I’m Not living up to my full potential!
Byron Katie is a very loving soul, can’t you just feel it?
In this video, she helps a man through some self-sabotaging beliefs and I have a feeling that he’s not the only one who’s ever worried about this!
Identifying Self Sabotage part 4
Here is the last of the 4 part Installments I promised. Review parts 1, 2, & 3 and see how often you’re allowing your “but” to get in your own way.
4. Resentment.
“I should…”
Very similar to guilt, and resentment ties right back into fear again. You’re afraid if you don’t do something you will receive a negative consequence. So you are continually living your life according to someone else’s rules.
“Nice girls are agreeable.”
“I should say yes, even when I don’t want to.”
“My sister’s kids have tutors.”
Which means you are on a lot of committee and volunteering for causes that you don’t truly care about, simply because you don’t want to say no. Or, you spend a lot of money trying to keep up appearances and do/say/wear the right things.
It’s exhausting and unnecessary. When you identify and clean out this toxic thinking habits, you are happier and have more room for the health and wellness you are actually looking for.
These habits are incredibly common so don’t beat yourself up for feeling this way. Instead, work on being aware that they exist. Notice them when they creep in, and how they are working against you.
Over time, awareness will make all of them disappear, but this will take practice like any other new skill. If you feel overwhelmed already (and this can be a daunting process to do alone) or want more information make sure you check out my Master Life Cleanse: Mindset Makeover. It lays out limiting beliefs, fear, worry, anger, guilt and Automatic Negative Thoughts in great detail, as well as giving you exact exercises to help you deal with the mindset saboteurs that are keeping you stuck!
I know that many of you are also dealing with money worries, which is a huge limiting belief. But I don’t want that limiting belief to get in the way of you busting out of that tiny box of “safe” and “comfortable” (and stuck) that you’ve been stuck in for so long so until July 21, 2010 I have a 5-pay option for my Mindset Makeover kit. You can take your time to pay, while you shift the mindset junk holding you back in life.
You can buy the Mindset Makeover for $147.
The $30 5-pay option is for those of you who still have money concerns. (5 pays for this kind of product are unheard of, but I never said I followed the crowd 
) but the 5-PAY is ONLY available until JULY 21, 2010. After that, you can no longer pay for it in installments.
The Master Life Cleanse: Mindset Makeover System
This Mini-Makeover combines the Automatic Negative Thoughts, Self-Sabotage / Limiting Beliefs and the Guilt, Worry, Anger and Fear mindsets that hold you back from greatness! If you’re ready to clear out the negative thinking that is holding you back, it’s time for a mindset makeover.
You Will Learn :
~ A simple exercise to uncover your ANTs and false beliefs
~ The ONLY 2 ways you can deal with ANTs to get them out of your life for good
~ The 3 Steps to identify your true fears (they may not be what you think they are)
~ 5 Strategies you can do to immediately shift from “I can’t” to “I can”
Paid in Full: $147
Or choose the $30 5-Pay Option
I know you’re going to love this! Between the action guide (that covers the entire Master LIFE Cleanse program) and the 3 teleseminars you are going to flip at all the unique (and simple) ways you can identify your limiting beliefs and leave self sabotage FAR FAR behind you! Add it to your cart now, before you forget and get started on this process immediately!
What people have said about my Master Life Cleanse Program
Here is a testimonial from one my my Spring 2010 Master LIFE Cleanse:Happiness & Harmony participants.
“I started a business in 2010 and knew that I would do what I needed to do in order to succeed. I also knew that I would benefit from coaching. Enter Kim! and her wonderful Master Life Cleanse program. One of the biggest hurdles for me has been procrastination. I could spend endless time planning, making lists or thinking about what I should do, but not actually doing it. Since I participated in the MLC , I have been so much more productive. I have been able to complete information for my website, make networking phone calls and even put up a page on Facebook. Three of the really big things I got out of the MLC was clarity, clarity and clarity. The steps to this were so clear and concise and have been life changing for me. There were many terms that Kim came up with to describe a particular process. My favourite without a doubt is “Success Rituals” which refers to specific activities to assist with getting you in the frame of mind to work on any particular project with success. Thank you for your beautiful spirit and the work that you do.”
Joanne Klaassen
Winnipeg, Canada
After the Spring 2009 Master Life Cleanse, Kaitrece wrote me a long, beautiful letter. This is just part of it, you can read the rest HERE.
“…After the Life Cleanse, I felt refreshed and free. Free to Be. To move. To Start. To Act. I felt ‘clear’ – and I was. I’d walked through key areas and had the opportunity to make a fresh assessment of where I was and recommit to healthier, more self-affirming choices in my life. When you clear out the past, you free yourself, and in the process, you become trained to hear your own voice more clearly. Your Authentic Voice. When you can hear your Authentic Voice, its so much easier to make Authentic choices and find your Authentic Purpose – that gift you have to offer the world that is a unique expression of You. No one else can do what each of us has been set here to do.
