I’ve had one of those days…you know the days where you’ve just had enough!

The last month has been very clear for me. I defined exactly what I wanted my life and business to look like and now I’m going through a bit of “chemicalization” to clear away the junk: toxic people, rancid relationships, nasty limiting beliefs. I’m doing the same for a few clients, too.

It’s actually a prime time for all this to happen because I’m about to teach the Master LIFE Cleanse one last time this year, starting in 2 days.

I won’t get into the ugly details, but suffice it to say that I feel the need to define what SELFISH actually means because there are a lot of people out there who will do what they can to make you feel bad when you try to take care of your own wellbeing first!

There are many people who will call you “selfish” or “cowardly” when you have the audacity to please yourself rather than them. Often others will call you “selfish” (because you are unwilling to yield to their own selfishness) without realizing the hypocrisy of their demand.
When other’s call you “selfish” or “cowardly,” their own vibrations are clearly out of balance, and a modification of your behaviour will not bring them into balance.
Abraham-Hicks, Money, and the Law of Attraction: Learning to Attract Wealth, Health & Happiness

So if you have someone in your life telling you that you’re the selfish one, take a closer look at their motives to pushing you into something, they’re probably self-serving.

(Oh, and think of the bad karma they’re building up by bullying you into serving them.)

I was late jumping on  whole Rhonda Byrne “The Secret” bandwagon, by a good 2 years! But once I finally gave in, I jumped right on, and pushed everyone else out of the way, eager to take the reigns! I did everything I could think of to get more information, buying books, borrowing books, borrowing DVDs, audios and hiring a coach. I was/am determined to figure it out and I think I’ve found the secret to “The Secret!” — it was in a place I did not expect to find it!

I can’t cover it all here, but I hope you will join me for my LIVE call-in radio show on Friday (August 20 at 11am ET/ 8am PT) where I explain the entire thing. (Find all details HERE). I will do my best to give you the Cliff Notes version.

Since discovering the Law of Attraction, my brain “knew” what it had to do…but sometimes it worked and sometimes it didn’t. I kept thinking, “Something has to be missing.” Which, of course, added tonnes of resistance and mucked up everything that much more!
A couple of months ago I listened to “Ask Your Guides” by Sonia Choquette (I also own the paperback, but I do so much running around that the audio version is priceless to me!) And I started to do what she recommended…something I haven’t done if a very long time: I began to pray!
You can be hung up on that word all you want, but it’s just a way to say that I connected with a higher source. You can call it meditating, casting spells, or whatever you want…but it works if you do it. I “pray” all day every day. And it is the secret to trusting that when you ask, it IS given!

I know that feels a bit vague, but try it out. And if you want more detailed info, tune into my show where I explain it much more, including some of the mini prayers I use to get rid of my traffic headaches (I rarely fight traffic), the guides/angels I call on to keep me safe when I’m scared, and how I find bargains! It’s a magical topic and a fun show!

I hope you ‘ll join me live.

Kim

PS- DETAILS again: August 20th at 11am ET (10am CT, 9am MT, 8am PT). http://www.blogtalkradio.com/authentic-self. You can call in for an Oracle Reading or listen via your computer!

Do you think you’re not in control of your life? Think again. Rebecca Rosen reveals why you have the power to co-create your destiny. 
In last month’s article, we explored how to determine your dominant intuitive senses as well as the different ways intuition and spirit speak to you in your everyday life. But now you may be wondering why it’s important to be intuitively connected and spiritually awake.

Over the years, spirit has taught me that we each come into life with certain lessons to learn in order to spiritually grow and evolve. Before we are born into our physical bodies—and with the help of our spirit guides—we draw up a loose script, or blueprint, for our lives. The script is based on lessons we failed to learn the last time we were incarnated—yes, I am referring to reincarnation—and those we are meant to learn this time around.

While these particular predetermined events, encounters and lessons are bound to show up along our journey, it’s ultimately up to us what we choose to do with them once they appear. Meaning, the future is not set in stone! We have the power—through our choices and free will—to help direct, shift and shape our futures, acting as co-creators with God, the source and the universe.

As Elisabeth Kubler-Ross so eloquently put it: “Mankind’s greatest gift, also its greatest curse, is that we have free choice. We can make our choices built from love or from fear.”

We can say yes to life, embracing all that is showing up with an open heart and mind, while holding the intention to resolve, learn and grow from our experiences. When we do this, we pass the tests and grow spiritually. But when we’re in a disconnected state, we may act from our lower selves and fear. In doing so, we fail to learn the lessons life is currently presenting, which is what many of us do from time to time. And when we do, similar struggles will continuously to pop up in different ways until we get it right.

