Identifying Self Sabotage part 3
Here is the third part of the 4 part Installments I promised.
Part one: “Self doubt and Limiting Beliefs”
Part two: “Fear/worry”
3. Shame/Guilt.
“I’m not worth it.” “I’m not a good person if I put myself first.”
They’re both the same thing and they’re both related to fear. You are telling yourself that you don’t deserve success, health, wealth unless everyone else around you has it too. You are trying to control everyone else’s happiness, which is impossible. What you focus on you get more of, so if you are trying to make everyone ELSE happy you will end up making them happy and you will be drained and overwhelmed.
Another example: You want more money. So you are focusing on having MORE money, which really means you don’t feel like you have enough. So you are actually focusing on NOT ENOUGH…which brings you situations where you feel lack and not enough. Make sense?
Guilt makes you feel selfish for wanting more. Guilt makes you put other people’s needs and wants ahead of your own. Guilt keeps you tired, old-looking and sick.
If you find yourself continually putting someone else first, you are sabotaging your success. If you can find the money to put your children in yet another art class or on a sports team, you can find the money to join a yoga retreat, just for you. Don’t let the guilt of not giving everything to everyone else prevent you from enjoying your own life.
Guilt is a HUGE waste of the present moment. And it’s a really bad habit (like paying for something over and over and over again). Pay once and let it go!!! It can be tempting to just not bother, after all, you’ve survived this long, right? But if you’re interested in thriving, not just surviving, if you need extra help identifying your limiting fears my Mindset Makeover will help.
Right now add the the Mindset Makeover to your cart for $147. Or choose the $30 5-Pay Option
The $30 5-pay option is for those of you who still have money concerns. (5 pays for this kind of product are unheard of, but I never said I followed the crowd 
) but the 5-PAY is ONLY available until JULY 21, 2010. After that, you can no longer pay for it in installments. Learn more about this HERE.
I know you’re going to love this! Between the action guide (that covers the entire Master LIFE Cleanse program) and the 3 teleseminars you are going to flip at all the unique (and simple) ways you can identify your limiting beliefs and leave self sabotage FAR FAR behind you! Add it to your cart now, before you forget and get started on this process immediately!
Identifying Self Sabotage part 2
Here is the second part of the 4 part Installments I promised.
Part one: “Self doubt and Limiting Beliefs”
2. Fear/worry.
“What if…”
Again, meant to keep you “safe” and comfortable, fear and worry are holding you back. If you examined the things you are worrying about, 90% of them will never happen. Of those things that do happen, the anticipation is usually worse than the actual event. It is incredibly silly to spend valuable time and energy worrying about something that will not happen. Why not put that energy into living in the moment and valuing everything you already have, instead of worrying about losing it?
Most common fear is fear of failure. A common story you tell yourself might look like,
“What if I apply for a promotion and don’t get it? What if my boss things I’m crazy to even think I’m valuable enough to apply? What if he sits in his office and laughs at my application? Then I won’t get it and my family will be disappointed. My kids will never get into college and my retirement fund will suffer. My parents will never be proud of my and I will be stuck in the same house driving the same rust-bucket car forever! I can’t handle the rejection. I just won’t apply.”
The problem with these kinds of fears is that they hold you back, so you create a self-fulfilling prophecy. You don’t want the rejection of NOT getting the promotion, so you don’t apply. Doesn’t really make rational sense, does it?
But most of these self sabotaguers DON’T make sense rationally, but they are working because if they didn’t work on some level you wouldn’t do them. This can be confusing and overwhelming to do by yourself. It can be tempting to just not bother, after all, you’ve survived this long, right? But if you’re interested in thriving, not just surviving, if you need extra help identifying your limiting fears my Mindset Makeover will help.
Right now add the the Mindset Makeover to your cart for $147. Or choose the $30 5-Pay Option
The $30 5-pay option is for those of you who still have money concerns. (5 pays for this kind of product are unheard of, but I never said I followed the crowd ) but the 5-PAY is ONLY available until JULY 21, 2010. After that, you can no longer pay for it in installments. Learn more about this HERE.
I know you’re going to love this! Between the action guide (that covers the entire Master LIFE Cleanse program) and the 3 teleseminars you are going to flip at all the unique (and simple) ways you can identify your limiting beliefs and leave self sabotage FAR FAR behind you! Add it to your cart now, before you forget and get started on this process immediately!
Identifying Self Sabotage Part 1
Self sabotage is something that everyone deals with at some point in life. It becomes a problem when you continually let fear, worry, and self doubt take over your dreams and then look back and regret it.
It is perfectly natural for you to have fear and worry, these are meant to keep you safe and from acting in a way that could harm you and your tribe. These feelings go all the way back to cave days, when failing to consider “what if” and be on high alert meant a saber-tooth tiger might have you for dinner.
Fear serves it purpose sometimes, but most people let it take over and are fearful of situations that aren’t actually risky. Don’t get me wrong, you have to seriously consider all aspects of a major decision before you leap into it, but too much thinking allows the fear to take over and will hold you back.
