Why Your Life Sucks
I found this book called, Why Your Life Sucks: And What You Can Do About It by Alan H. Cohen, and HAD to purchase it! I just got it today, flipped it open and needed to get some thoughts out…and the Podcast was born!
Learn the first reason why your life sucks and a simple technique for you to change that (it’s easy, too).
If you like what you hear, make sure you get on the Red Carpet Access list for more happiness tips and tools, PLUS an audiobook preview of the first 2 sections of my book, The Wow of Happiness: Your official happiness formula. Click HERE.
©2010 Kimberly Englot. All Rights Reserved.
“Selfish” Defined
I’ve had one of those days…you know the days where you’ve just had enough!
The last month has been very clear for me. I defined exactly what I wanted my life and business to look like and now I’m going through a bit of “chemicalization” to clear away the junk: toxic people, rancid relationships, nasty limiting beliefs. I’m doing the same for a few clients, too.
It’s actually a prime time for all this to happen because I’m about to teach the Master LIFE Cleanse one last time this year, starting in 2 days.
I won’t get into the ugly details, but suffice it to say that I feel the need to define what SELFISH actually means because there are a lot of people out there who will do what they can to make you feel bad when you try to take care of your own wellbeing first!
There are many people who will call you “selfish” or “cowardly” when you have the audacity to please yourself rather than them. Often others will call you “selfish” (because you are unwilling to yield to their own selfishness) without realizing the hypocrisy of their demand.
When other’s call you “selfish” or “cowardly,” their own vibrations are clearly out of balance, and a modification of your behaviour will not bring them into balance.
Abraham-Hicks, Money, and the Law of Attraction: Learning to Attract Wealth, Health & Happiness
So if you have someone in your life telling you that you’re the selfish one, take a closer look at their motives to pushing you into something, they’re probably self-serving.
(Oh, and think of the bad karma they’re building up by bullying you into serving them.)
Identifying Self Sabotage Part 1
Self sabotage is something that everyone deals with at some point in life. It becomes a problem when you continually let fear, worry, and self doubt take over your dreams and then look back and regret it.
It is perfectly natural for you to have fear and worry, these are meant to keep you safe and from acting in a way that could harm you and your tribe. These feelings go all the way back to cave days, when failing to consider “what if” and be on high alert meant a saber-tooth tiger might have you for dinner.
Fear serves it purpose sometimes, but most people let it take over and are fearful of situations that aren’t actually risky. Don’t get me wrong, you have to seriously consider all aspects of a major decision before you leap into it, but too much thinking allows the fear to take over and will hold you back.
I could break self-saboteurs down into great detail, but in the end they’re all virtually related so I’ve identified 4 main categories, that I will share with you over the next week, to help you understand what is holding you back from your dreams. Next time you have to make a decision, listen to your internal dialogue and see what you can “hear” yourself saying.
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Self doubt and limiting beliefs.
“Because I have failed in the past, I will fail again so why bother.”
Because of something in your past, you’ve learned to play it safe. The base cause of limiting beliefs (and everything else that holds you back) is irrational fear. It isn’t necessary for you to have direct experience with these beliefs in order for them to corrupt you. For example, if you grew up without a lot of money you may have heard your parents claiming that poverty was more virtuous that wealth and you hold the belief that money is evil, without actually experience wealth.
“I can’t start my own business because I’ve never done it before.”
“I don’t deserve to feel good.”
“Money brings out the worst in people.”
“Asking for help means I’m weak.”
Those are some very broad, very common limiting beliefs.
That is the first of the four. I was overwhelmed with responses to my How Can I Help You survey, and it was very, very clear to me that the thing people are concerned about most is understanding, identifying and preventing their self-sabotaging behaviors. There was also a big concern about money and not having enough. I’ve tried to incorporate as much information as I can in this four part blog series, but if you want a more step-by-step process with exact tools and techniques to get you moving faster than you would on your own, I won’t leave you hanging.
From my Master LIFE Cleanse program I have created mini-makeovers. My favorite one is the Mindset Makeover Program and because I promised to listen to you, it is the best way to get you out of your small comfortable box and into happiness, health and wealth!
You can buy the Mindset Makeover for $147.
I’ve also created a $30 5-pay option for those of you who still have money concerns. (5 pays for this kind of product are unheard of, but I never said I followed the crowd 
) but the 5-PAY is ONLY available until JULY 21, 2010. After that, you can no longer pay for it in installments.
The Master Life Cleanse: Mindset Makeover System
This Mini-Makeover combines the Automatic Negative Thoughts, Self-Sabotage / Limiting Beliefs and the Guilt, Worry, Anger and Fear mindsets that hold you back from greatness! If you’re ready to clear out the negative thinking that is holding you back, it’s time for a mindset makeover.