Strengthen your connection with your intuition

Many of us have fallen into the trap of listening to and being guided by our minds (ego) more than our hearts (intuition). When we are predominantly ruled by our ego, we tend to operate from fear, doubt, judgment, anger, jealousy, impatience and anxiety. When we’re feeling disconnected, dissatisfied and alone, it’s usually because we’re not striking a balance between our ego (mind) and our intuitive voice (heart).

On the other hand, when we are spiritually aligned with our authentic selves, operating from our hearts and in tune with our higher selves’ knowing or intuition, we tend to make better choices. And when we make choices based in love, we incur more positive and less negative karma.

Karma is simply the process of cause and effect. If you do A, B will happen. Karma (the law of cause and effect) is essentially the same thing as the law of attraction: that which is like is drawn. When we continuously put negative energy out into the universe through our thoughts, feelings, words and actions, we attract more of that negative stuff back into our lives. The reverse holds true as well. Every day I hear the same message relayed from the other side: Everything we think, say and do follows us when we die. Therefore, it’s in our best interest to be fully accountable for all of our thoughts, words and actions and strive to come from a place of love.

Once we realize all situations in our lives—the positive and the negative—are a result of our decisions, actions, inactions and reactions, we can feel empowered and inspired, knowing we do actually have a say in what happens to us.

To top that off, I’d like to remind you that it’s never too late to re-create. Many of us have regrets about past situations we wish we could undo. And while we can’t change the past, we are given what I call opportunities to redo. And how do we ensure a better future outcome? We start by “shushing” our ego and allowing our intuition to guide us.

Connecting with your intuition begins with quieting your mind through meditation. To help you get started, I will leave you with a simple breathing exercise found in Chapter 1 of Spirited: Connect to the Guides All Around You.This exercise helps me get into a more receptive state of mind for both my personal and professional spiritual work, as the breath connects us with spirit. I encourage you to experiment with it as a way to reconnect with your inner being and spiritual wisdom.

Try Rebecca’s breathing exercise

What you’ll need: Five undisturbed minutes. Choose a quiet place where you feel comfortable. For example, sit in the backyard or in a park (or on a bus stop bench, if that’s all you have). It doesn’t matter where you are, as long as it’s an environment that puts you at ease.

Close your eyes and begin to breathe deeply. After a few deep breaths, focus on clearing out your “icky” energy. Take a minute and ask any negative energy that’s hanging around to hit the road. Continue to breathe. Notice your breath start to slow down and become a steady flow of inhales and exhales.

Breathe.

For the next five minutes, try quieting your mind chatter. Stop thinking about what you’re going to do as soon as this exercise is over, how you’re going to meet your work deadlines or what you’re going to make for dinner. Release thoughts about yesterday or last week or last year. The goal here is to stop thinking about the past or the future and to learn what it feels like to be present.

Breathe.

Let your worries and anxiety drift away.

Sit in this place of stillness for as long as feels right for you.

Rebecca Rosen has served as a bridge between this world and those who have crossed over to the other side for the past 10 years. Her work has led to many guest appearances, including Entertainment Tonight, The Rachael Ray Show and Nightline, and her first book, Spirited: Connect to the Guides All Around You (HarperCollins). Due to the high and growing demand for spiritual truth, she has committed herself full time to serving as a medium and also educates thousands of people around the country with her seminars, lectures and workshops. Learn more about Rebecca by visiting her website.

I subscribe to Success magazine. It’s a fantastic resource, full of inspiration articles and stories.

I was reading about Gillian Michaels (the trainer for the Red Team on the Biggest Loser) and she has a lot of things to say about success, health, wealth and being authentic. Something really struck me, though, and I really had to share some of her insights.

Gillian’s Formula for Success (according to me)

“I opened myself up to the opportunities that came my way, and I pursued them with passion and intensity. And when you do that and you stay open, then you allow those opportunities to manifest in ways that they are meant to.”

Oh my goodness! A women aligned with my own self. What a great way to describe how the Law of Attraction works. She also said this:

“Do you see failure as a validation that you’re worthless, or do you see failure as an entry point for learning so you grow stronger and wiser and better? And do you see failure as an integral part of success? Taking ownership of the state of your life, you’re empowering yourself to change it in any way you choose.”

Again, thank you, Gillian…I couldn’t agree more!

“Rejection is God’s Protection”

Is that an awesome quote? I wish I could claim is as my own, but I got it from the book my Authentic Self Bookclub just finished reading, “Happy for No Reason: 7 Steps to Being Happy from the Inside Out” By Marci Shimoff. Don’t let the fluffy title fool you, this is the best of ALL self help books combined. (I judged the title, and in fact, the books sat on myself for over 6 months before I decided to read it. I thought it was “just another book about happiness” SOOO NOT the case.)

