I was thinking today about when I was a kid. I’d fall down and get a gash on my knee, or go flying into the bushes while riding my bike and come out scratched up. Because the body is a miraculous thing, within a day I was well on my way to being healed.

Now if you have a mom anything like my mom, you remember how mom’s know everything. And some of the wise advice my mom shared with me was, “stop picking at it!”

She was right, of course. The more you pick at something, the worse it gets. Eventually it scars and you’re disfigured somewhat, even if it’s in a place where only you can see it.

The exact same is true with life. There is a more eloquent way of putting it, but “Stop picking at it” works really well too.

When there is something bothering you in life, it is tempting to try and force it to go away. So you “pick.” And what happens…it comes back, probably uglier. So you try to ignore it for a while, but eventually you get the urge to “pick at it” again. Finally you can’t help yourself, so you do. And after years of doing this, it scars you. You’re doing it to yourself and it’s unnecessary.

You can avoid the scarring process all together if you remember one thing: “You can only be exactly as you are in the moment.”  This is the eloquent way of saying “don’t pick it.”  You may not like it, but you can only be what you are, at any given time. Sometimes that involves feeling pain or being hurt. Sometimes it means being happy. Either way there is no use fighting it, because that moment cannot possibly be any other way.

You can argue with me. You can come up with all sorts of “alternate universe” or “what if” hypotheses, but guess what…it still is what it is.  And that means the moment is perfect.  No point in fighting it, or picking any longer. AND because everything is perfect, you will heal yourself, if you stop aggravating it and making it worse. (Just like your body heals scratches without you “willing it” to.)

Time to leave your wounds alone. Stop telling the story over and over again. Love the scars you have because they demonstrates how you’ve grown, but you don’t need to pick them anymore.

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by Kimberly Englot

Sometimes you hold onto pain, suffering or your victim story out of fear. Who are you if you let this go? You’ve held on so tightly for so long, that is has become your identity. And so to let it go can be frightening.

What will happen if you let it go?
Who will you really be?

It is in this fear and self-doubt that you are more likely to resist being happy, in exchange for your victim story. It is easier to continue with the known evil, instead of exchange it for a possible unknown evil.

I challenge you to replace your “known evil” with the possibility of happiness. Open up your authentic self, take a risk to expose it, and let freedom and happiness be yours. You don’t need to fight it. Just let it be.

Release that victim story, even if you think it defines you. Do you really want that to be your identify? It’s also the main thing keeping you unhappy.

Kimberly Englot is an authentic life coach who teaches her client to uncover their authentic self to be happier, healthier and wealthier. Contact her at her website http://www.kimberlyenglot.com .