I hate to say it, but if you don’t like your life (business, relationship, neighbourhood, job….) you are the only one responsible for changing it. That means that you have to do something different, to get different results.

Here is what will happen when you try something different: YOU WILL GET IN YOUR OWN WAY!

Unless you have total, unbiased, non-judgmental support from an outside source to keep your momentum up, your lizard brain will thwart your attempts to change. Watch out for these two lizard brain traits so that you can be aware of them and create a plan to beat them at their own game!

These Two things will stop good intentions EVERY TIME

1) “It’s Not That Bad”

When things get hard, it is so much easier to settle back into the comfortable routine and think to yourself, ‘Well, I don’t really need to lose weight. There are people worse off than me.’ Or ‘You know, I don’t really want to run a marathon, that’s just something on everyone’s bucket list.’

And that gives you automatic permission NOT to change a thing…because you’re already gloriously happy, just as you are.

Except you’re not. It’s your brain tricking you into think that you are.

I’m not arguing against being happy where you are, totally the opposite! If you are truly, 100% happy at your current weight, fitness level and musical ability then you do not need to change a thing. But don’t fake it and use it as an excuse to remain the same, because that definitely won’t make you happy.

If you are crying yourself to sleep, struggling to get up every morning to go to a job you hate, fighting with your spouse more than you’re cuddling…it IS that bad. Time to try something new.

2) Inertia: what got you here will not get you there.

I just love this graphic. It sums everything up perfectly!

I know that most people think there is an innate drive for success and happiness. This is a total lie. There is only an innate drive for ‘more of the same.’ It’s a matter of high school physics: An object in motion remains in motion unless another object interjects.

You will not lose 10 lbs or learn to play the violin by thinking about how much you want it. You have to fight the inertia and take action. The same is true with every goal.

If you want to make more money, you have to do something different.

If you want a better relationship with your spouse you have to do something different.

If you want a beautiful, organized home you must do something different!

What got you here, will not get you there.

You have to take purposeful, strategic action to change your life.

If you are looking to stop the insanity and try something different and get total support to help you achieve your results (like write a book, lose 10 lbs, forgive your sister) then you’re in luck because I can help! Learn more about my coaching options here. Or at the very least, do something different and grab my FREE eBook: Dump the Junk and Be Happy! on the right hand side of this page

Good morning lovely readers!

I’ve been waiting for this day for months and it’s finally here. It’s like waiting for Christmas morning (I love that feeling) and I can now officially reveal my FREE Limited Edition follow up to Dump The Junk & Be Happy:

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It was written by me and 11 other successful women in business. We realized that you need to switch your mindset if you’re going to create a business that actually makes money (so may business owners give up because it’s just too hard, and heart-breaking). This book is all about mastering your mindset, releasing what doesn’t work (like self doubt, needing everyone to like you, fear, worry, lack mentality) and how to do it to ensure that you create a life and a business that fits YOU and makes you happy.

This is your life!

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Walt Disney

 

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You woke up this morning, looked at your To Do list and realized that not one single thing excites you. In fact, you’re ready to…

1. …run for the hills and never return (and if it weren’t for your kids, you probably would). Or
2. …climb back into bed and pull the covers over your head. 

But you’re a good girl, so you get ready for the day…like it’s any other day. And inside you are silently screaming (or worse, completely dead), wishing something would change.

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Transformation is different than change. Change feels hard. It takes work and planning. Transformation begins instantly, usually as a result of a crossroad being marked in your life. You don’t plan for a transformation, it just happens.

When it comes to happiness, the rules are the same. A Happiness Transformation happens instantly. In fact, you can experience one right now.

1. Stand up and shake one leg, then the other (like you’re doing the Hokey Pokey.) This will bring sensation back into the lower part of your body. If you can, take your shows off and feel your feet connecting to the ground. There, you’re now ‘grounded.’ Take a deep, full breath and feel your body. Notice where you feel good, where you feel bad. Focus on your ability to move freely, breathe freely. Notice that you can see clearly. Take another deep breathe and thank your body for all it does for you. If you don’t appreciate your body for what it is after that, I’m not sure you ever will!
2. Leash up the dog and take a walk. If you’re near a park, river, forest or actual ‘nature’, even better. While walking, be fully present (stay out of your head) and notice the beauty of nature around you. Appreciate how large the trees grow despite cold weather, drought, floods, sweltering summer, or bugs. Notice that when a drought appears, the trees don’t just give up– they keep going. They don’t have a choice. Enjoy the plants, the flowers, the clouds, the birds. Recognize that a power much greater than you or I can imagine created this wondrous planet.

