Does Your Life Suck? What to do about it…
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HOW I dump the junk…and be happy
I have been talking A LOT about the importance “dumping the Junk” lately. Some of it has to do with the end of the Master LIFE Cleanse program, I always feel refreshed after teaching that course.
Part of it has to do with the need I see out there…people’s lives are still filled with JUNK! So I feel a personal responsibility to share my experiences with others. (Enter the Dump The Junk eBook, which is FREE, so you have no reason NOT to grab a copy, devour it and live it.)
In my Authentic Self Book Club meeting on Wednesday, one of the participants asked me how I was able to not let negative circumstances get to me. The short version of my answer is this:
I just don’t experience the negative in the same way that I used to. I’ve dumped the Junk, and become less magnetic to negative stuff (aka: Junk — sarcastic, angry people; guilt; anger; self doubt; debt). I just don’t physically or emotionally attract the stuff anymore.
Not that my life is perfect. Far from it! But I am living and experiencing a different life than I was 3 years ago. And it all stems from the effort I’ve been putting in to change how I am feeling and what I’m attracting. It takes effort, but done right, it feels effortless.
I’m not going to share how I Dumped MY Junk in this post, you can grab the free book for that, but I am going to share with you 3 of my favorite “happiness vibes” exercises.
These are the systems that I use to pull myself out of a funk when I notice I’m falling into one. And with time, I’ve managed to go from “flabby thinking” and letting my thoughts control my emotions with out my awareness, to being fit and fabulous! (Vibrationally, at least). These are the ways I did it.
Focus Wheel. This is an Abraham-Hicks Process and I’ve talked about it before. It’s just a wheel, with what I want in the center. I get “on” the wheel but stating a true, yet positive statement that feels good. After I get the first one (it’s the most difficult) the LoA takes care of the rest, flooding my system with more positive and true thoughts. By the time I’ve filled out the entire wheel, I am very close to feeling like I’ve already accomplished my goal in the center. And that puts me “into the vortex” to attract what I want, quicker and without a lot of effort.
The Wheel on the right is a quick example I created. It should give you the basic idea to help you get started with your own. NOTE: Do not put anything on the wheel that doesn’t make you feel good! Only positive thoughts are allowed.- Gratitudes (specific). After I’ve completed the Focus Wheel, I spend time coming up with 10 things that I am grateful for, specific to whatever I placed in the center of my wheel. (Example, if my Focus Wheel is all about feeling good and looking fit, I’d do 10 Gratitudes on how I already feel like a “thin” person).
- Rampage of Appreciation. After the the Gratitudes I do another Abe-Hicks Process. I sit and I just appreciate everything around me. This is like a broad Gratitude list. I appreciate the sun shining and my healthy, fat cat. I love the sweater I’m wearing, it feels so good, and the computer I’m writing at. I love the people I’ve come across and the paint on my walls. Love everything, but be honest. You’ll create a lot of dissonance (resistance) if you try to fake this.
Those are my Secret Weapons to happiness. And I do them daily. Get into a habit of setting aside 20 minutes each day to do the same and see how it becomes a habit to feel good…and see how you become less attractive to the Junk in life!
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Do you make happiness a priority? Start here…
I have been thinking a lot about happiness this week, preparing for Mondays Premium Membership call and I have decided that there is one thing you can do that makes the largest impact on your happiness.
Do something you love every single day
Sound simple, but how many of you actually do it? Until you make it priority to be happy, it falls to the side and life gets in the way.
I know because that is what happened to me. I wanted happiness, but I didn’t want to do the mindset work that accompanied being happy for no reason. And then one day I just got sick of it…all of it, being angry, miserable, depressed and fat (yes, at that point I was also 25lbs heavier).
I had a light-bulb moment (I share the brick wall that hit me in this blog post if you want the details) and instantly made the decision to change things. It started with checking out this “Secret” that everyone had been talking about for 2 years (yep, I was late on the bandwagon for that one) and it snow balled from there. Since late 2007 I have been making happiness a priority in my life.
I started small (reading books on the Law of Attraction…my first was The Success Principles by Jack Canfield) and doing the exercises. Then I decided to turn my idea and my experience (in career and life) into a career. I haven’t looked back since.