The biggest thing I took away from the Master Life Cleanse was something that I’d learned years before, but had lost the habit of practicing in my daily life. I learned to be aware of the ‘inner critic’ and listen in a more powerful way to the negative self-talk that we all hear but don’t always notice.
Today, I’ve gotten clear on what I feel passionate about and how I can package that into services I can offer in the marketplace. I hired a Business Coach to help me create the business & results I really want in my life. I’ve selected a business name, filed for my DBA, registered my domain name and am now mapping out my site, systems and processes to launch my business. I’m really happy with how far I’ve come and am grateful to Kimberly for her guidance and continued support and cheerleading through the process!”
Kaitrece Fort
Riverside, CA, U.S.A
www.InlandBusinessTechnology.com
Identifying Self Sabotage Part 1
Self sabotage is something that everyone deals with at some point in life. It becomes a problem when you continually let fear, worry, and self doubt take over your dreams and then look back and regret it.
It is perfectly natural for you to have fear and worry, these are meant to keep you safe and from acting in a way that could harm you and your tribe. These feelings go all the way back to cave days, when failing to consider “what if” and be on high alert meant a saber-tooth tiger might have you for dinner.
Fear serves it purpose sometimes, but most people let it take over and are fearful of situations that aren’t actually risky. Don’t get me wrong, you have to seriously consider all aspects of a major decision before you leap into it, but too much thinking allows the fear to take over and will hold you back.
I could break self-saboteurs down into great detail, but in the end they’re all virtually related so I’ve identified 4 main categories, that I will share with you over the next week, to help you understand what is holding you back from your dreams. Next time you have to make a decision, listen to your internal dialogue and see what you can “hear” yourself saying.
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Self doubt and limiting beliefs.
“Because I have failed in the past, I will fail again so why bother.”
Because of something in your past, you’ve learned to play it safe. The base cause of limiting beliefs (and everything else that holds you back) is irrational fear. It isn’t necessary for you to have direct experience with these beliefs in order for them to corrupt you. For example, if you grew up without a lot of money you may have heard your parents claiming that poverty was more virtuous that wealth and you hold the belief that money is evil, without actually experience wealth.
“I can’t start my own business because I’ve never done it before.”
“I don’t deserve to feel good.”
“Money brings out the worst in people.”
“Asking for help means I’m weak.”
Those are some very broad, very common limiting beliefs.
That is the first of the four. I was overwhelmed with responses to my How Can I Help You survey, and it was very, very clear to me that the thing people are concerned about most is understanding, identifying and preventing their self-sabotaging behaviors. There was also a big concern about money and not having enough. I’ve tried to incorporate as much information as I can in this four part blog series, but if you want a more step-by-step process with exact tools and techniques to get you moving faster than you would on your own, I won’t leave you hanging.
From my Master LIFE Cleanse program I have created mini-makeovers. My favorite one is the Mindset Makeover Program and because I promised to listen to you, it is the best way to get you out of your small comfortable box and into happiness, health and wealth!
You can buy the Mindset Makeover for $147.
I’ve also created a $30 5-pay option for those of you who still have money concerns. (5 pays for this kind of product are unheard of, but I never said I followed the crowd ) but the 5-PAY is ONLY available until JULY 21, 2010. After that, you can no longer pay for it in installments.
The Master Life Cleanse: Mindset Makeover System
This Mini-Makeover combines the Automatic Negative Thoughts, Self-Sabotage / Limiting Beliefs and the Guilt, Worry, Anger and Fear mindsets that hold you back from greatness! If you’re ready to clear out the negative thinking that is holding you back, it’s time for a mindset makeover.
You Will Learn :
~ A simple exercise to uncover your ANTs and false beliefs
~ The ONLY 2 ways you can deal with ANTs to get them out of your life for good
~ The 3 Steps to identify your true fears (they may not be what you think they are)
~ 5 Strategies you can do to immediately shift from “I can’t” to “I can”
Paid in Full: $147
Or choose the $30 5-Pay Option
I know you’re going to love this! Between the action guide (that covers the entire Master LIFE Cleanse program) and the 3 teleseminars you are going to flip at all the unique (and simple) ways you can identify your limiting beliefs and leave self sabotage FAR FAR behind you! Add it to your cart now, before you forget and get started on this process immediately!
What people have said about my Master Life Cleanse Program
Here is a testimonial from one my my Spring 2010 Master LIFE Cleanse:Happiness & Harmony participants.
