Truth is Truth
I was talking to a friend a while ago. She was going through a personal trauma, having just found out that a mutual friend of ours is really ill. We were both shocked at the news…but not really. When I asked her how she was coping, she said she was surprised to here it, and yet had expected it.
Then she let out a punch of pent up feelings, including fear, resentment and anger.
I think she felt slightly sheepish when she was done, and I didn’t want her to feel uncomfortable or ashamed so I told her I proud of her for not stuffing her feelings down, even though they might be considered “bad” or “not nice.”
She just looked at me and said, “I have them. They’re authentic, and that isn’t always pretty…and truth is truth.”
I was stunned and proud! So often people hear the word “authentic” and they think that means that you are your operating out of your highest self at all times, and that you are at a level above feeling sad, or angry (think Dalai Lama).
This is true to a certain degree, but I also want to point out that the rest of us have those “ugly” feelings, so rather than pretend not to have them, acknowledge them. By acknowledge them, I don’t mean shout everything you feel publicly!!! Not at all, but notice them in yourself and instead of fighting against them, let them be.
Trust me, they will go away a lot quicker if you acknowledge and release, than if you fight them. If something is still bugging you, get it out. Journal it (and burn it after if you prefer) or tell a coach, mentor or friend. Make sure this person is open and non-judgmental. Afterward you will feel better and the “negative feeling” (I usually don’t like to label things as “good” or “bad” but that is a whole other blog post…) will take care of itself. Next time you sense jealousy or resentment, or any other feeling that you want to fight and label as bad, ask yourself these questions:
Is this feeling my personal truth at this moment? Is this my authentic self?
If you answer yes, then remember that Truth is Truth, and sometimes authentic is ugly.
If you want to hear other people’s opinions of this topic, sign up for my free Discover Your Authentic Life tele-series at http://www.discoveryourauthenticlife.com I have 11 experts that weigh-in on what it means to be authentic and several of them talking about “truth is truth” in detail. Don’t miss out on this opportunity (it’s time sensitive).
Clear Up Your Space
Everything is energy. You know that. Did you ever stop to think that this also refers to the fact that energy can be stored? Have you ever thought about the energy stored in your home — energy that isn’t necessarily yours? I didn’t until I listened to a video blog by Feng Shui expert, Sheri Ruston (the Flow Doctor) about space clearing.
I have never thought about it before, but there is residual energy in your home and it might be affecting you. Forget ghosts…you can experience this even if you live in a new house (Were you stressed or anxious while building it? Any stressful factors for any of the construction crew?) You can “feel” the energy if you pay attention.
When my husband and I purchased our house 2 years ago, we were excited. But when we moved in, I felt the need to paint everything! I had to remove the essence of the old owners…make the house ours. You can argue that my actions were purely for aesthetic reasons, but I believe differently. And the house has truly become ours. I feel really good when I walk in the door. I look around and feel that the home reflects us. It’s a safe place where I can get away from the world, relax, unwind and have fun with my family.
If you don’t feel that way about your home, take a walk around it and intentionally feel the energy around it. Does one room make you feel cranky? Before I Feng Shui-ed my office, I had an area in it that I didn’t like to be in. I couldn’t write. My computer and the internet would disconnect and lock up. I spent a lot of my time at the kitchen table or in my bedroom (big no- no by the way — no electronics in the bedroom!) because my writing flowed better there. I rearranged some things, banished the bad energy and now I can write freely and my computer works much better.
Have a clean, happy space is one of the most important things you can do to live a more authentic life. It is so difficult to concentrate on things that are important if you have clutter or bad energy flowing through your home!
If you believe that everything is energy, how can you not believe this ?! Listen to my archived show with Sheri on Authentic Self radio and learn even more. http://www.blogtalkradio.com/authentic-self.
Your Story is keeping you unhappy
by Kimberly Englot
Sometimes you hold onto pain, suffering or your victim story out of fear. Who are you if you let this go? You’ve held on so tightly for so long, that is has become your identity. And so to let it go can be frightening.
What will happen if you let it go?
Who will you really be?
It is in this fear and self-doubt that you are more likely to resist being happy, in exchange for your victim story. It is easier to continue with the known evil, instead of exchange it for a possible unknown evil.
I challenge you to replace your “known evil” with the possibility of happiness. Open up your authentic self, take a risk to expose it, and let freedom and happiness be yours. You don’t need to fight it. Just let it be.
Release that victim story, even if you think it defines you. Do you really want that to be your identify? It’s also the main thing keeping you unhappy.
Kimberly Englot is an authentic life coach who teaches her client to uncover their authentic self to be happier, healthier and wealthier. Contact her at her website http://www.kimberlyenglot.com .