Anyway, this blog post won’t be terribly profound, but I was thinking about the discussions we had last night about the book and I opened the book up to share a quote I loved (a different quote) and turned to this page. There it was shining back up at me.

You never know how stuff will work out in the long run, but if you believe in yourself and keep the faith, everything will work out. In fact, one of the main characteristics of happy people is that they believe the universe is out to support them.

So the next time you’re frustrated or worried about something not quite turning out the way you want it too (or flat out failure), just remember that rejection is God’s protection.

Have a great day everyone!

Kim

So stop trying to fix what you already have, and just start from “new.” You can begin right now.

Time to get out your journal, or 2 pieces of paper.

On one sheet of paper write down everything that you are resentful, angry or feeling “blah” about. This is stuff you need to release (for your spirit’s sake). Forgiveness does wonders for your life (just remember that it isn’t about being okay with what happened or the other person. It is about allowing yourself to let it be.)

If you are really stuck, and want to release these feelings, try the Sedona Method (http://www.sedona.com/the-four-ways-of-releasing-surrender.aspx). It’s 4 simple questions that will help you to determine if you’re ready to let go, and then guide you through it.

Be patient with yourself. It might take some effort for you purge these feelings from your life.

Once you’re done that,  write down everything you want for the new year.  Be sure to stretch yourself a little so that you grow. Goals that scare you a little (in a good, excited kind of way) are perfect growth accelerators. Don’t worry about the HOW part quite yet, just have some fun writing things down.

That’s it. If you want a more advanced version, you can continue with the exercise by burning the first sheet with all of the things you want to release on it. As you burn it (safely in a fire place or pit, or some sort of vessel meant for fire), repeat your intention to release those things. Note how good you feel when the paper has burned.

With the goals for your 2010 year, create a Wish Box.

Find a box with a lid (like a photo box) that you can use just for you. I found one at the Dollar Store for $2.

Label it: My 2010 Wish Box

On the underside of the lid (so no one can see) write:

This or something better, from a place of love and caring, for the best circumstances for me and everyone involved. And so it is.

That statement sets up the intention that your goals/manifestations will come from a place of love, not destruction. (ie: walking onto a car lot, and easily negotiating the exact car you want vs getting rear ended and fighting with the insurance company for months before getting paid so you can buy your new car).

Then write each of your goals or wishes on a recipe card. Detail it out, as precisely as possible. Note how you want to feel when you receive it.

Place it in your wish box with the intention of receiving it easily, and by knowing exactly the next step you need to take to receive it.

Do that wish each of your goals, and then keep it up with any new goals you think of through out the year. Keep the box in an honored place (not somewhere with it just collected dust or dirt or can get damaged). Think of how you treat this box, as how you treat your goals. Cherish it and respect it.

I adapted the Wish Box exercise from a favorite of mine in the book:Ask and It Is Given: Learning to Manifest Your Desires by Jerry and Esther Hicks.

Release the old, cherish the new!

This is Part 2 of Monday’s Blog on Standard Transmissions and Learning.

I talked about the 4 stages of learning: Unconscious Unknown, Conscious Unknown, Conscious Known and Unconscious Known. Realize that these learning states apply to absolutely everything in life. At one point you had to learn it before it became a habit. You had to practice and over time you got good at it.

I find using these 4 stages particularly helpful when I talk about being happy, using the Law of Attraction, living in the moment or being authentic. Somewhere along the way, you discovered that life can be different! You don’t have to just keep trudging along as you are now. The moment you figured that out, you entered the Conscious Unknown stage. You knew you could be different, you just didn’t know HOW yet.

So you joined a class, read a book or purchased a program to show you the way. This is when you entered the Conscious Known stage. And Assuming that you picked a decent “teacher” you discovered the HOW and the WHAT YOU NEED TO DO.

Here is the problem though. You can’t just read one book, or go to one teleseminar and then complain when things aren’t going your way. That is the same as going to one piano lesson and then giving up when you don’t sound like Mozart. It take practice. It’s the exact same as when I was learning to drive my standard. I completely immersed myself…I created an environment where I HAD to succeed…and I enlisted a teacher.

The same needs to happen for you to succeed. Don’t just do something once and then claim that it doesn’t work.

I hear this  a LOT, “Oh, the Law of Attraction doesn’t work for me. It always gives me the opposite.” No it doesn’t. It gives you exactly what you’re asking for, you just need more practice being aware of what you’re really asking.

“Oh. I tried living in the moment, and I just end up getting pulled back into worry and guilt.” How long did you practice? A week? A year? Once? This stuff takes practice!

“I want to find my authentic self, but every time I try, someone accuses me of being selfish.” Yep. That is there plan to keep you doing what they want you to, which is keep them happy. You have to practice. Daily…not whenever you feel like it.

