Happiness NOW, no matter what the date
1/11/11: Yesterday WAS a special day in history.
Yes, it was a cool date. It had special numerological meaning, and was memorable. For that reason alone, I chose it to launch my book “The Now of Happiness: Your Official Happiness Formula.” But I became a little disturbed by the sheer emphasis some people where giving it. I overhead things like,
What a unique day. This will NEVER happen again, and is a great time to step back and examine where you are.
I’m paraphrasing, but every time someone emphasized how significant yesterday was because of the number, I though to myself
Every day is like that. Every day is significant because it only comes around once. In fact every single moment, of every day is significant. It’s called your life. And you only have right NOW to live it.
And it’s true. Will YOU ever see January 12, 2011 again? Will you ever see Jan. 13, 2011 again? Why are people making an external situation so significant? So I encourage you to take time today, to realize that today IS all you have. No matter what the date is. It is important to be happy NOW, because that’s all you have.
If you are interested in further extending your appreciation for what you have now that makes you happy. Get my book, The Now of Happiness: Your Official Happiness Formula. Click here.
Go to bed happy! April 2010 Premium Call Recap
The Premium call on Monday was amazing! It was part 1 in my 4 part Happiness SERIES for the Premium Members.
I’m not used to talking for so long, but in just under an hour I covered a lot of ground. Now, you may have registered and therefore wanted the information.
BUT only about half of the people who registered actually made it live! Are you one of those people? I’ll do a quick recap on the things I covered, but that won’t really do it justice.
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The Call Topic: The Business of Happiness: How to make peace with your job when you can’t quit (but really really want to!)
RECAP:
- Go to bed happy! Really. This is the #1 BEST thing you can do to feel better at work. It sounds flaky, and you might be tempted to completely ignore this step, but it works! And I shared all of the reasons why AND HOW TO DO it on the call. (I also supply an exercise and a nightly affirmation in the Action Guide to help you do it).
- Dress for Success! Even if you don’t feel like it or have to wear a uniform, put on your “feel good” attitude and be amazed at how this changes your perspective.
- About 30% of people LOVE their job, no matter what their job is! About 30% of people HATE their job, no matter what their job is! The rest of us are in the middle. I shared a story of a janitor (not the most prestigious position, but one very much needed!) who loved her job so much because she viewed it as a calling. Pretty amazing story, actually. I also explain HOW/WHY she views it as a calling.
- If you are in a position where you feel that you really do need to quit, create a plan! Do what you need to do to feel comfortable leaving. Update the resume, search, and start putting away extra savings.
Chat with you soon,
Love & Light,
Kimberly
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PPS ~~ May 2010 Premium call: Money doesn’t buy happiness, but it sure does help! How to be happy when money is flowing out faster than it’s flowing in. When I set a date and time, I’ll be sure to let you know about it so you can be available to make it LIVE (Unless you want the flexibility of the recording…in that case, just become a member and I’ll send everything to you after!)
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4 Great Paradoxes of a Great Life–Explained
Everything is about perspective. The happiest people, the ones who are the most successful and the wealthiest just found ways to make the world work for them. A paradox is when 2 ideas seem to directly oppose each other, and yet can both be true.
The most common example is the phrase: Water, water everywhere, but not a drop to drink! It may seem contradictory, after all, how can you be surrounded by water and not be able to drink it? So is the case if you are stranded in a life boat in the middle of the ocean. This statement would then be true, and make sense.
As you’re reading these ideas, relax and let the concepts sink it. Don’t fight them if you don’t understand or don’t agree. Hopefully, it will end up expanding your thinking and help you further discover your authentic life.
#1 Be selfish, but always Put the other person first. This is what got me in thinking of this topic. On one hand, I feel that it is most important to make yourself happy first because you can’t rely on others to do it for you. HOWEVER, that doesn’t mean that I can’t make another feel good too. That is my understanding of this paradox. Overall, I hope to get to a place where I can be happy, no matter what, AND because of that others are happy around me. After all, it is so much nicer to be around someone who is joyful and content, rather than resentful or frustrated. So feel free to put your happiness first. When you are happy, you’re a great role model for those around you.
#2 Live in the moment, but Focus on your future. This is another one that has been rolling around in my head. I have noticed there are two crowds teaching the LoA, and they’re either saying to live in the moment and enjoy what is in front of you, or that you should focus on where you want to go, not where you are. So which statement is true? Well, both. The key to understanding this paradox is the underlying fact that you need to follow your feelings. Yes, enjoy the moment. Feel really good about where you are, while knowing that you’re headed in the right direction. If you don’t feel good about the moment, then view it as a small section of time in your life, focus on the small amount of good, and put the rest of your energy into aligning with how you will feel once you have manifested your dream life.
#3 Fake it to make it, but Be Authentic. This was something one of my mentors wrote about on her own blog and I loved it! I could help but add this one to my list. I have been an advocate for “fake it til you make it,” but only under certain circumstances. So how do you know when to fake it, and how can you still be authentic? The secret is all in knowing why. What do you want to be the outcome? That is, if you want to be successful in business, but are struggling, what do you want? You want to be successful. This is a great example for when you should fake it! Start by creating an office space that commands respect and says “Successful.” Then dress the part. The confidence will slowly follow, and so will the increase in business. By being clear on what you want, you can “fake it” but be authentic. I’m not saying that you should buy an office building, spend lots of money and jet around the world, because that’s what successful people do. Start slow and identify the core idea of success for you. Personally, I never want an office building and I really don’t want to jet around the world speaking at conferences. So that kind of “faking” would be inauthentic, even thought I might end up successful.