Some really quick transformations deal with mood and are simpler:

1. Check out a website that makes you laugh. Laughter transforms your insides and outsides like nothing else!
2. Quickly write down 5 things you are grateful for and why.
3. Listen to your favorite song.
4. Write a Thank You note.
5. Pull up your favorite memory and dwell in it for a few moments.

Just because you experience one transformation doesn’t mean you get to stop and never have to try again. The compound effect applies here: the more you practice this, the more your happiness will grow (exponentially, of course).

For more details and ideas on living a happier, healthier, wealthier life join me on  Jennifer Longmore’s (Soul Journeys) Transformation Talk Radio show, Soul Purpose Central. We’re talking about being happy in a frustrating world, letting go of the guilt and the feeling you’re being selfish when you start to take care of yourself–You know that’s all BS, right?

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xo

I think it’s time for a reality check, and so I’m going to talk about something that I’m passionate about, that effects 95% of my clients and followers, but that I rarely dig deep into: Business.

There is a false belief out there that it’s very easy to start up a business and immediately have $10 000 months on a regular basis.

That is what I call BULL.

Is it possible? Yes.

Is it probable? No. And I’m not trying to be a Dream-Stealer here, but you knowing this just might save you a lot of grief. You can stop feeling like a failure and give up the image of you crawling back to a full time j.o.b right now!

You CAN succeed. You CAN be happy. You can be wealthy doing what you love…but you can’t do everything perfectly, all at once.

I have a few Safety Tips for you to remember while trying to build your business without going crazy.

1. Work part time.

   DO NOT immediately quit your job, unless you have thousands in savings that you’re willing to part with, a very wealthy spouse, or a HUGE client that will immediately bring in money.
   There is nothing wrong with working while you build your business, and most entrepreneurs do it, even though they don’t admit it.
   Working part time will allow you to build your business without money stress. It will allow you to afford the coaching that gets you BIG results (and good coaching is very expensive.) It will keep your passion, your passion, rather than becoming another j.o.b.

2. Be YOU.

   Don’t try to imitate your mentor. As much as you can admire someone, it is much better, and simpler to just be you. You’ll attract your ideal clients easier, and you don’t have to constantly think about how your actions effect your brand. I am just me in my life AND my business. I don’t worry about how my social media, blog, eZines, or interviews effect my business (which many guru’s will tell you is a big no-no) but because I’m clear on who I am and who I want to attract for clients, I have eliminated a lot of stress of having to constantly “be on” — by just being me.

3. Consistency is Key and Show Up Fully.

   When you first start, you start at step one…also known as Zero. Zero clients, Zero products, Zero prospects on your list. And that is fine…EVERYONE starts at ZERO. And there are many, many ways  to get you from zero to not-zero. Some are quick, some are not, but it depends on your time/money/comfort status.
   NOW, whether you have 1 or 10 000 on your “list” the key is to show up and care for every single one of them. Show the first few people on your eZine list that they are as important as if they were spending loads of money with you. Don’t just think that because you only have 100 subscribers, you don’t have to try that hard. That is a huge mistake. Show up regularly, give them great content, and let them know about new things going on in your business.

4. People buy from those they: Know, Like and Trust….

   which is why #2 and #3 are so important. Building a business takes time in. You cannot grow relationships overnight. It can take YEARS, but don’t let that frighten you (because you have other sources of income, right? See #1).  Most “overnight” successes actually took 10 years of hard work.

You are not alone. Frustration is rampant, especially among people out there following those that claim they can make you $30 000 in one month, starting from zero, and have you living like a Queen in 12 months or less. This usually ends in tears, anger and (hopefully NOT) you giving up to go back to corporate America.

Don’t get me wrong, any thing is possible, but wishes, hopes and dreams don’t build a business. KNOWING exactly what you want and then following good advice and your intuition will. Intention is only valuable if you put your intentions into action.