I could break self-saboteurs down into great detail, but in the end they’re all virtually related so I’ve identified 4 main categories, that I will share with you over the next week, to help you understand what is holding you back from your dreams. Next time you have to make a decision, listen to your internal dialogue and see what you can “hear” yourself saying.
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Self doubt and limiting beliefs.
“Because I have failed in the past, I will fail again so why bother.”
Because of something in your past, you’ve learned to play it safe. The base cause of limiting beliefs (and everything else that holds you back) is irrational fear. It isn’t necessary for you to have direct experience with these beliefs in order for them to corrupt you. For example, if you grew up without a lot of money you may have heard your parents claiming that poverty was more virtuous that wealth and you hold the belief that money is evil, without actually experience wealth.
“I can’t start my own business because I’ve never done it before.”
“I don’t deserve to feel good.”
“Money brings out the worst in people.”
“Asking for help means I’m weak.”
Those are some very broad, very common limiting beliefs.
That is the first of the four. I was overwhelmed with responses to my How Can I Help You survey, and it was very, very clear to me that the thing people are concerned about most is understanding, identifying and preventing their self-sabotaging behaviors. There was also a big concern about money and not having enough. I’ve tried to incorporate as much information as I can in this four part blog series, but if you want a more step-by-step process with exact tools and techniques to get you moving faster than you would on your own, I won’t leave you hanging.
From my Master LIFE Cleanse program I have created mini-makeovers. My favorite one is the Mindset Makeover Program and because I promised to listen to you, it is the best way to get you out of your small comfortable box and into happiness, health and wealth!
You can buy the Mindset Makeover for $147.
I’ve also created a $30 5-pay option for those of you who still have money concerns. (5 pays for this kind of product are unheard of, but I never said I followed the crowd ) but the 5-PAY is ONLY available until JULY 21, 2010. After that, you can no longer pay for it in installments.
The Master Life Cleanse: Mindset Makeover System
This Mini-Makeover combines the Automatic Negative Thoughts, Self-Sabotage / Limiting Beliefs and the Guilt, Worry, Anger and Fear mindsets that hold you back from greatness! If you’re ready to clear out the negative thinking that is holding you back, it’s time for a mindset makeover.
You Will Learn :
~ A simple exercise to uncover your ANTs and false beliefs
~ The ONLY 2 ways you can deal with ANTs to get them out of your life for good
~ The 3 Steps to identify your true fears (they may not be what you think they are)
~ 5 Strategies you can do to immediately shift from “I can’t” to “I can”
Paid in Full: $147
Or choose the $30 5-Pay Option
I know you’re going to love this! Between the action guide (that covers the entire Master LIFE Cleanse program) and the 3 teleseminars you are going to flip at all the unique (and simple) ways you can identify your limiting beliefs and leave self sabotage FAR FAR behind you! Add it to your cart now, before you forget and get started on this process immediately!
What people have said about my Master Life Cleanse Program
Here is a testimonial from one my my Spring 2010 Master LIFE Cleanse:Happiness & Harmony participants.
“I started a business in 2010 and knew that I would do what I needed to do in order to succeed. I also knew that I would benefit from coaching. Enter Kim! and her wonderful Master Life Cleanse program. One of the biggest hurdles for me has been procrastination. I could spend endless time planning, making lists or thinking about what I should do, but not actually doing it. Since I participated in the MLC , I have been so much more productive. I have been able to complete information for my website, make networking phone calls and even put up a page on Facebook. Three of the really big things I got out of the MLC was clarity, clarity and clarity. The steps to this were so clear and concise and have been life changing for me. There were many terms that Kim came up with to describe a particular process. My favourite without a doubt is “Success Rituals” which refers to specific activities to assist with getting you in the frame of mind to work on any particular project with success. Thank you for your beautiful spirit and the work that you do.”
Joanne Klaassen
Winnipeg, Canada
After the Spring 2009 Master Life Cleanse, Kaitrece wrote me a long, beautiful letter. This is just part of it, you can read the rest HERE.
“…After the Life Cleanse, I felt refreshed and free. Free to Be. To move. To Start. To Act. I felt ‘clear’ – and I was. I’d walked through key areas and had the opportunity to make a fresh assessment of where I was and recommit to healthier, more self-affirming choices in my life. When you clear out the past, you free yourself, and in the process, you become trained to hear your own voice more clearly. Your Authentic Voice. When you can hear your Authentic Voice, its so much easier to make Authentic choices and find your Authentic Purpose – that gift you have to offer the world that is a unique expression of You. No one else can do what each of us has been set here to do.
The biggest thing I took away from the Master Life Cleanse was something that I’d learned years before, but had lost the habit of practicing in my daily life. I learned to be aware of the ‘inner critic’ and listen in a more powerful way to the negative self-talk that we all hear but don’t always notice.
Today, I’ve gotten clear on what I feel passionate about and how I can package that into services I can offer in the marketplace. I hired a Business Coach to help me create the business & results I really want in my life. I’ve selected a business name, filed for my DBA, registered my domain name and am now mapping out my site, systems and processes to launch my business. I’m really happy with how far I’ve come and am grateful to Kimberly for her guidance and continued support and cheerleading through the process!”
Kaitrece Fort
Riverside, CA, U.S.A
www.InlandBusinessTechnology.com