You Will Learn :
~ A simple exercise to uncover your ANTs and false beliefs
~ The ONLY 2 ways you can deal with ANTs to get them out of your life for good
~ The 3 Steps to identify your true fears (they may not be what you think they are)
~ 5 Strategies you can do to immediately shift from “I can’t” to “I can”
Paid in Full: $147
Or choose the $30 5-Pay Option
I know you’re going to love this! Between the action guide (that covers the entire Master LIFE Cleanse program) and the 3 teleseminars you are going to flip at all the unique (and simple) ways you can identify your limiting beliefs and leave self sabotage FAR FAR behind you! Add it to your cart now, before you forget and get started on this process immediately!
What people have said about my Master Life Cleanse Program
Here is a testimonial from one my my Spring 2010 Master LIFE Cleanse:Happiness & Harmony participants.
“I started a business in 2010 and knew that I would do what I needed to do in order to succeed. I also knew that I would benefit from coaching. Enter Kim! and her wonderful Master Life Cleanse program. One of the biggest hurdles for me has been procrastination. I could spend endless time planning, making lists or thinking about what I should do, but not actually doing it. Since I participated in the MLC , I have been so much more productive. I have been able to complete information for my website, make networking phone calls and even put up a page on Facebook. Three of the really big things I got out of the MLC was clarity, clarity and clarity. The steps to this were so clear and concise and have been life changing for me. There were many terms that Kim came up with to describe a particular process. My favourite without a doubt is “Success Rituals” which refers to specific activities to assist with getting you in the frame of mind to work on any particular project with success. Thank you for your beautiful spirit and the work that you do.”
Joanne Klaassen
Winnipeg, Canada
After the Spring 2009 Master Life Cleanse, Kaitrece wrote me a long, beautiful letter. This is just part of it, you can read the rest HERE.
“…After the Life Cleanse, I felt refreshed and free. Free to Be. To move. To Start. To Act. I felt ‘clear’ – and I was. I’d walked through key areas and had the opportunity to make a fresh assessment of where I was and recommit to healthier, more self-affirming choices in my life. When you clear out the past, you free yourself, and in the process, you become trained to hear your own voice more clearly. Your Authentic Voice. When you can hear your Authentic Voice, its so much easier to make Authentic choices and find your Authentic Purpose – that gift you have to offer the world that is a unique expression of You. No one else can do what each of us has been set here to do.
The biggest thing I took away from the Master Life Cleanse was something that I’d learned years before, but had lost the habit of practicing in my daily life. I learned to be aware of the ‘inner critic’ and listen in a more powerful way to the negative self-talk that we all hear but don’t always notice.
Today, I’ve gotten clear on what I feel passionate about and how I can package that into services I can offer in the marketplace. I hired a Business Coach to help me create the business & results I really want in my life. I’ve selected a business name, filed for my DBA, registered my domain name and am now mapping out my site, systems and processes to launch my business. I’m really happy with how far I’ve come and am grateful to Kimberly for her guidance and continued support and cheerleading through the process!”
Kaitrece Fort
Riverside, CA, U.S.A
www.InlandBusinessTechnology.com
What the worst day of my life taught me
A few years ago I had one of those lightening-strike moments. Except it came in a very quiet, very unusual place.
I came home after a terrible week at my job. My feet hurt, my head hurt and I was ready to lash out at the first person to cross me (likely my poor husband). And then I felt the little energy that was left in my body be sucked right out of me as I walked in the back door of my house.
Dishes left over from last night, laundry to be folded and dust everywhere. Socks on the living room floor and mail strewn all over the dining room table. I was deflated and didn’t know whether to cry or scream.
Usually this would be the time when I broke down and allowed myself (and my inner critic) to throw a tantrum. ..
But for some reason, I didn’t. This was one of THOSE days, the days that feel like the worst days of your life and I would have had plenty of reason to allow the clutter to suck me into a drama-filled sulk.
Except I didn’t. I choose to try something new, and it worked!
I decided to just do it. I took one look at that big ugly mess and I decided to fix without complaint. I don’t know what happened, but I thought to myself, “Crying won’t clean my house.”
I decided to just do it FOR ME. I then looked around and thought, I could just go to bed and not worry about this mess. But it will be there looking at me in the morning. And who wants to start there weekend off like that? Not me!
I decided I deserved better. I said to myself, “Kim, you deserve to wake up to a clean house, fresh laundry and an empty sink. You deserve to enjoy your Saturday morning with coffee on the patio.
