Identifying Self Sabotage part 3
Here is the third part of the 4 part Installments I promised.
Part one: “Self doubt and Limiting Beliefs”
Part two: “Fear/worry”
3. Shame/Guilt.
“I’m not worth it.” “I’m not a good person if I put myself first.”
They’re both the same thing and they’re both related to fear. You are telling yourself that you don’t deserve success, health, wealth unless everyone else around you has it too. You are trying to control everyone else’s happiness, which is impossible. What you focus on you get more of, so if you are trying to make everyone ELSE happy you will end up making them happy and you will be drained and overwhelmed.
Another example: You want more money. So you are focusing on having MORE money, which really means you don’t feel like you have enough. So you are actually focusing on NOT ENOUGH…which brings you situations where you feel lack and not enough. Make sense?
Guilt makes you feel selfish for wanting more. Guilt makes you put other people’s needs and wants ahead of your own. Guilt keeps you tired, old-looking and sick.
If you find yourself continually putting someone else first, you are sabotaging your success. If you can find the money to put your children in yet another art class or on a sports team, you can find the money to join a yoga retreat, just for you. Don’t let the guilt of not giving everything to everyone else prevent you from enjoying your own life.
Guilt is a HUGE waste of the present moment. And it’s a really bad habit (like paying for something over and over and over again). Pay once and let it go!!! It can be tempting to just not bother, after all, you’ve survived this long, right? But if you’re interested in thriving, not just surviving, if you need extra help identifying your limiting fears my Mindset Makeover will help.
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Use your powers for good
Guilt.
It’s a dirty word in my realm, and for the last few years I rarely let it enter my experience. I don’t feel guilty about saying no (or saying yes, to the odd guilty pleasure). I don’t feel guilty about doing something I love, and I don’t feel guilty about taking “me time” when I need it.
I’m not perfect, but for the most part, I’ve eliminated guilt in every area of my life.
There is a lot of guilt around getting rid of guilt! I address this deeper in my Master Life Cleanse program, but essential we treat guilt as the price we pay for doing what we want.
Which brings me to my main point of this blog post:
You cannot possibly feel bad enough (or guilty enough) for someone else, to make THEM happy in the long term. Others do not grow because you shrink.
An example is the best way to illustrate my point. I have a client who makes a lot of money doing what she loves, and she feels guilty! She feels guilty that there are people out there without jobs, and guilty that she has a lot of material things, while others have very few. She even feels guilty about feeling guilty because she knows it’s a waste of time! To combat this guilt, I showed her that her feeling guilty did nothing to improve the circumstances of her friends and family, and a light-bulb turned on for her.
She “got it,” and realized that she could improve their lives by living hers to the fullest and being happy!
A funny thing happens when you’re happy (and you release guilt)…people want to know why. They gravitate towards you because you are nice to be around, and they start to feel better.
You are no good to anyone playing small, or not living your life to the fullest. Use your powers for good, don’t stunt them.
A favorite saying of mine:
“Better to light a candle, than curse the darkness”