“I started a business in 2010 and knew that I would do what I needed to do in order to succeed. I also knew that I would benefit from coaching. Enter Kim! and her wonderful Master Life Cleanse program. One of the biggest hurdles for me has been procrastination. I could spend endless time planning, making lists or thinking about what I should do, but not actually doing it. Since I participated in the MLC , I have been so much more productive. I have been able to complete information for my website, make networking phone calls and even put up a page on Facebook. Three of the really big things I got out of the MLC was clarity, clarity and clarity. The steps to this were so clear and concise and have been life changing for me. There were many terms that Kim came up with to describe a particular process. My favourite without a doubt is “Success Rituals” which refers to specific activities to assist with getting you in the frame of mind to work on any particular project with success. Thank you for your beautiful spirit and the work that you do.”
Joanne Klaassen
Winnipeg, Canada
After the Spring 2009 Master Life Cleanse, Kaitrece wrote me a long, beautiful letter. This is just part of it, you can read the rest HERE.
“…After the Life Cleanse, I felt refreshed and free. Free to Be. To move. To Start. To Act. I felt ‘clear’ – and I was. I’d walked through key areas and had the opportunity to make a fresh assessment of where I was and recommit to healthier, more self-affirming choices in my life. When you clear out the past, you free yourself, and in the process, you become trained to hear your own voice more clearly. Your Authentic Voice. When you can hear your Authentic Voice, its so much easier to make Authentic choices and find your Authentic Purpose – that gift you have to offer the world that is a unique expression of You. No one else can do what each of us has been set here to do.
The biggest thing I took away from the Master Life Cleanse was something that I’d learned years before, but had lost the habit of practicing in my daily life. I learned to be aware of the ‘inner critic’ and listen in a more powerful way to the negative self-talk that we all hear but don’t always notice.
Today, I’ve gotten clear on what I feel passionate about and how I can package that into services I can offer in the marketplace. I hired a Business Coach to help me create the business & results I really want in my life. I’ve selected a business name, filed for my DBA, registered my domain name and am now mapping out my site, systems and processes to launch my business. I’m really happy with how far I’ve come and am grateful to Kimberly for her guidance and continued support and cheerleading through the process!”
Kaitrece Fort
Riverside, CA, U.S.A
www.InlandBusinessTechnology.com
Season 1 Episode 2
Dump The Junk: 3 Flabby Thinking Habits You Need to Tighten Up
Welcome to the second webisode of Authentic Self Expressions. If you have a FREE copy of Dump The Junk & Be Happy, you know how important mindset it to living a great life. Here, I explain 3 habits that can get you in trouble if you’re not aware of them.
If life is hard, you’re doing it wrong
Thoughts on that title, anyone?
I have been doing a lot of reading for my upcoming Premium Call next week and one specific resource has me thinking and re-evaluating everything!
I’ve had this thought before
If life is hard, you’re doing it wrong.
In fact, I have a few acquaintances who continually complain and whine but don’t actually do anything to change it, and this is what I think when they start in on their story and try to suck my energy.
Yep, it’s a little callous, but isn’t it true? I mean, if the LoA is for real (and it is, at least in my life, and I’m not special) then it must be true.
We’re all handed different situations and circumstances. Some people are “luckier” that way than others, but you’ll find people in the worst situations that are relatively happy and some that are in the best situations that are suicidal. Which causes me to draw the conclusion:
Life is what you make it…if it’s hard, you’re doing it wrong.
I have a few suggestions to help you change from feeling “hard” to feeling “happy.” (Oh, and they only work if you actually do them, so don’t just read them and then complain that they didn’t work!)
- My favorite new way to turn my energy around is called a “Focus Wheel.” I recommend this process to clients like crazy! It is hard enough to explain over the phone, and nearly impossible to describe via a blog…so I’ll just send you to a video I found that does a good job of explaining it for me: Click HERE. It’s a simple way to change your perspective and take something that is creating resistance (aka uncomfortable, unhappy feelings) and focusing on what IS working. I love it!
- Take a break and have some fun! Sometimes life gets a little intense, that is when I take time out and do something fun. Lately this involves my dog, but it can mean calling a friend, watching a funny movie or working out. Kids and animals have this magical ability to make everything good again. Put the laundry down, grab your best friend and go for a walk. Reminisce about funny events from your past, it works wonders for your spirit!
- Breathe! When I get tense, my breath gets shallow. When I was counselling (in my previous life) I saw it in my students, too. In fact, I actually taught one to breathe properly and that alone changed her attitude completely. Think of it as a literal “breath of fresh air,” into your life. It’s moving old stale energy out, and bringing in new life. Take a few moments to breathe deeply and contemplate life. Maybe ponder the thought, “In 5 years will I remember this situations and will it matter?“
Those are just a few of things ways I instantly change my perspective when I’m thinking life is too hard. If those don’t work, you’ll have to dig a little deeper. Possibly you’re on the wrong path and your authentic self is trying to tell you something! Maybe you have too much “junk” in your life. Whatever it is, you have all the control in the world to change your perspective. If you need some support, grab my Authentic Self toolkit. It has some free stuff to help you get started.