Just make sure you feel good about the actions you are taking, and you’re set for success!

©2010 Kimberly Englot

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I have been talking A LOT about the importance “dumping the Junk” lately. Some of it has to do with the end of the Master LIFE Cleanse program, I always feel refreshed after teaching that course.

Part of it has to do with the need I see out there…people’s lives are still filled with JUNK! So I feel a personal responsibility to share my experiences with others. (Enter the Dump The Junk eBook, which is FREE, so you have no reason NOT to grab a copy, devour it and live it.)

In my Authentic Self Book Club meeting on Wednesday, one of the participants asked me how I was able to not let negative circumstances get to me. The short version of my answer is this:

I just don’t experience the negative in the same way that I used to. I’ve dumped the Junk, and become less magnetic to negative stuff (aka: Junk — sarcastic, angry people; guilt; anger; self doubt; debt). I just don’t physically or emotionally attract the stuff anymore.

Not that my life is perfect. Far from it! But I am living and experiencing a different life than I was 3 years ago. And it all stems from the effort I’ve been putting in to change how I am feeling and what I’m attracting. It takes effort, but done right, it feels effortless.

I’m not going to share how I Dumped MY Junk in this post, you can grab the free book for that, but I am going to share with you 3 of my favorite “happiness vibes” exercises.

These are the systems that I use to pull myself out of a funk when I notice I’m falling into one. And with time, I’ve managed to go from “flabby thinking” and letting my thoughts control my emotions with out my awareness, to being fit and fabulous! (Vibrationally, at least). These are the ways I did it.

1. Focus Wheel. This is an Abraham-Hicks Process and I’ve talked about it before. It’s just a wheel, with what I want in the center. I get “on” the wheel but stating a true, yet positive statement that feels good. After I get the first one (it’s the most difficult) the LoA takes care of the rest, flooding my system with more positive and true thoughts. By the time I’ve filled out the entire wheel, I am very close to feeling like I’ve already accomplished my goal in the center. And that puts me “into the vortex” to attract what I want, quicker and without a lot of effort.
   The Wheel on the right is a quick example I created. It should give you the basic idea to help you get started with your own. NOTE: Do not put anything on the wheel that doesn’t make you feel good! Only positive thoughts are allowed.
2. Gratitudes (specific). After I’ve completed the Focus Wheel, I  spend time coming up with 10 things that I am grateful for, specific to whatever I placed in the center of my wheel. (Example, if my Focus Wheel is all about feeling good and looking fit, I’d do 10 Gratitudes on how I already feel like a “thin” person).
3. Rampage of Appreciation. After the the Gratitudes I do another Abe-Hicks Process. I sit and I just appreciate everything around me. This is like a broad Gratitude list. I appreciate the sun shining and my healthy, fat cat. I love the sweater I’m wearing, it feels so good, and the computer I’m writing at. I love the people I’ve come across and the paint on my walls. Love everything, but be honest. You’ll create a lot of dissonance (resistance) if you try to fake this.

Those are my Secret Weapons to happiness. And I do them daily. Get into a habit of setting aside 20 minutes each day to do the same and see how it becomes a habit to feel good…and see how you become less attractive to the Junk in life!

For those of you who are eZine subscribers, you already have my Dump The Junk & Be Happy eBook. Everyone else, you can get it here.

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I have been thinking a lot about happiness this week, preparing for Mondays Premium Membership call and I have decided that there is one thing you can do that makes the largest impact on your happiness.

Do something you love every single day

Sound simple, but how many of you actually do it? Until you make it priority to be happy, it falls to the side and life gets in the way.

I know because that is what happened to me. I wanted happiness, but I didn’t want to do the mindset work that accompanied being happy for no reason. And then one day I just got sick of it…all of it, being angry, miserable, depressed and fat (yes, at that point I was also 25lbs heavier).

I had a light-bulb moment (I share the brick wall that hit me in this blog post if you want the details) and instantly made the decision to change things. It started with checking out this “Secret” that everyone had been talking about for 2 years (yep, I was late on the bandwagon for that one) and it snow balled from there. Since late 2007 I have been making happiness a priority in my life.