And by doing what I love every single day, I am automatically happy! You need something to look forward to in life, especially if you’re not happy, otherwise what’s the point? If you have a job you don’t like, what about your life do you life? If you aren’t happy in your relationship, what part of your life do you like? Focus on that, and find reasons to feel gratitude for that. Bring in more fun, don’t sit at home brooding. Spend more time with people you love. Watch feel good TV! Listen to radio and teleseminars that expand your mind, beliefs and thinking. Strengthen those happiness muscles!
In the next few months, my Premium Membership calls are focusing on expanding your happiness muscles, because I know it can be tough to start if you don’t know what you don’t know! So if part of your life that you hate included your job, join me on Monday April 26th for my Premium Call “Business of Happiness: What to do when you really really hate your job and want to quit (but can’t)“. It’s Free if you show up LIVE. Get all the juicy details here!
Your assignment for today: Come up with 1 thing you can do today, that makes you happy. Make sure you actually do it. Make happiness a priority!
Love & Light,
Kim 
It’s Your Right to Be Wrong
Catchy title, isn’t it? I can’t claim it as mine. I was actually sent a “reminder” on Facebook for an event that I didn’t want to go to. But that is a whole other blog on social media etiquette…
Regardless, I loved this subject line. And it got my mind rolling.
What are some other rights that we have as humans, that we so often forget to claim or apologize for? Here is what I came up with:
- Reserve the right to make mistakes. Yes. You are not perfect. I am not perfect and anyone pretending to be perfect isn’t fooling anyone! In my business research I continually see the fact that it’s those who fail continually, who actually succeed. Crazy, I know. But this is the reason why, instead of giving up after one failure, they go on UNTIL they succeed. Keep trying a new avenue and it will eventually work out for you.
- Reserve the right to change your mind. It’s hard for us to do this, especially as women who are used to being nice and accommodating, never to trouble anyone. I say screw that! I know it sounds harsh, but I reserve the right to change my mind at any time especially if something isn’t working for me. Which leads me to…
- Reserve the right to be self-ish. If you don’t focus on making you happy, no one is going to do it for you. AND if you place your happiness in another person’s care, they can easily take it from you, on purpose or not. That doesn’t sound very empowering, does it? Focus on self care, and then spread the love to others. It will be so much easier when you do it this way, even though it’s counter-intuitive at first.
- Reserve the right to say NO. Look back at number 3. This is your life and you only get once chance to live it. Looking back there are very few things that I regret saying no, too. You’re more likely to regret saying yes to something you are just on the fence about, than to say no. Re-prioritize and set boundaries or change your perspective so that saying YES, feels good!
- Reserve the right to say YES! You know when you want to say yes, but something holds you back? You really want to take a ball room dancing class, or ask that cute guy out for coffee but something is holding you back…it’s call fear. Specifically it’s an underlying commitment that at one time worked to keep you safe, now it works to keep you stunted. If there is ANY disconnect between the life you have and the life you want, check your actions and say YES to more of the things that align you with what you want.
- Reserve the right to be vulnerable. You don’t always have to be in control and serene. Sometimes getting emotional and opening up leads to true break-throughs and clarity. AND sometimes it helps people to see you as human. I was once told that I was intimidating, which I found intriguing because I’m introverted, but I have always tried to be approachable. It wasn’t until I started to relax and let my real self show through that people started to really respond to me, but I first had to get it out of my head that I always had to calm and cool to be professional. Warmth does not equal weakness (and excitement or enthusiasm doesn’t mean you’re unsophisticated or “uncool.”)
- Reserve the right to change. That is change, period. Unless you are living underground and in the dark, you are changing every single day. Hopefully you’re changing and expanding with new ideas, new theories, new experiences. It’s as simple as noticing something small and appreciating it (like a beautiful sunrise) that can bring huge change into your life by changing perspective. Reserve the right to grow as a person and (see #2) change your mind.
- Reserve the right the be wrong. See #1!
Reserve the right to give yourself permission to be a human being, full of imperfections and faults.
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The How of Happiness: 3 Easy Actions
The How of Happiness: 3 Easy Actions
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