#4 Find joy in life by Embracing anger and resentment. This comes from one of my favorite all time paradoxes: No two things can occupy the same space at the same time. It’s impossible to be happy when you’re angry or upset, so pretending to be happy, pushing it down or faking won’t do anything but aggravate you. There is also a false understanding of happiness. Being happy doesn’t mean you don’t get mad. You can experience the entire range of emotions and still be happy. Being joyful means a couple of things: a) you have a trusting in the universe that things will work out (takes the pressure off you having to ‘control’ everything) b) you don’t take things too seriously c) you bounce back easily from disappointments (due to the first 2). Which means you can feel the anger, be disappointed, hate someone, want to throw something…and then recover quickly. Embrace the feeling instead of fighting it. You won’t have to fight it, it won’t hang around as long, and you’ll be a lot happier. Everything is about perspective. The happiest people,the ones who are the most successful and the wealthiest just found ways to make the world work for them, rather than feeling like it’s against them.
These are ideas that will help you find happiness, if you just embrace them., rather than feeling like it’s against them.
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What I’ve learned from the 2010 Olympics
I absolutely love the Olympics. For those couple of weeks every 2 years I am basically glued to the TV. Since I am not terribly athletic myself, I really admire the skill, determination and strength it takes to get to the games. And then there is the fact that it high-lights sports I would never hear about otherwise (I mean, really…how crazy is luge and skeleton!!! So cool…) Combine all that with a chance to cheer for the country I LOVE and I’m hooked!
But on Saturday, I was standing in my kitchen. The TV was on in the living room (my house is fairly open concept, so I can see the TV from my kitchen) and I heard the broadcasters high-lighting a player from Canada’s Olympic Women’s Hockey team. Her dad happens to be a sports psychologist and they were talking about the advise he would give her.
(not a direct quote, for emphasis purposes only)
“He’d say enjoy the moment. Don’t focus on the result because that takes you out of the moment.”
A man after my own heart apparently…or maybe I missed my calling and should have stuck with psychology 
I’ve heard wisdom like that all week! Canada’s athletes are absolutely brilliant (at least the medal-winning ones) in their abilities to deal with pressure and stay focused and the speeds, distances and heights they are participating at. So I’ve come up with a short list of things that the average gal/guy can apply to our own lives.
- Live In The Moment.
This is the most prominent phrase so far. I’ve heard it over and over again. They’re all saying that the key to staying calm under such intense pressure, is to live in the moment. The moment you start focusing on the outcome, you feel stress, pressure, anxiety, overwhelm. You’re out of the moment, and your chances of winning are done.
So true in life, too. I know that when I am in the moment (the zone, the vortex, happy, whatever you want to call it) life flows really smoothly. I just do what needs to be done. I don’t add a story to it (Why can’t he pick up his darn socks for once! I’m not his maid…grumble grumble). I don’t start to think about what I need to do to be a total success in life. I don’t get overwhelmed. But the minute I over think stuff, it starts to get a little ugly. I stop truly listening (preferring to just interpret everything through my own lense). I get bossy and controlling. I get stressed. I start to feel like all responsibility for the entire worlds happiness relies on me. When I notice that, I can see how ridicuous I’m being and reign myself (and my ego) back into the moment. It’s almost as if being “in the moment” makes the ego disappear. Which I think is what Eckert Tolle’s, A New Earth was all about.
- Never Give Up.
Go as hard as you can, as long as you can, until the last second because THOSE are the people who win. Now, in context, this is not hard for me. I don’t work crazy long hours. I don’t even consider it work. IT does require effort. Like a favorite friend of mine said, it is “effortless, but requires effort.” Meaning it’s easy, but you still have to put action into it. LIFE is the exact same. It doesn’t have to be hard. But the people who are happy, healthy, successful and wealthy kept at it longer than their competition.
If you want that “gold medal” you have to put inspired action to work for you. Quit holding back and waiting for the perfect time (there will never be one) and don’t let someone else tell you how to live your life. You know what you have to do.
I can’t say this as a fact, but isn’t there a story of someone who fell or tripped in an event in the past, all thoughts of medals were gone. The person got back up and continued anyway, only to come in first or second place…people were disqualified, others fell…Am I crazy or just making it up? It does make for a good story if it is true! This also brings us to my third point.
- Crazy Things Can Happen (aka You Never Know What the Future Holds )
When Canada won the second gold medal, something really amazing was said. Maelle Ricker (Women’s Snow Cross) has enjoyed the sport since she was a child and always dreamed of going to the Olympics and winning a gold medal. This is all great and not uncommon, EXCEPT that until 1998 snow boarding wasn’t an Olympic sport. And Snow Cross wasn’t a sport in the olympics until 2006. So despite her current reality and all that people told her, she dreamt of and olympic gold one day. I think that says a lot about our dreams and how powerful they are if we have faith in them. Maelle didn’t have to worry about HOW it would happen, she just new it would and prepared herself for when it happened.
- Have Faith in Your Dreams.
Like I said in the above point, have a little faith. Even though it doesn’t look like your dream will ever come true, you have to keep going. Act like it is coming true. Prepare for it. The HOW is not up to you, but you have to be ready and follow inspired action. People will try to bring you down. They will tell you to be realistic and to look around at the current reality of the situation. You don’t have to believe them. You don’t even have to listen. Follow your dreams, have faith in what you believe!
So those are my Olympic epiphanies. Feels really good to know that I am on the right track and that others, in really admirable places, follow the same advice from their sport psychologists, as I follow (and teach) as a coach. I guess I am a coach. That’s what I do. If you need help getting your own epiphany (or just want happiness and harmony in your life), join me for the free Happiness & Harmony Makeover call. Sign up at http://kimberlyenglot.com/hhteleseminar.
Enjoy the rest of the games!
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