I decided I can handle anything. I started in the kitchen (it wasn’t that bad. Nothing 15 minutes couldn’t cure). I moved to fold laundry while I watched TV (kill 2 birds with one stones…no actual birds were harmed). I then quickly swept up the floor and dusted the TV. My entire cleaning took about 60 minutes. And I saved myself: a mental breakdown, a wasted Friday night, a fight with my husband, a terrible nights sleep and an angry Saturday (and wicked weekend!). All because of 60 minutes worth of clutter that I cleaned.
It wasn’t the physical clutter that had me down. Well, it was, but it was actually the mental “stuff” that was causing the anguish. The stuff I was telling myself and the victim story I was tempted to fall into. This is a perfect example to demonstrate to you HOW mental and physical clutter are so tied and how they can take over your life (or not) if you let it.
Whether its a forced clear (like with me) or just a intuitive nudge, you know if you have too much…you know if your life if full but not fulfilling because you can feel it.
- You feel overwhelmed, stressed and run down. There is never enough time for you!
- You worry a lot (or feel guilty) about your kids, your job, bills
- You dread certain tasks, so you put them off (like cleaning out the garage or taking in the recycling) and so it never gets done, which makes you feel worse.
If you are experiencing any of those “symptoms” it’s time for a Mini Cleanse!!! Specifically, clearing out the junk…the life clutter! (Get Life Clutter Package NOW)
You know what I mean, don’t you always feel better after you finish a task that you’ve been putting off? Aren’t you relieved after you give your house a good scrub? Don’t you feel better when you clear your schedule for the day and send the kids on a play date? (And if you don’t know the feeling I’m talking about you REALLY need to Clear your Life Clutter!!!!). Cleanse your mental and physical life and see what a HUGE difference it makes!
This “mini makeover” is taken DIRECTLY from my Master Life Cleanse program that wrapped up in May. So it’s fresh and new and waiting for you! You can learn all about the entire Master Life Cleanse at http://themasterlifecleanse.com
You will learn:
- my exact mantra for getting the dishes done, (when I really want to throw at tantrum and just go to bed) WITHOUT drama or fighting.
- why your physical clutter is just the tip of the iceberg, and how it is majorly holding you back, PLUS how to INSTANTLY clear your mental clutter
- how to save yourself time and money! This is my best-kept secret and really easy to follow. Do you know what it is?
You get my Master Life Cleanse action guide (which covers ALL of the Life Cleanse topics) AND the mp3 for the Life Clutter teleseminar, which goes really deep into what life clutter is, how it’s preventing you from moving ANYWHERE, and exactly what to do to free up your time, energy and money (without draining your wallet).
Life Clutter Package OR Until JUNE 28th I’m offering a Life Clutter Package 3-pay. Get the Mini-Makeover for only $25 for 3 months.
I just want you to know that you’re not alone AND that you can take care of this and feel light and free again! Go into your summer 25lb lighter, mentally, so you can enjoy the time with your kids and so you can spend it outside instead of inside searching for the bills you need to pay.
You won’t regret it!
Love & Light,
Kim
PS: Already have the Action Guide? Just want the mp3? Get it here.
PPS: REMEMBER, you only have until June 28th to take advantage of the 3-pay option! Don’t wait (because the longer you wait, the MORE the clutter will build up). Life Clutter Package 3-pay.
PPPS: You can learn all about the entire Master Life Cleanse at http://themasterlifecleanse.com
Use your powers for good
Guilt.
It’s a dirty word in my realm, and for the last few years I rarely let it enter my experience. I don’t feel guilty about saying no (or saying yes, to the odd guilty pleasure). I don’t feel guilty about doing something I love, and I don’t feel guilty about taking “me time” when I need it.
I’m not perfect, but for the most part, I’ve eliminated guilt in every area of my life.
There is a lot of guilt around getting rid of guilt! I address this deeper in my Master Life Cleanse program, but essential we treat guilt as the price we pay for doing what we want.
Which brings me to my main point of this blog post:
You cannot possibly feel bad enough (or guilty enough) for someone else, to make THEM happy in the long term. Others do not grow because you shrink.
An example is the best way to illustrate my point. I have a client who makes a lot of money doing what she loves, and she feels guilty! She feels guilty that there are people out there without jobs, and guilty that she has a lot of material things, while others have very few. She even feels guilty about feeling guilty because she knows it’s a waste of time! To combat this guilt, I showed her that her feeling guilty did nothing to improve the circumstances of her friends and family, and a light-bulb turned on for her.
She “got it,” and realized that she could improve their lives by living hers to the fullest and being happy!
A funny thing happens when you’re happy (and you release guilt)…people want to know why. They gravitate towards you because you are nice to be around, and they start to feel better.
You are no good to anyone playing small, or not living your life to the fullest. Use your powers for good, don’t stunt them.
A favorite saying of mine:
“Better to light a candle, than curse the darkness”