This stuff is like exercise. If you want to build muscle or gain flexibility or run a marathon, you don’t just go to the gym periodically, you go 5 times a week. You work at it, celebrate your successes and usually enlist a buddy to help you stay on track. Why would life be any different?

So if you want to access the Highly Advanced Level 3 (Conscious Knowing) or even Level 4 (Unconscious knowing…for example, happiness) then you have to put some effort in.

If you joined us for my Discover Your Authentic Life tele-series, you had access to learn all of these things. If you grabbed a Platinum Package you are able to practice this stuff daily. You also would have hear several of the experts talk about effort. Happiness, success, wealth…all of those are “Effortless, but not without effort.” If you practice, take time for yourself, invest in your personal growth you can easily gain more happiness, health and wealth. That is the missing piece of the puzzle.

You can’t just read a book or two, attend a few teleseminars and then sit back and expect stuff to happen. If you know anything about the Law of Atttraction beyond The Secret, then you know that THAT is NOT how it Works!

There are hundreds (actually thousands!) of people out there willing to help you. I am one of them, but it doesn’t have to be me.

Honestly, if you truly want to succeed, you will.

After a lot of contemplation (ok, not really ) I have decided to let you know my #1 secret for being so darn happy all the time, as well as how I have become wealthier and healthier too.

It’s actually really, really simple but here it is: I follow the actions of people who are already successful, happy, healthy and wealthy. That’s it.

• I read A LOT! (a book a week — all to do with success, wealth and happiness)
• I listen and participate in every free teleseminar that I can get my hands on
• I am on at least 10 newsletter lists (and I actually read them). They always offer great articles and insight into the successful mindset
• I read a lot of articles recommended by my Facebook friends and people I follow on Twitter
• I watch video blogs on success
• I invest in myself. I invest in my happiness, health and success because I value myself. I’m not spending money selfishly, I am investing in my future happiness.

That is my action plan. I also have my own coach and an accountability partner, as well as a new mastermind coming up. I completely surround myself with success. That has forced me to check my mindset, change my perspective and grow immensely (it takes a lot of growth to keep up with successful people!).

If I had to choose just one thing that expanded my growth like nothing else (and I don’t like to share it with people) it was a program on the Law of Attraction that I participated in. Talk about opening up my mind to possibilities!

So the cat is out of the bag — I spend 70% of my time getting other people’s opinions, ideas and thoughts. This doesn’t mean that I agree with everything, but it definitely gets my mind working and my spirit growing. I have two great resources for you (my so-called “secrets”) one you pay for (small amount compared to what you get) and one is completely FREE! Both have helped me to live a happy, healthy and wealthy life by listening to my authentic self!  Check both out:

1. http://www.awakenedmillionairesecrets.com/ This is 100 % Free. It’s a video blog series from Joe Vitale (from The Secret)
2. http://www.kimberlyenglot.com/resources This is where I posted a small introduction to the Wealth Beyond Reason program with Bob Doyle (also from The Secret).

ps- I know you might be tempted to say you don’t have time. I feel that way too once in a while…but then I catch myself and think “Do I really NOT have time to be success, happy, healthy and wealthy?” I think I can always find time for that!

This is the second blog for the Discover Your Authentic Life weekly video blogs. The first 5 weeks can be viewed here.

Discover Your Authentic Life Tip #8
How is your relationship with money?

Discover Your Authentic Life Tip #7
Who do you choose to surround yourself with? Are you able to be yourself?

Discover Your Authentic Life Tip #6
Your Outside space reflects your inside state: How Feng Shui increased my success!

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How good of a listener are you?

Most people think they’re great listeners. But there is a difference between regular listening and authentic listening.   In regular listening, you’re in the conversation, and instead of putting your energy into hearing the other person completely, you are prepping your agreement or rebuttal. Instead of taking time to put your beliefs and arguments aside, you are bringing them to the front so you can share them too.

This isn’t your fault! This is how we were taught to socialize. It keeps the conversation running smoothly for the most part. You share. I share. We bond. But once you get past that intial small-talk phase you should be able to let go of all that and genuinely care what the other person is trying to say, instead of just viewing them as a way to get your own views heard.

Nothing makes a person feel more at home (and more loved) than when they are the center of your attention. I know, personally, I feel like the luckiest girl in the world when someone truly cares about what I have to say. And nothing makes me feel smaller than having them fidget, interrupt or have “shifty eyes.” I could talk about this topic all day, but I won’t. I’m going to have to leave some of the conversation for my colleague and good friend, Michelle Gabriel. She was my guest on Authentic Self last Wednesday and I couldn’t wait to hear more of her wisdom regarding Listening from the heart. Please listen it will change your outlook on communications forever.

Authentic Self radio: http://www.blogtalkradio.com/authentic-self