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		<title>Unhappiness is so uncomfortable! So why do so many choose it?</title>
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		<pubDate>Tue, 04 May 2010 19:10:13 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Kimberly Englot</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[I confess. I am a spoiled, rotten brat! Let me explain&#8230; A couple of weeks ago I was irritated for no reason. In fact, I was sitting on the coach and I must have had a serious look on my face because my husband asked what was wrong. And I couldn&#8217;t give him an answer. [...]]]></description>
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<p><span style="font-size: medium;"><span style="color: #000000;"><strong>I confess. I am a spoiled, rotten brat! </strong></span></span></p>
<p><span style="color: #000000;"><span style="font-size: medium;">Let me explain&#8230;<br />
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<p><span style="color: #000000;"><span style="font-size: medium;">A couple of weeks ago I was irritated for no reason. In fact, I was sitting on the coach and I must have had a serious look on my face because my husband asked what was wrong.</span></span></p>
<p><span style="color: #000000;"><span style="font-size: medium;">And I couldn&#8217;t give him an answer. I just said, &#8220;I don&#8217;t know. Nothing&#8230;at all. Nothing happened to day to cause me to feel a bit down. Didn&#8217;t have any unpleasant experiences, no arguments with family, or friends. No catastrophe.&#8221;</span></span></p>
<p><span style="color: #000000;"><span style="font-size: medium;">And then it clicked (and I thought it out loud)</span></span></p>
<blockquote><p><span style="color: #000000;"><span style="font-size: medium;">I&#8217;m so used to being really happy, that when I&#8217;m just so-so, I feel really depressed!</span></span></p>
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<h2>I&#8217;m spoiled rotten with happiness vibes!</h2>
<p><span style="color: #000000;"><span style="font-size: medium;">Do you know what that feels like? Chock it up to being my own fault! A couple of years ago, I didn&#8217;t know what it felt like to feel good, or be happy. So minor depression and anxiety was part of life for me.  In fact, I probably had the opposite problem, where I thought something must be wrong if I was happy! </span></span></p>
<p><span style="color: #000000;"><span style="font-size: medium;">Now, after practice and deliberate focus on feeling good, I&#8217;ve gone and spoiled myself with happiness ! Which means that when I step &#8220;outside the vortex&#8221; (have disconnected from my authentic self, or am feeling a bit blah) I REALLY feel it. </span></span></p>
<p><span style="color: #000000;"><span style="font-size: medium;">It really affects me, where as normal people probably wouldn&#8217;t notice!</span></span></p>
<p><span style="color: #000000;"><span style="font-size: medium;">Now I want you to know that I am NOT complaining. I think this is one of the best things that has ever happened to me! I have moved past the barrier of existing, and am actually conscious and aware and living my life. And it feels really good. </span></span></p>
<p><span style="color: #000000;"><span style="font-size: medium;">Even being &#8220;outside the vortex&#8221; isn&#8217;t that bad, once I reframed it to see how the contrast allows me to be happy. That is, without contrast, you can&#8217;t tell if you&#8217;re happy or not. Which is what I was feelings years ago. So if you don&#8217;t know what it feels like to be happy, there is a major problem!</span></span></p>
<p><span style="color: #000000;"><span style="font-size: medium;">It could have something to do with your life circumstances, your relationships, your job or just a flood of &#8220;bad thinking&#8221; the is holding you there. No more! It&#8217;s uncomfortable AND unnecessary! Why are you choosing this over happiness? </span></span></p>
<p><span style="color: #000000;"><span style="font-size: medium;">Think on that for a while. And if you discover the answer and need some support (or need clarity and an outside perspective possible factors), let me know! With the Life Cleanse over, my schedule has opened up space for individual happiness &amp; harmony boosters (1 hour single sessions with me..at a really insane rate of only $127 (I normally charge $250 per hour, but I&#8217;m feeling generous and this isn&#8217;t about the money for me!)). </span></span></p>
<p><span style="color: #000000;"><span style="font-size: medium;"><span style="color: #000000;">Send me an email and we&#8217;ll get you scheduled in! <a href="kimberly@kimberlyenglot.com " target="_blank">kimberly@kimberlyenglot.com </a></span><br />
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		<title>Your Story is keeping you unhappy</title>
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		<pubDate>Thu, 25 Jun 2009 12:59:35 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Kimberly Englot</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[Unhappiness is caused by pain, suffering or fear. But if you're are holding on to that pain, or suffering because you have wrapped your identity up in them, how can you possibly be happy? What if you let it go....?]]></description>
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<p>by Kimberly Englot</p>
<p>Sometimes you hold onto pain, suffering or your victim story out of fear. Who are you if you let this go? You&#8217;ve held on so tightly for so long, that is has become your identity. And so to let it go can be frightening.</p>
<p>What will happen if you let it go?<br />
Who will you really be?</p>
<p>It is in this fear and self-doubt that you are more likely to resist being happy, in exchange for your victim story. It is easier to continue with the <em>known</em> evil, instead of exchange it for a possible <em>unknown</em> evil.</p>
<p>I challenge you to replace your &#8220;known evil&#8221; with the possibility of happiness. Open up your authentic self, take a risk to expose it, and let freedom and happiness be yours. You don&#8217;t need to fight it. Just let it be.</p>
<p>Release that victim story, even if you think it defines you. Do you really want <em><strong>that</strong></em> to be your identify? It&#8217;s also the main thing keeping you unhappy.</p>
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<p>Kimberly Englot is an authentic life coach who teaches her client to uncover their authentic self to be happier, healthier and wealthier. Contact her at her website <a href="http://www.kimberlyenglot.com">http://www.kimberlyenglot.com</a> .</p>
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