I started small (reading books on the Law of Attraction…my first was The Success Principles by Jack Canfield) and doing the exercises. Then I decided to turn my idea and my experience (in career and life) into a career. I haven’t looked back since.

And by doing what I love every single day, I am automatically happy! You need something to look forward to in life, especially if you’re not happy, otherwise what’s the point? If you have a job you don’t like, what about your life do you life? If you aren’t happy in your relationship, what part of your life do you like? Focus on that, and find reasons to feel gratitude for that. Bring in more fun, don’t sit at home brooding. Spend more time with people you love. Watch feel good TV! Listen to radio and teleseminars that expand your mind, beliefs and thinking. Strengthen those happiness muscles!

In the next few months, my Premium Membership calls are focusing on expanding your happiness muscles, because I know it can be tough to start if you don’t know what you don’t know! So if part of your life that you hate included your job, join me on Monday April 26th for my Premium Call  “Business of Happiness: What to do when you really really hate your job and want to quit (but can’t)“. It’s Free if you show up LIVE. Get all the juicy details here!

Your assignment for today: Come up with 1 thing you can do today, that makes you happy. Make sure you actually do it. Make happiness a priority!

Love & Light,

Kim

Catchy title, isn’t it? I can’t claim it as mine. I was actually sent a “reminder” on Facebook for an event that I didn’t want to go to. But that is a whole other blog on social media etiquette…

Regardless, I loved this subject line. And it got my mind rolling.

What are some other rights that we have as humans, that we so often forget to claim or apologize for? Here is what I came up with:

1. Reserve the right to make mistakes. Yes. You are not perfect. I am not perfect and anyone pretending to be perfect isn’t fooling anyone! In my business research I continually see the fact that it’s those who fail continually, who actually succeed. Crazy, I know. But this is the reason why, instead of giving up after one failure, they go on UNTIL they succeed. Keep trying a new avenue and it will eventually work out for you.
2. Reserve the  right to change your mind. It’s hard for us to do this, especially as women who are used to being nice and accommodating, never to trouble anyone. I say screw that! I know it sounds harsh, but I reserve the right to change my mind at any time especially if something isn’t working for me. Which leads me to…
3. Reserve the right to be self-ish. If you don’t focus on making you happy, no one is going to do it for you. AND if you place your happiness in another person’s care, they can easily take it from you, on purpose or not. That doesn’t sound very empowering, does it? Focus on self care, and then spread the love to others. It will be so much easier when you do it this way, even though it’s counter-intuitive at first.
4. Reserve the right to say NO. Look back at number 3. This is your life and you only get once chance to live it. Looking back there are very few things that I regret saying no, too. You’re more likely to regret saying yes to something you are just on the fence about, than to say no. Re-prioritize and set boundaries or change your perspective so that saying YES, feels good!
5. Reserve the right to say YES! You know when you want to say yes, but something holds you back? You really want to take a ball room dancing class, or ask that cute guy out for coffee but something is holding you back…it’s call fear. Specifically it’s an underlying commitment that at one time worked to keep you safe, now it works to keep you stunted. If there is ANY disconnect between the life you have and the life you want, check your actions and say YES to more of the things that align you with what you want.
6. Reserve the right to be vulnerable. You don’t always have to be in control and serene. Sometimes getting emotional and opening up leads to true break-throughs and clarity. AND sometimes it helps people to see you as human. I was once told that I was intimidating, which I found intriguing because I’m introverted, but I have always tried to be approachable. It wasn’t until I started to relax and let my real self show through that people started to really respond to me, but I first had to get it out of my head that I always had to calm and cool to be professional. Warmth does not equal weakness (and excitement or enthusiasm doesn’t mean you’re unsophisticated or “uncool.”)
7. Reserve the right to change. That is change, period. Unless you are living underground and in the dark, you are changing every single day. Hopefully you’re changing and expanding with new ideas, new theories, new experiences. It’s as simple as noticing something small and appreciating it (like a beautiful sunrise) that can bring huge change into your life by changing perspective.  Reserve the right to grow as a person and (see #2) change your mind.
8. Reserve the right the be wrong. See #1!

Reserve the right to give yourself permission to be a human being, full of imperfections and faults.

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