wheel is all about feeling good and looking fit, I’d do 10 Gratitudes on how I already feel like a “thin” person).
- Rampage of Appreciation. After the the Gratitudes I do another Abe-Hicks Process. I sit and I just appreciate everything around me. This is like a broad Gratitude list. I appreciate the sun shining and my healthy, fat cat. I love the sweater I’m wearing, it feels so good, and the computer I’m writing at. I love the people I’ve come across and the paint on my walls. Love everything, but be honest. You’ll create a lot of dissonance (resistance) if you try to fake this.
Those are my Secret Weapons to happiness. And I do them daily. Get into a habit of setting aside 20 minutes each day to do the same and see how it becomes a habit to feel good…and see how you become less attractive to the Junk in life!
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Monday Morning Gratitudes
Hallowe’en Weekend! It was a fun one. As my hubby and I handed out candy and watched a marathon of “scary” movies (The Witches of Eastwick -my choice-, Hallowe’en H20 – his choice- and Devils Advocate -joint choice-) I realized how lucky I am to live in such a safe community. It is the kind of place where you don’t necessarily need to remember to lock your doors at night. There are no boogey men lurking around (although I’m perfectly aware that it’s the “normal” ones that get you!). It is a place where I definitely want to raise my kids, when I decide to have kids.
So This weeks’ Gratitude is this:
I am so thankful for my safe and wonderful community. A place where strangers help you out, and neighbors are kind and friendly!
Happiness and Self Acceptance
I have my Authentic Self show this afternoon. The show, “Eat Shrink and Be Happy” is roughly based on the action guide I wrote, but it’s not really about weight loss (the action guide or the Authentic Self show). It’s deeper that that. I wonderful colleague of mine talked about “weight acceptance”, I put it in terms of self esteem, self love and self acceptance. It’s a guide to happiness: body mind and spirit! I’m talking about how to be happy no matter what while answering some questions that people have been sending me regarding authentic weight loss.
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When you’re unhappy with your outer appearance how can you get to a place of happiness in your whole life? One simple tip to remember: you are not your thoughts. You don’t need to believe everything your mind tells you. It’s your mind causing you pain. It’s telling you you’re not skinny enough, that you shouldn’t have eaten that brownie and that you should now feel guilty because of it. Its your mind that is getting upset over the number on the scale.
Here’s the thing, you’re not any of those things! You are not the number on the scale, the brownie or the guilt. You don’t have to look in the mirror with loathing — all of those things are a complete illusion. I know right you’re thinking I’m crazy. You might be swearing at me, thinking I’m just some skinny brat who has no idea what she’s talking about. That’s fine, you can take your anger out on me…but that will not change a thing.
Thoughts are the ONLY reason you are struggling in life. Whether it’s general unhappiness, dissatisfying career or relationships, or physical ailments, your thoughts are bringing you more unhappiness than is necessary. What if you decided that today you’re going to just be happy? What if you decided to look in the mirror and list the things you love about yourself rather than what you hate? What if you decided to show your body some gratitude and go for a walk instead of watching tv until you went to bed? What if instead of complaining you made a list of things you were grateful for? I bet that after 3 weeks of doing this, you’d notice a difference in how you feel. Something crazy happens when you stop believing all of your thoughts…your perspective changes. When your perspective changes, so do your circumstances. It takes time and effort, but that one little tip is the thing that is going to make the biggest difference in your entire life. Like a muscle or any new task you want to learn, exercise and practice makes perfect!
Try it. Let me know how it goes. And if you want to believe that I’m just some crazy person, that’s okay too, everything in life is a choice.
If you decide to change your thoughts, start by listening to Authentic Self: Eat Shrink and Be Happy at 3:30 PT / 6:30 ET today, or listen to the archives later. Also grab your own free copy of my Authentic Weight Loss Report, at http://www.kimberlyenglot.com/weightlossreport before Friday! As of August 28, 2009 at 11:59 ET this free report is disappearing for good. Grab yours today!
Gratitute Challenge
If you follow me at all, you know that since I have finished my Master Life Cleanse Program in June, I have been writing 10 things I’m grateful for at the end of each day, and completing a minimum of one round of EFT. This is had made a huge difference in how I feel. I am peaceful, centered and balanced. Opportunities are being presented to me out of what I would think to be “no where” and I am incredibly happy, for no reason.
I have challenged all of my Authentic Self Newsletter subscribers to do the same.
The last 9 days I have been away. I was camping with my family in the woods. I love camping. I get to get away from everything. Leave the city, the responsibilities and the stress behind me to truly experience nature. It’s still, peaceful and quiet. It’s something I look forward to every summer. Of course, this meant that I was leaving behind all technology, and because I felt “away” from it all, I slacked off in doing my gratitudes and EFT.
I got home yesterday and decided that I was going to write 50 gratitudes. At first I doubted I could do it. I kept making deals with myself. If I could just get to 20, maybe 25, maybe 35. But I got to 50 relatively easily. Now this has as a number of “lessons” written into it:
- You never know unless you try
- Don’t discount yourself
- You can come up with an infinite amount of things to be thankful for if you truly try
I also have to admit that besides feeling really, really good after it was an excellent way to spend 30 minutes completely present in my life.
If you need a little bit of perspective in you life, or just need to re-connect with your authentic self, I highly encourage you to take 30 minutes out of your day and write down 50 things you are grateful for. You’ll feel so wonderful after you just might make it a habit!
